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dzrose93 · #1 10-24-2005, 02:15 PM

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Originally posted by Danshun
I am not dissing greek life, infact I am planning on joining one next year, but to all the single sorority girls.....think.... Look around and you will see that most people your age are engaged. Start thinking about marriage before its to late.

It's never "too late" to get married. Each person should decide for him/herself when the time is right, and they shouldn't feel pressured by anyone to jump into marriage just because a particular birthday is approaching.

Maybe where you live people get engaged earlier than where many of us live. If the majority of your friends feel mature and responsible enough to enter into a marriage in their early twenties, then good for them. I hope it works out. However, there are many people -- Greeks and non-Greeks -- who want to experience life after college as a single person. For their own personal reasons, they aren't ready to tie the knot yet. There's nothing wrong with that.

ETA: I agree with what some other folks have posted regarding the differences between a community college and a larger college. The student demographics are very different for each.

33girl · #2 10-24-2005, 02:19 PM

Did anyone else have a flashback with this post?

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...threadid=71514

dzrose93 · #3 10-24-2005, 02:23 PM

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Originally posted by 33girl
Did anyone else have a flashback with this post?

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...threadid=71514

LOL -- yep.

gpb1874 · #4 10-24-2005, 02:24 PM

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Originally posted by PsychTau2
I think that part of the OP's observation that "everyone" in his/her classes are engaged or otherwise is because this observation is being taken at a community college.

Think about it...most people who go to community college are older students...most are people who have a spouse or kids (or are a single parent). Certainly not all comm. college students fall into this category (a surprising number of them are high school students), but I think it is enough to skew the "results".

A community college isn't a representative example of traditional college age students.

And OF COURSE 20 year old females are thinking about marriage...they are figuring out what rings they like, dresses they want, etc. etc.

PsychTau

wow, you were totally reading my mind! many students at my campus get engaged their senior year of college and usually get married after graduation, a few before. i started dating my now husband freshman year in college and just got married this spring....it was 10 years between the two and we waited for various reasons. good thing too....i don't think we would have survived if we had married earlier, but that story is way too long and personal to share here.

anyways....student composition are completely different at a community college and four-year, as pych-tau mentioned. it is really hard to compare the "typical" student there and at a 4-year.

to the OP, i think you will find it a very different culture when you transfer! not good or bad, just different, and i hope you can appreciate the differences.

Erik P Conard · #5 10-24-2005, 02:35 PM

after 43 years of being married like to a mad sister, I finally got
the little woman to clear the drive with the new red plastic snow
(light, holds more) shovel so's she can take me to the Elks for my
gin game. Got her a red lawnmower, too, push-style-- as she needs the exercise. Sits next to her red chainsaw. The cute red
rototiller matches her other tools. Yep, glad I waited to get hitched. I was a helleva catch, too. Also, finally got the little woman to move the piano from the second floor to the garage. And how'd I do that? I used a whip.
Well, when you decide to settle down, do not take your decision lightly and you will come up with a winner. Cheers!

Lindz928 · #6 10-24-2005, 02:40 PM

I try to remember this when thinking about marriage:

You hear people all the time say that they got married too young. But, I have NEVER once heard someone say that they got married too old.

LightBulb · #7 10-24-2005, 02:49 PM

Good observation, PsychTau.

Whoever said they only knew one person under 25 who got married - dang!

I have a ton of friends getting married as soon as they finish their undergrad (one of them while she was still in school, but her husband has graduated). Though all of these have been non-Greeks... (though a lot of my Greek friends from Memphis who've graduated are in serious relationships and may get engaged soon IMO)

I think it's different in different parts of the country. My co-worker from this summer said she was considered an old maid when she hadn't married by 18

(she's still not married - she's 42 now - she's from a small country town).

dzrose93 · #8 10-24-2005, 02:52 PM

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Originally posted by LightBulb
My co-worker from this summer said she was considered an old maid when she hadn't married by 18 (she's still not married - she's 42 now - she's from a small country town).

One of my college boyfriends has family members in Utah who are Mormons. He went to visit them over Christmas break one year and all of his cousins were shocked to learn that he wasn't married yet -- at the ripe old age of 19!

LightBulb · #9 10-24-2005, 02:56 PM

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Originally posted by dzrose93
One of my college boyfriends has family members in Utah who are Mormons. He went to visit them over Christmas break one year and all of his cousins were shocked to learn that he wasn't married yet -- at the ripe old age of 19!

Lol, isn't that funny? I had classmates who graduated high school at 19!

Sister Havana · #10 10-24-2005, 03:39 PM

I'm 32 and single. I'm not even dating anyone. Does that mean I have to wear the big red S (for SPINSTER)?

AlphaFrog · #11 10-24-2005, 03:43 PM

I'm 22 and I married and I know I'm way too young to be married. I think of myself as unusual in that regard. I'm not planning on ever getting divorced, but I can say that I would have done things different looking back.

KSigkid · #12 10-24-2005, 03:52 PM

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Originally posted by AlphaFrog
I'm 22 and I married and I know I'm way too young to be married. I think of myself as unusual in that regard. I'm not planning on ever getting divorced, but I can say that I would have done things different looking back.

It really does depend on the person. My wife and I are 24 and just got married this summer; honestly, from an emotional standpoint, we were ready at least a year ago. There are some 22 year olds who are ready, and there are some 50 year olds who aren't ready. It depends completely on the person.

sugar and spice · #13 10-24-2005, 03:56 PM

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Originally posted by LightBulb

Whoever said they only knew one person under 25 who got married - dang!

To be fair, one of my sorority sisters (age 24) just got married a couple weeks ago, but I didn't include her because I figure two weeks is really not long enough to gauge the relationship's long-term viability . . . it would skew the sample. ;-)

In my opinion, marrying young is usually a product of one of two things:

1) religious views
2) growing up in a small town, especially one where people don't move away and don't go to college.

Almost all of my friends went to college, and none of them are exceptionally religious. And of my friends who are engaged right now, all of them are small-town (sometimes transplanted from small towns, but still) and religious.

ETA: And by "young," I mean under 22 or 23 . . . I don't think that, say, 25 is freakishly young.

ejbiff · #14 10-24-2005, 04:00 PM

At 17, you usually have a sheltered view of the world. You usually don't have much experience when it comes to relationships or the real world in general. I went to comm. college for awhile and I was certainly not the only one who was single. Yes, I had a lot of people in different classes who were married, but more of my classmates were single. When I transferred to Eastern Michigan, I found more and more people to be single, even at older ages. Yes, I now have quite a few classmates who have gotten married or are getting married, but there a good number of us who are still single.
I wasn't ready to get married at a young age, and neither were a lot of my friends. I'm 24 and am still not 100% ready for that commitment. A lot of my close sorority friends are single. We enjoy our time in college. We may be looking for that long term relationship, but at the same time we're looking to enjoy ourselves. I just got out of a 4 1/2 year relationship- everyone though we were going to get married. We started dating when we were 20 and we've changed so much since then that our relationship wasn't working any longer. Your 20's are the time to grow and find yourself as a person, in my opinion. Get into the real world first, then think about marriage.
To be 17 and think you're ready for marriage, in my opinion, you're nuts. You probably haven't lived on your own, tried to support yourself, or even had a real job. More power to you if you want to get married at such a young age, but it's a lot more work than it seems.

PM_Mama00 · #15 10-24-2005, 04:30 PM

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Originally posted by 33girl
Did anyone else have a flashback with this post?

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...threadid=71514

Lol yeeeeah I was reading through this thread and waiting till someone said something.