How NOT to act

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by sirfratalot

Like I said earlier, these pledges are often mentally, physically, and emotionally abused.

Well, there's a fabulously intelligent thing to post on a message board.

[sirfratalot]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Well, there's a fabulously intelligent thing to post on a message board.

shut up. My chapter has no hazing whatsoever. .but that isn't the case for everyone.

[trideltrockstar]

Do you have a Sober Sister program? This might be something worth discussing, so every sister understands exactly what to do in case someone needs help or if there is an emergency. The Sober Sister program (preferably about 2 or 3 sisters at each party) has worked very well for my chapter, and I would recommend instituting such a program if you don't have one already.

[KDMafia]

I like the idea of a skit, we always do one during our new member program when describing to the new members what to wear with their pin or to meetins or out to parties. They enjoy it and the sisters who have the "wrong" attire really love to come up with the craziest or sluttiest outfits they can find.

So maybe just have a person having a good time vs a person who you know you would all laugh at if you saw her at a party.
I don't know if anyone here watches family guy at all but the image of wrong i have is of during the stewie movie. Lois is drunk and falls forward and starts wiggling her a$$ in the air yelling, "Hey Peter!! GET ON!!" it's hilarous and is definitely an example of wrong behavior

[honeychile]

In a show of poor fashion choices, there's a LOT of normally non-slutty attire that becomes nasty looking after a few drinks. I'm thinking about the wrap-around top or dress, the one sleeved formal, the low cut jeans that look fine - until you sit down, t-shirts that don't feel tight until they "accidentally" get wet, etc. It would be good to show how to avoid or fix these disasters.

And I'm with Pam - drinks in cups should be served in cups slightly larger than Dixie Cups! You should always be able to just leave it or lose it quickly.

BetaRulz gives some REALLY good ideas about what to do if the police arrive, and if there's an emergency (plumbing or otherwise) at a party. One thing I would add is that if a door is closed, and you hear a woman screaming & crying, get a guy to go in with you - do NOT try to stop violent behavior on your own!

Oh, and unless you're being paid to do so, never, ever dance on the furniture! That goes for your own house/suite/whatever, too!

[AchtungBaby80]

Originally posted by honeychile
In a show of poor fashion choices, there's a LOT of normally non-slutty attire that becomes nasty looking after a few drinks.

Oh, gosh, yes! Apparently there are quite a few people who don't think to wear clothes that are "drunk proof" when they go out--i.e. we should always make sure that our shirt isn't cut low enough that our bra (or worse) might be on display if we happen to bend over, that our strappy tank tops will stay where they belong if we are moving around, stuff like that. Even though an outfit might look cute standing still, that's no guarantee you won't be putting on a show when you've had a few and aren't being as careful. Like, I have a miniskirt that is absolutely adorable, but I don't wear it very often because it tends to sort of ride up as I walk...

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

1. Don't drink at an official event if you're underage. It doesn't make you cool.
2. Just because you have reached your 21st birthday doesn't mean you need to get drunk at all possible times.
3. Don't bring a date that you know will cart around an alcoholic pacifier or will arrive trashed.
4. You are responsible for your date.
5. Dress appropriately. (Learn how to tastefully show skin.)
6. You can have fun, but don't do anything that you think your parents would kill you for.
7. Respect the venue of the event, especially if it isn't yours.
8. Follow all rules the sorority sets, and make sure your date does as well.
9. Arrive and leave with sisters.
10. Make sure that someone sober is driving.
11. Don't bring a camera if you know you'll be doing something you aren't supposed to be doing.
12. PUT IT IN A CUP. 21 or not.

It's all common sense and they should know it. The best thing to say is to remind them that they represent their sisters and their sisters represent them. Behave accordingly.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by winneythepooh7
*Do not hook up with 2 frat boys at once. They will NOT be discreet about it, and yes, you will be embarassed about it, as will your sisters at a later date.

How on earth did I miss this?! And why oh why does it even have to be discussed?!?!?!?!?


AchtungBaby80, thanks! I feel that, if I know what color and/or type of panties or bra you have on, you're committing a fashion "don't"!!! And let's not forgot what a friend we have in Static Guard!

[NutBrnHair]

I'm sure I'm in the minority with this "rule to live by," but I'll share anyway!

An alumnae advisor advised us never to be photographed with a drink in our hand. Even if it's a soft drink. Put down the cup/glass/can before the picture is made.

Originally posted by NutBrnHair
I'm sure I'm in the minority with this "rule to live by," but I'll share anyway!

An alumnae advisor advised us never to be photographed with a drink in our hand. Even if it's a soft drink. Put down the cup/glass/can before the picture is made.

Totally agree...it's probably because I grew up with a mother who said the same thing. Her reasoning was -- if you don't take pictures with plates of food in your hand, why in the world would you want to take a picture with a cup/glass/can/bottle?

[xoheatherxo]

if an older member of your chapter tells you that you have had enough to drink and that they found you a ride home, you should probably listen to them and go! it usually means youre doing something that you think is fine at the moment, but will be embarrased by when you sober up! or it means that someone at the party mentioned to them that you needed to go and you sisters/brothers are being nice by getting you a ride home without making a scene!

[honeychile]

Originally posted by NutBrnHair
I'm sure I'm in the minority with this "rule to live by," but I'll share anyway!

An alumnae advisor advised us never to be photographed with a drink in our hand. Even if it's a soft drink. Put down the cup/glass/can before the picture is made.

No, NutBrnHair, you're certainly not alone. We were told the same thing by our Advisors!

OTW, I never thought of that angle, but it makes sense, too. I know that, unless it's something special that I've just cooked/baked, I've never let my picture be taken with food.

Obviously, my GDI-ex didn't know this "rule", as the best picture we have of the two of us together, he has the perennial brew in his hand!

[Little E]

My best one is arrive together, leave together. Go as a group and then at the end of the night leave together. If someone needs to leave (or be taken home) early, they should check out with someone so you always know where everyone is. If you just HAVE to go home with Joe Schmo, go to your room, change your clothes and wear something more discrete than your weekend party clothes, that way when you do they walk of shame (not that any sorority girl would ) you look a bit less trashy. If he doesn't want you after you change, well that gives you a good idea.

I think it is also important to listen to your friends/sisters when they tell you 'no'. Stomping off and doing who knows what in XYZ chapter room is not the answer. Some part of you needs the mechanism to, no matter how inebreiated, listen and trust your friends.

I'm all about the no drinks in the picture. Everyone has a back, put your hand behind your back at the very least.

[Little E]

Originally posted by trideltrockstar
Do you have a Sober Sister program? This might be something worth discussing, so every sister understands exactly what to do in case someone needs help or if there is an emergency. The Sober Sister program (preferably about 2 or 3 sisters at each party) has worked very well for my chapter, and I would recommend instituting such a program if you don't have one already.

Check with your HQ to see ifyou are allowed to do this. Some insurance policies/companies (not sure of the term there) won't allow the chapter to sponosor these for liability issues. Your HQ (Risk Managemnet Coordinator or whomever) can advise you on this though, and if you are allowed to do it, would help you set it up.

[AchtungBaby80]

Originally posted by Little E
My best one is arrive together, leave together. Go as a group and then at the end of the night leave together. If someone needs to leave (or be taken home) early, they should check out with someone so you always know where everyone is. If you just HAVE to go home with Joe Schmo, go to your room, change your clothes and wear something more discrete than your weekend party clothes, that way when you do they walk of shame (not that any sorority girl would ) you look a bit less trashy.

Yes, yes, yes! A sorority sister of mine (who is now a former friend, I might add) used to have this little habit of leaving me at parties...even if I wasn't drunk, I still had no way home 'cause she was my ride! It caused some problems, and I would suggest to anyone that please, for the love of whatever, go home with the people you came with. It's not cool to run off and leave people, even if your boyfriend wants you to.

And yes, going home to change before you shack is a good idea. Once I went to a guy friend's room after a Halloween party and we decided to watch a movie, which put me to sleep. I woke up the next morning still in my big poufy white "murdered prom queen" costume and that's what I had to walk back to my sorority house in. It was totally embarrassing. To make matters worse, I didn't have my keys with me and I had to ring the doorbell for someone to come let me in...needless to say, I couldn't just use the excuse that I'd been to Wal-Mart or somewhere.