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12-07-2000, 07:47 PM
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Originally posted by prettypoodle6:
Midwestdiva:
I'm with you! I am 24 and never cheated on my man.... If I'm not happy, I'll just leave. I wont stay and cheat, whats the point?
But back to the question though, I once dated someone who had a girl. I knew it was wrong (cause I would not want a woman seeing my man and she KNEW about me) but my mentality at the time was "I dont have any loyalties to her, so if he doesnt care then why should I?"
Now that I have a few more years behind me and know what I really want out of a relationship, I wouldnt do it again. If your male friend is thinking about breaking up with his girl THEN HE NEEDS DO IT!!! And no matter how we try to justify it (what if we we're friends first... what if he's THINKING of breaking up with her...), cheating is wrong. It's damaging to all parties involved. Finish the last chapter completely before moving on to then next book.....
That's just my personal opinion.
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Aight check it...Number one "People in glass houses shouldn't thow stones." Meaning you already said you've talked to a guy knowing he had a girl.
Number two, by saying we were friends first and by saying they're going to break up was for conversational purposes only. But people didn't really feedback on that...Just spent a majority of the time talking about how they never cheated. Which I find incomprehensible.
Number three, by talking to a guy that you knew had a girl...yes you've cheated. You cheated on yourself.
I tell you what some broads kill me. Trying to justify things knowing that they've been through it themselves. I know that as you get older you get wiser, but sometimes people lose touch with reality(gullible.)
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12-07-2000, 10:08 PM
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Pretty Squeaky,
I think it would serve you to learn tact.
At any rate, I am not interested in playing games. In my opinion, if there is no trust in a relationship, there may as well be no relationship. Trust is a 2 way street; if I expect him to be trustworthy, then I should also be trustworthy. I don't know how you equate trustworthiness with being a doormat, but I'll move on.
I understand that young people tend to act impulsively. When I was younger, I would break up with someone just because I saw something that I thought looked better. But now that I am older it really is time to put childish things away. When thoughts of cheating cross my mind, it's time for me to reevaluate the relationship. Why do I want to cheat? Is my man not satisfying me sexually? Do we not have common interests? How much time have I invested in the relationship? Is a roll in the hay with some other guy worth losing the one I have? Is this relationship making me miserable? Is my man Mr. Right, or just Mr. Right Now?
Cheating on my man isn't going to solve any of the above mentioned problems. If he finds out about it, our problems will only get worse. The only way to solve those problems is to address them. If the problems can't be resolved then it is probably best to move on.
And on a final note, I can't tell you how many married or otherwise unavailable men approach me. They always have some justification for their actions. But the bottom line is there is no reason to cheat. There are however, many excuses.
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12-07-2000, 10:17 PM
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Originally posted by MIDWESTDIVA:
Pretty Squeaky,
I think it would serve you to learn tact.
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I've noticed you have a serious problem when people voice there opinions that's different from yours.
That's a place to be tactful and this isn't the place-this a place of freedom of expression, a message board. You need to seriously chill.
And if the term broad offended anybody. I'm from the dirty south and I'm not going to apologize for my slang termniology and like I said "some broads." So if the shoe fits.
And so basically from your last post I see that you've cheated. You justified it by breaking up with the guy first. And on that note I'm out. Whateva yo.
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12-08-2000, 12:05 AM
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Originally posted by PrettySqueaky:
I've noticed you have a serious problem when people voice there opinions that's different from yours.
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I don't have a "problem" when people disagree with me. I like to debate, so therefore I need people to disagree with me. There is a certain Que that disagrees with everything I say, but he is ALWAYS tactful.
And you aren't the only one that has noticed things.
I noticed that a certain thread was removed in the A Phi A forum when you decided to educate an Alpha interest that Sigma Pi Phi was really the first BGLO. I wonder why that thread disappeared?
I also noticed that certain interests in the Ladies Seeking Sisterhood forum mentioned that they had been pursuing membership for 10 years. You response was this:
"Ten years. Have you been in school that long?......To me it just seems like you're sitting back waiting for something to be handed to you without getting out there and working for yourself."  Then they both very tactfully explained to you that seeking membership on the graduate level can be very difficult. Especially for one sorority in particular.
Suggesting that someone you don't even know is sitting on their butt? Hell, that goes beyond tactlessness, that was downright rude. Mind you neither of these examples has anything to do with me as I have not been trying to gain membership for 10 years and I am not an Alpha.
I'm not suggesting that you learn tact to spare my feelings, as my feelings aren't hurt. Professionally speaking, learning how to be tactful will help you a lot.
Have a great day
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"Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching." (Satchel Paige)
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12-08-2000, 01:01 AM
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and trust me I'm always having a great day. By the way your little comment about a que that's always tact...well that was irrelevant. You could have said someone not a que. Because he's a que that makes it better huh? I seriously don't have time to "debate" this topic of tact back in forth with you. Because from the messages you posted so far you contradict yourself.
And on that note I'm through with the tact discussion...You can email me personally rather than waste the board's space.
[This message has been edited by PrettySqueaky (edited December 08, 2000).]
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12-08-2000, 06:51 PM
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LOL  All of this smart talk from someone who has an epiphany while watching the Facts of Life. May wonders never cease.
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12-08-2000, 07:16 PM
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MIDWESTDIVA and prettypoodle6, you two are speaking the truth, and I have respect for you. I am a 21 year old woman who has never cheated on anyone, I would rather walk away from the relationship, then to cause unnecessary pain, and I know how to keep it real, cause if you were keeping it real one would not be cheating in the first place.
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12-08-2000, 07:19 PM
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Originally posted by PrettySqueaky:
Aight check it...Number one "People in glass houses shouldn't thow stones." Meaning you already said you've talked to a guy knowing he had a girl.
Number two, by saying we were friends first and by saying they're going to break up was for conversational purposes only. But people didn't really feedback on that...Just spent a majority of the time talking about how they never cheated. Which I find incomprehensible.
Number three, by talking to a guy that you knew had a girl...yes you've cheated. You cheated on yourself.
I tell you what some broads kill me. Trying to justify things knowing that they've been through it themselves. I know that as you get older you get wiser, but sometimes people lose touch with reality(gullible.)
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When I started my message, I said I never cheated on MY MAN, and that's real!
Now as far as cheating on myself, well I guess we have different ideas of cheating. I didnt cheat ON myself by talking to someone that already has a girl, but I will agree that I cheated MYSELF by settling for second best.
Now your OG question was "would you date a guy if you knew he already had a girl?" I put my situation on blast not to try to JUSTIFY anything - but to say "been there, done that, and will NEVER do it again".
From reading your posts, I get the sense that YOU are the one thats looking for justification for what you are involved (or about to be involved) in. You put the question out there... so you cant get mad when folks dont give you the response your looking for.......
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