Do you want kids? - Page 2

RedRoseSAI · #1 05-05-2005, 04:17 PM

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Originally posted by MysticCat81
Just one thought -- when the cashier said "So, is it going to be a good mother's day for you?", do you think its possible he or she didn't necessarily assume you're a mom but thought you might be visiting your own mom or something like that?

That's what I thought at first, but between me saying "I'm not a mother" and the soccer mom's input. He laughed and said "Oh sorry, I though maybe you had kids."

abaici · #2 05-05-2005, 04:19 PM

I want at least 3 children. I cannot think of a more important job.

I admit, I do not understand people who do not want kids. But, I realize I'm coming from a different place. However, I pray that people who do not WANT children, do not have them.

WCUAXID · #3 05-05-2005, 04:20 PM

OH MY GOSH!!! No, that is not at all what I ment, I was only talking about myself and no one else!! I know that you can be happy at 29, married ,great job ,etc and not want children, nor did I mean to imply that you are in college. I was only talking about me and how I was when I was in college. Sorry if I was a bit unclear, but I did say when I was in college in my first post. Heck I'm in my 30's and just now ready to start thinking about starting a family next year.(And even than it might get pushed back,who knows!!)

RedRoseSAI · #4 05-05-2005, 04:24 PM

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Originally posted by abaici
I admit, I do not understand people who do not want kids. But, I realize I'm coming from a different place.

Would you mind elaborating? I'm intrigued to hear the other side.

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Originally posted by WCUAXID
OH MY GOSH!!! No, that is not at all what I ment, I was only talking about myself and no one else!!

That was the other interpretation I had of your post. Thanks for clarifying.

bcdphie · #5 05-05-2005, 04:27 PM

I want children one day, but not right now. I certainly do not judge those who never want children or want them later in life. Of course, there will be some people who will never understand that not everyone thinks like them or wants to be like them.

WCUAXID · #6 05-05-2005, 04:27 PM

Hey no problem, glad I could clear that up!! I can see how it could be taken the wrong way though.

#7 05-05-2005, 04:30 PM

Nope, you're a horrible person.

JUST KIDDING. I understand why some people dont want kids, but I do, 3-4 maybe.

valkyrie · #8 05-05-2005, 04:30 PM

I have never, ever wanted to have kids and I will never have kids. Mr. valkyrie and I have occasional discussions about who will get fixed. The desire to have children is just something that baffles me -- I do not have it, nor have I ever.

The Truth · #9 05-05-2005, 04:32 PM

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Originally posted by abaici
However, I pray that people who do not WANT children, do not have them.

See that is where prevention comes into place. The individual just has to take the necessary precautions. I realize that it maybe hard to understand why some people don't want kids, but it is a little harder to understand people who have kids and treat them like they don't want them.

The people who know already and are active in preventing it from happening, are the parents you won't hear about chopping off their children's head, biting off their son's penis, pushing their car with children in the lake, and abandoning their children. For me the reason behind them doing all that is harder to understand, than someone saying "I don't want children".

AGDee · #10 05-05-2005, 04:34 PM

I love being a mother and believe that it's the best thing that I could have ever done with my life. I always wanted kids and I'm thrilled that I had them, especially the two that I have, who bring me laughter and joy so much of the time.

That said, it's the toughest job you'll ever love (not the army!) and if you don't want kids, you absolutely SHOULD NOT have kids, because it's hard, even when it's great and it's a lifetime committment. Your kids become your number 1 priority, far above everything else and they have to be!

Dee

MysticCat · #11 05-05-2005, 04:49 PM

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Originally posted by RedRoseSAI
That's what I thought at first, but between me saying "I'm not a mother" and the soccer mom's input. He laughed and said "Oh sorry, I though maybe you had kids."

Yeah. Just a thought, but obviously not.

Maybe he thought the tissues and cough drops were for the endless runny noses in houses with kids. (There -- I just talked you into wanting kids, didn't I?

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MysticCat · #12 05-05-2005, 04:50 PM

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Originally posted by abaici
I want at least 3 children. I cannot think of a more important job.

Which, of course, is why people shouldn't apply for the job unless they really want it.

And they shouldn't be criticized if they don't want it, either.

RedRoseSAI · #13 05-05-2005, 04:52 PM

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Originally posted by AGDee
I love being a mother and believe that it's the best thing that I could have ever done with my life.

Why's that?

ms_gwyn · #14 05-05-2005, 04:52 PM

I will first say that I am a bundle of contradictions, but I can't do anything about it and I works for me (sometimes)

that being said...I don't want kids, I really don't like them....well that is not true...I don't like the kids that aren't "mine" (my family and I love those children with all my heart and soul), because I don't think people are giving their kids "home training", which I think that you need.

I will say that there is some fear in my reasoning, because basically the day that you find out that you are pregnant, until the day you die, there will always be that "worry" (lack of a better term), I really can't imagine opening myself up like that and being that vulnerable. There is also that "fear" that they would turn out like me, I was hell on wheels during my younger years (my parents say that I wasn't that bad), but believe me, I pulled some stunts on them.....

If, (and its a very BIG if) I ever have kids, I will raise them like I was raised and discipline them like I was disciplined and l have names.

I have a timetable of the marriage and kids and as that timetable keeps shrinking, I really don't think that these two events will happen. I still hope to get married, but kids are really not an option.

My mother has accepted this fact from both of her daughters and my father; I really don't think he cares; besides he has my younger sister (she's 12).

So in conclusion, I don't want kids, but if (a HUGE IF) I do have them, ok and I will be a great mom (but not a soccer mom, A FOOTBALL MOM), I have a great example to follow.

KillarneyRose · #15 05-05-2005, 05:09 PM

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Originally posted by RedRoseSAI

The person behind me (whose appearance DID say "I'm a soccer mom!") says, very antagonistically, "What's so 'ugh' about having children???"

You should have told her, "I'm worried my ass will get fat like yours."

I love my kids and I love being a mom but that's just me. Shame on people who try to make others feel ashamed because they don't want children. It is a personal decision.