a serious question - Page 2

SapphireSphinx9 · #16 03-23-2005, 04:31 PM

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Originally posted by DSTCHAOS
If someone is going through ***membership intake*** for an organization and decides not to complete this process, this person is not a member if this person is not duly inducted.

While that is generally unnacceptable in NPHC organizations, especially given the timelines for membership intake, there are some instances where that person is accepted and inducted into another organization.

Sometimes the second organization of choice does not know the person had pursued another organization first. When that organization finds out, the person may be viewed differently or not.

Thank you for answering that for me.

ThaBrickHouse · #17 03-23-2005, 07:44 PM

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Originally posted by gillman
nphc

HA! I would'nt take you

Tom Earp · #18 03-23-2005, 08:00 PM

Nice answer!

If the fit for you is not there, it may very well be with another GLO.

Many times if not most, The Best Foot is put forward, but when it gets down to it, things change.

This is a give and take situation from both sides isnt it?

Please disreagard some smart and smug posts. No respect is being shown, is it?

Not everyone is exactly alike so dont try to cookie cut Associating.

ladygreek · #19 03-23-2005, 08:04 PM

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Originally posted by keji_2
If I were you, i would leave it alone. Im sure the Greek community at your school knows your story. IMO no one is going to MIP you after you walked away from the other situation after only 4 days.

If you did it to one, whatever your reason, why should the new sorority trust that you would do it to them?

Good advice.

AKA_Monet · #20 03-23-2005, 08:04 PM

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Originally posted by gillman
I was four days into the pledging process with one specific African-american sorority. I thought I like these girls at first but while in the process I noticed that these were girls that I did not want to call sisters.

Expelled much?

ThaBrickHouse · #21 03-23-2005, 11:25 PM

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Originally posted by Tom Earp
Nice answer!

If the fit for you is not there, it may very well be with another GLO.

Many times if not most, The Best Foot is put forward, but when it gets down to it, things change. This is a give and take situation from both sides isnt it?

Please disreagard some smart and smug posts. No respect is being shown, is it?

Not everyone is exactly alike so dont try to cookie cut Associating.

NPHC accepted your org into the conference? If the answer is NO then you are giving homegirl some messed up advise.

I still wouldn't vote on you

starang21 · #22 03-23-2005, 11:27 PM

lol

33girl · #23 03-23-2005, 11:52 PM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Expelled much?

dang, LOL

ladygreek · #24 03-24-2005, 12:38 AM

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Originally posted by DSTCHAOS
If someone is going through ***membership intake*** for an organization and decides not to complete this process, this person is not a member if this person is not duly inducted.

While that is generally unnacceptable in NPHC organizations, especially given the timelines for membership intake, there are some instances where that person is accepted and inducted into another organization.

Sometimes the second organization of choice does not know the person had pursued another organization first. When that organization finds out, the person may be viewed differently or not.

Actually, this use to happen. Two people very close to me started pledging one org, decided it was not for them and eventually went another org.

BUT this was back in the day when a major purpose of pledging was to determine if their was a fit on BOTH sides.

It was not unusual for a depledging to occur--either initiated by the pledge or by the chapter. Shoot, I lost 10 LSs within the first 2 weeks.

PrettyGirl03 · #25 03-24-2005, 12:55 AM

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Originally posted by gillman
I pledged a sorority that I thought was going to be the bomb and it wasnt. On the fourth day I decided that I was going to drop. Is it to late to join another sorority?

You shouldn't humiliate yourself or another organization by showing interest in it, and then dropping it because your heart wasn't in it. That's why it's important to research organizations PRIOR to joining them. No one likes a flip flopper. Look at where that got John Kerry.

WCUgirl · #26 03-24-2005, 01:24 AM

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Originally posted by PrettyGirl03
No one likes a flip flopper. Look at where that got John Kerry.

Somewhere, in Vegas, Rudey is beaming with pride.

skajeff · #27 03-24-2005, 02:36 AM

My reply to your question::

Yeah, I cannot comment on whether you can or not because I'm not in an NPHC, but I depledged half-way through last semester due to numerous reasons, and I am now pledging my fraternity for life.

Four days into pledgeship is pretty quick and pretty disrespectful, in my opinion. Maybe you should give it more thought before you make such a decision. I laid out a very intricate de-pledge process and at the end, we were both on positive terms. I spoke to my Greek Life Advisor at our school as well as other advisors within student life organizations(those who are Greek). Even a representative of my past fraternity came out as I was depledging and I had a four hour discussion about the chapter and what was good vs. what went wrong. I had to make sure that I covered all my bases. Everything went smoothly and in the end, was a success.

I still hang out and talk to my old fraternity, brothers and alumni, no hard feelings there.

Make sure you are really wanting to depledge.. and list pros and cons to make sure you have enough to actually commit to de-pledging. Make sure you've been there long enough to make this decision with care. It's a BIG step and you do not want to burn bridges.

Make sure the next one you look at is the one you definately want to choose. Right now, if you are definately into trying to join a GLO, go out there and start talking to any other organizations you want to join, have lunch with the presidents, try to reach out and explain your situation. Get out there and show you want to still be in a GLO.

I did what I've told you and through what I did differently I found the fraternity that I am joining for life!

This is how I attacked the situation, PM me if you want to go into more depth.

Jeff
Proud Associate Member of Lambda Chi Alpha

*edited to correct content of the post*

ThaBrickHouse · #28 03-24-2005, 03:12 AM

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Originally posted by ladygreek
Shoot, I lost 10 LSs within the first 2 weeks.

I don't know why, but that was funny!

keji_2 · #29 03-24-2005, 10:17 AM

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Originally posted by ThaBrickHouse
NPHC accepted your org into the conference? If the answer is NO then you are giving homegirl some messed up advise.

cosign

Little E · #30 03-24-2005, 12:23 PM

Try to stick it out longer if you can.
Because it sounds like NPHC is not an option for you if you quit, I'd look at either locals, multi-cultural or NPC orgs if you still want to be greek. National groups will be your best bet for after college interaction.
Good Luck