People asking you when you're going to have kids - Page 2

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #1 03-09-2005, 03:03 PM

When I broke my foot I gained a bunch of weight. This post office clerk squinted at my stomach, patted her own, and said, "Are you getting fat around the middle?"

I was so surprised I didn't even know what to say, other than, "I am getting fat around the middle, but no, I'm not pregnant." Then she told me about her son's wife's pregnancy. In detail.

hahaha. Then I started using an exercise bike until my cast came off. Thanks post office lady.

RedRoseSAI · #2 03-09-2005, 05:28 PM

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Originally posted by EEKappa
And isn't it amazing that some people feel it's perfectly okay to put their hands on the stomach of a pregnant woman they don't know?

YES! I can't believe people do that. IF I'm ever pregnant and someone does that to me, I think I'll need to do it back to them, just so they can see how inapprorpiate it is.

Anyway, Mr RedRose and I have been married for 2 years and have no immediate plans for children. Really, I don't like kids. Surprisingly, no one has asked when we're planning to have any.

AKA_Monet · #3 03-09-2005, 06:45 PM

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Originally posted by Rudey
Hey I just like my ladies all pregnant and barefoot.

It's just a matter of preference you see.

-Rudey

Rudey, with all the game skillz you got and the "green" issue with your quivering member, your frog princesses will have plenty of tadpoles for you that will crumbsnatch your global investment funds, Roths and life insurance policies... I am so sure you are ready to be "Father of the YEAR"!!!!

YAY for the Rudester!!! He's pregnant!!!

AKA_Monet · #4 03-09-2005, 06:51 PM

I want kids, but my Mr. AKA_Monet does not right now... He's freaking out... But, I will not press him because in reality, neither of us can afford it even though I am over 35...

However, after watching the drama unfold between my brother, my SIL and their kid along with my parents... Whewhoo... I really suggest thoroughly discussing to your S/O EVERY detail about having kids... 'Cuz you cain't send them back--ever... And your time is NEVER you own again--they OWN your azz foreva!!! And if you have already gotten the parental threat of: "yeah we'll take care of the kid, and give it all he needs--and when it's time to go home--we'll send 'em home..."

So I dunno what to say to parents that ask, "when will you have kids?" or if you gain half a pound--and get asked, "are you expecting?" I guess I just smile a say, "no" and try to let it go... But it does drive me to drink copious amounts of alcohol...

Jill1228 · #5 03-10-2005, 05:12 AM

Oh yeah....that question!
I got it when the ink was barely dry on the marriage certificate.
Mr. 1228 has a kid from a previous marriage and we plan on having one.

The funny thing is the folx who have been sweating me are my cousins who got knocked up at 16 and have a few kids with a couple of different baby daddies.

Them: When are you having kids?
Me: When the time is right for US.
Them: Well it is never a right time so you might as well go on and do it.
Me: I will get back to you...I will even call you as we are conceiving

Whatever! The right time is when you are are damn good amd ready in ALL aspects

There are times when I wanted to lay the smackdown on folx. Thankfully our mothers have been cool and not dumb enough to ask

abaici · #6 03-10-2005, 06:23 AM

I ran into a high school friend I hadn't seen in over 10 years. When he asked me if I was married or had children, I WENT OFF ON HIM! LOL!!! I then asked if HE was married and had children.

I usually don't react to that question in that manner. He caught on a bad day. Poor thing. LOL!!

carnation · #7 03-10-2005, 08:35 AM

If the can't ask when you're going to have kids, people will always find something nosy to ask. Right after my husband and I got married, people immediately began to ask when we were going to start our family, probably bc we were older. Then after our family began to grow quickly, they asked if we knew what caused it or if we knew how to stop. (Offensive to us because our kids are intelligent, caring, high-achieving, and well-behaved.) We liked to reply that conceiving them was so much fun that we didn't want to stop.

winneythepooh7 · #8 03-10-2005, 08:44 AM

Yup, I have been dating my boyfriend not even a year yet and we hear this all the time. In fact, his 16-year-old sister told him that "it would be the best Sweet 16 present if she could become an aunt". UMMMMM WTF?!!!!!!!! I can barely afford to pay my rent, car and school loans let alone a baby, and hello, I am not married to your brother.......Also I am the only one on my team at work that doesn't have kids yet. I always feel excluded every morning when my co-workers are talking about the recent drama from the day before with their kids/grandkids. Not that I am complaining really but they are always like "You'll understand when you have kids one day, and just hope that you don't have a damn girl..........."

Rudey · #9 03-11-2005, 12:28 AM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Rudey, with all the game skillz you got and the "green" issue with your quivering member, your frog princesses will have plenty of tadpoles for you that will crumbsnatch your global investment funds, Roths and life insurance policies... I am so sure you are ready to be "Father of the YEAR"!!!!

YAY for the Rudester!!! He's pregnant!!!

If I become a father this year, I hope a bus takes my face off and I live in the desert with scorpions as my friend.

-Rudey
--Who am I kidding? I'd just say it's not mine and not pay a dime!

AKA_Monet · #10 03-11-2005, 08:44 PM

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Originally posted by Rudey
If I become a father this year, I hope a bus takes my face off and I live in the desert with scorpions as my friend.

-Rudey
--Who am I kidding? I'd just say it's not mine and not pay a dime!

Dude, your little horny toads will be ribbiting upto you and you cannot deny them one cent!!!

You'd be cute with a little green apron and a baby buggy...

BetteDavisEyes · #11 03-13-2005, 01:19 PM

I know this question. I'm engaged & had to endure the "When are you getting married?" question left & right. Well, we're still 9 months away from the wedding & now inconsiderate rude morons are asking if we're going to start right away on our honeymoon. I just tell them that we will have kids if and when we feel the time is right. Unfortunately, his over-eager cousin got knocked up on her wedding night & is now having a 2nd child barely 3 years after her wedding so she does the majority of the asking. I just smirk & say that when we have kids, we'll do it so that WE can afford to feed & clothe our children rather than depend on our parents for food, rent, clothes, & bills. That is sadly her situation & it's something I will not do to either of our parents. I just feel that if you're married but your parents are footing the bill for everything b/c you just can't afford it, then you shouldn't be getting married or having kids.
Off the soapbox now.

Jill1228 · #12 03-13-2005, 01:28 PM

I feel ya girl! I don't want our families (or worse welfare) footing the bill for our kids.

We footed the wedding bill ourselves. Main reason, we had a way we wanted it...our wedding our way....you want YOU PAY

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Originally posted by BetteDavisEyes
WE can afford to feed & clothe our children rather than depend on our parents for food, rent, clothes, & bills. That is sadly her situation & it's something I will not do to either of our parents. I just feel that if you're married but your parents are footing the bill for everything b/c you just can't afford it, then you shouldn't be getting married or having kids.
Off the soapbox now. [/B]

JennRN · #13 03-14-2005, 06:53 AM

Uggh, I hate this question. The Mr. and I just got home from visiting family and we got this alot. When I inform people that I don't want kids, they say, oh-you'll change your mind! Ok thanks-you obviously know what I want better than I do, so I'm not sure why I answered the question. Or, I hear, when your 30 you'll change your mind. I'm sorry, but 30 isn't a magical number that on my bday I will wake up and demand my husband to impregnate me. No thanks. People don't listen when you say you don't want kids. And it drives me crazy!! The Mr. finally said, next time someone asks you that burst into tears and scream, we're trying but we just can't!! That would make people quit asking that question pretty fast.

BetteDavisEyes · #14 03-14-2005, 11:25 AM

That's a damn good answer! I'm going to start saying that one after our I Do's when the pack of nosy people start asking.

aephi alum · #15 03-14-2005, 11:56 AM

JennRN - hahaha I love your husband's suggestion!

I know that "you'll change your mind" line well. There are a lot of doctors who will not perform tubal ligations on women under 30 or 35 because "they'll change their minds".