Ex-boyfriend confusion - Page 2

#16 08-06-2004, 11:00 AM

thanks all for the advice. after hearing more from him yesterday during the day and hearing a bunch of B.S. that just killed me to hear........i'm DONE!

'No man is worth your tears and the one who is - won't make you cry!'

Its not worth the heartaches and stress to put up with this. He told me yesterday, "You haven't lost me yet, its not that easy." Whatever...i never asked if i had lost him. I never said I wanted him back!

Texas*Princess, yes i have seen that movie! It is a great movie!!!

texas*princess · #17 08-06-2004, 01:20 PM

peanuttu, I'm glad you're putting your foot down and letting this poor, pathetic fool know that you're not going to deal with his BS anymore!!!

A lot of ppl just give in and let the dorks toy with their affections all over again.

At the risk of sounding very retro, "YOU GO GIRL!"

hehehe

#18 08-06-2004, 01:23 PM

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Originally posted by texas*princess

peanuttu, I'm glad you're putting your foot down and letting this poor, pathetic fool know that you're not going to deal with his BS anymore!!!

A lot of ppl just give in and let the dorks toy with their affections all over again.

At the risk of sounding very retro, "YOU GO GIRL!"

hehehe

thanks girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!

IowaStatePhiPsi · #19 08-06-2004, 05:05 PM

peanut- most boys aint worth it.
Join me in my quest for Bitter world domination.

XOMichelle · #20 08-06-2004, 05:31 PM

My ex is doing the same thing. "But we are friends right?" He'll say. Riiiight! Problem is I keep falling for it (4 times now). I want to tell you to not call him back at all for at least another month. In doing so, I shall follow my own advice!

#21 08-06-2004, 05:36 PM

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Originally posted by XOMichelle
My ex is doing the same thing. "But we are friends right?" He'll say. Riiiight! Problem is I keep falling for it (4 times now). I want to tell you to not call him back at all for at least another month. In doing so, I shall follow my own advice!

I hear ya!! I've been telling myself the same thing....not to call him or answer the phone/text messages.

That is what my ex said to me, 'No matter what happens b/w us, we can still be friends, right?' I want to be his friend and I couldn't tell him that I can't be his friend. Being his friend and hearing about other girls is the hard part. I don't think he would like it if the tables were turned. The hard part is keeping the distance and contact from him right now.

texas*princess · #22 08-06-2004, 06:04 PM

Whenever I'm in a breakup situation, my bestest friend in the whole wide world (who is a guy) told me that if I EVER feel like calling the Ex, to call him [the best friend] instead. No matter what time, day, or where he may be!

And it's always helped

#23 08-06-2004, 06:09 PM

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Originally posted by texas*princess
Whenever I'm in a breakup situation, my bestest friend in the whole wide world (who is a guy) told me that if I EVER feel like calling the Ex, to call him [the best friend] instead. No matter what time, day, or where he may be!

And it's always helped

definitely.........i've got 2 younger brothers who are pretty damn protective of me. calling them always helps and gives me a good laugh to hear them talk the way they do.

mu_agd · #24 08-06-2004, 07:04 PM

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Originally posted by XOMichelle
My ex is doing the same thing. "But we are friends right?" He'll say. Riiiight! Problem is I keep falling for it (4 times now). I want to tell you to not call him back at all for at least another month. In doing so, I shall follow my own advice!

my situation like that has been going on for about a year now. i always do good with the not calling or emailing him, but when he does then i fall right back into that trap.

#25 08-06-2004, 07:35 PM

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Originally posted by mu_agd
my situation like that has been going on for about a year now. i always do good with the not calling or emailing him, but when he does then i fall right back into that trap.

that's what I don't want to happen. unfortunately, its easier said than done!

the break up prior this one was similar but him and i've gotten past all of this and do communicate via email (and talk about everything, including relationships w/other people).

AKA_Monet · #26 08-06-2004, 07:42 PM

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Originally posted by peanutttu
So I get a text message at 12:45am this morning from my ex. He broke things off with me about 3 weeks ago. This is the first contact we have had since breaking up. His text message was in reference to an email I had sent his roommate (a girl whom i'm friends with). In his text he asked for me to call him, so I did. Why? I don't know....

We talked for 2 hours about everything and clarified a few things. The break up came out of nowhere and it took me by complete shock. He says he misses me and what not and he thinks of me often. He never said the exact words- 'I want us to get back together.' - but he would not get off the phone with me. He kept calling me babe and sweetie. I have no beef with him nor am I enemies with him.

He had a party this past saturday and he said the he had hoped that I was going to show up. Why in the hell I would show up to my ex-boyfriends party, I have no idea?!?!

I guess I'm just confused and not really sure what to think of all of this!

Let him go totally... He needs to get out of sandbox if he cannot play properly...

I like your attitude already in handling this type of break up. To be so young and so positive is a good thing. I wish I thought like you about this kind of stuff when I was your age...

The fact that he is saying stuff, per your statements, that "You haven't lost me yet, its not that easy." bothers me immensely because those are the beginning signs of a "possessiveness" that may lead to "domestic violence"...

If he was tryin' to be a player and dumped you without provacation--I don't care how much stress he thinks you caused him and there is NO EXPLANATION for that--then he whines to get back up with you... No honey, he has more issues than you are equiped to handle... Are you a psychiatrist?

mu_agd · #27 08-06-2004, 07:58 PM

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Originally posted by peanutttu
that's what I don't want to happen. unfortunately, its easier said than done! the break up prior this one was similar but him and i've gotten past all of this and do communicate via email (and talk about everything, including relationships w/other people).

it's definitely easier said then done.. sometimes it's really hard to hear people tell you to just move on and get over it, b/c even though you know you should and need to, it's hard. we've gotten more and more distant lately, but i'm still supposed to se him next weekend for something that was planned awhile ago and i'm definitely nervous about that.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #28 08-06-2004, 08:13 PM

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Originally posted by XOMichelle
My ex is doing the same thing. "But we are friends right?" He'll say. Riiiight! Problem is I keep falling for it (4 times now). I want to tell you to not call him back at all for at least another month. In doing so, I shall follow my own advice!

I shall as well.............

#29 08-06-2004, 08:24 PM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Let him go totally... He needs to get out of sandbox if he cannot play properly...

I like your attitude already in handling this type of break up. To be so young and so positive is a good thing. I wish I thought like you about this kind of stuff when I was your age...

The fact that he is saying stuff, per your statements, that "You haven't lost me yet, its not that easy." bothers me immensely because those are the beginning signs of a "possessiveness" that may lead to "domestic violence"...

If he was tryin' to be a player and dumped you without provacation--I don't care how much stress he thinks you caused him and there is NO EXPLANATION for that--then he whines to get back up with you... No honey, he has more issues than you are equiped to handle... Are you a psychiatrist?

Thanks! I am a very optimistic person and I guess that is where my positive attitude stems from.

The "possessiveness"....I'm not concerned about that. I think the context of his comment was more towards the fact that I was sad to see him with someone else. He knows that I've been out with other guys as well. I've seen "possessiveness" and how it leads to domestic violence....this guy by no means would ever do that. (I'm not just being nieve....)

LOL!! No, I'm not a psychiatrist by any means! He does have a lot of issues and I guess that's where the 'I want to be his friend' comes into play. Its like I feel obilgated to listen and talk to him about everything. I can handle most of it....except for when it comes to other girls (one specifically that i know). He's got a confused soul....

Love sucks sometimes and its hard to get over, but ya just gotta suck it up and move on. One day he'll realize what he lost and he'll be sorry!

AKA_Monet · #30 08-06-2004, 08:31 PM

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Originally posted by peanutttu
I was sad to see him with someone else. He knows that I've been out with other guys as well.

Love sucks sometimes and its hard to get over, but ya just gotta suck it up and move on. One day he'll realize what he lost and he'll be sorry!

Well, did he get all mushy and gushy before or after he saw you with other guys?

If he got all mushy-gushy after he saw you with other guys, then why does he got to be paging you at 12 AMish?

A man respects your time and gives you the time that you need...

It sounds like he's hatin' the player but not the game...