Meeting an Online Date - Page 2

winneythepooh7 · #16 07-07-2004, 06:52 AM

OK i have an interesting thing to add to this thread:

Over the 4th of July weekend I met this guy who is a friend of the guy I am dating. He looked really familiar but I couldn't place him. Well after we all hung out the guy I was dating was describing his friend that looked really familiar to me. It hit me then that this kid was someone who had been calling me from match.com awhile ago (i never went out with him though cuz he wasn't my type). I confessed to my new boy about my month of loserness (just kidding) where I decided to try match and how I knew his friend. Well we decided to go on match to look up his profile. We went on and found about 3 of his other friends on there, 2 of which my new boy said have girlfriends that are long-term. So the moral of the story ladies is BE CAREFUL!!!!! PEOPLE ARE NOT ALWAYS WHAT THEY SEEM ON THESE SITES!!!!!!

Professor · #17 07-07-2004, 12:50 PM

As a man that has been around the block more than I care to admit, I am saddened to learn of folk that result to these measures. This on-line dating stuff almost never works out. I think folk have just as much success on their on as opposed to the inter-net. Men lie - Women lie - she says she looks like dirty kim, sorry, little kim but really looks like big kim - -- he says he plays football, well maybe in high school 10 years ago but he has not worked out since graduation.

As I have often said, men and women will find the right mate when he or she is most happy with him or herself. Stop looking and work on yourself. When you are whole that special person will come and he will be sent by God not a dot com.

And for all the ladies, I'm taken by Tude, Mrs. Jones and Constance

NinjaPoodle · #18 06-27-2007, 03:38 PM

Quote:

As a man that has been around the block more than I care to admit, I am saddened to learn of folk that result to these measures. This on-line dating stuff almost never works out. I think folk have just as much success on there on as opposed to the inter-net. Men lie - Women lie

They can lie anywhere. And are you talking about people in general or just us black folk?

Professor · #19 06-27-2007, 03:47 PM

Please accept my apology! I did not realize that I was writing for an academic Nonetheless, I don't support on-line dating for anyone.

Quote:

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

They can lie anywhere. And are you talking about people in general or just us black folk?

kathykd2005 · #20 06-27-2007, 03:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Professor

Please accept my apology! I did not realize that I was writing for an academic Nonetheless, I don't support on-line dating for anyone.

Crash--> Sorry I had to do it. I have to argue that online dating can and does work out. Look at all of those people from silly commercials. And--I happened to have been in an "online" relationship, and we have been together for six years, and now married for two. Not to say a person shouldn't be careful--they definitely SHOULD.

Professor · #21 06-27-2007, 04:05 PM

I am glad to learn that the relationship worked out for you. Will you share your experience? If so, how many individuals did you meet via the service prior to meeting Mr. Right.

People that I am familiar with have told me time and time again of how they are supposed to meet someone that is “x” feet tall and weighs “x” pounds only to find out the measurements were not correct. Additionally, I'm told that many men state that they are looking for a committed relationship but really just want an intimate relationship. Ultimately, the decision is an individual choice.
Personally, and I know this is not always the case, I think folk that use these services don't have what it takes to attract what he or she may be looking for in a mate - - - but then again, I always say that you never know where you will find love!

Quote:

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

Crash--> Sorry I had to do it. I have to argue that online dating can and does work out. Look at all of those people from silly commercials. And--I happened to have been in an "online" relationship, and we have been together for six years, and now married for two. Not to say a person shouldn't be careful--they definitely SHOULD.

treblk · #22 06-27-2007, 04:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Professor

I am glad to learn that the relationship worked out for you. Will you share your experience? If so, how many individuals did you meet via the service prior to meeting Mr. Right.

People that I am familiar with have told me time and time again of how they are supposed to meet someone that is “x” feet tall and weighs “x” pounds only to find out the measurements were not correct. Additionally, I'm told that many men state that they are looking for a committed relationship but really just want an intimate relationship. Ultimately, the decision is an individual choice.
Personally, and I know this is not always the case, I think folk that use these services don't have what it takes to attract what he or she may be looking for in a mate - - - but then again, I always say that you never know where you will find love!

I think on-line dating can work and for some, has worked. I know a few people that have met and married the people they met on line, and I know some that it just didn't work for. I believe that living in this technological advanced age, on-line dating is just another manifistation of the times.

OneTimeSBX · #23 06-27-2007, 04:16 PM

i did it once YEARS ago, there was a guy who knew a classmate of mines and saw my pic and im'd me. he was nice enough on the phone, we talked for months before we actually met, it never worked out but he was really a nice guy, just not for me.

id trust the internet more than a chat line though...google is your friend

NinjaPoodle · #24 06-27-2007, 04:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by treblk

I believe that living in this technological advanced age, on-line dating is just another manifistation of the times.

I agree with this.

Boom_Quack13 · #25 06-27-2007, 04:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Professor

I am glad to learn that the relationship worked out for you. Will you share your experience? If so, how many individuals did you meet via the service prior to meeting Mr. Right.

People that I am familiar with have told me time and time again of how they are supposed to meet someone that is “x” feet tall and weighs “x” pounds only to find out the measurements were not correct. Additionally, I'm told that many men state that they are looking for a committed relationship but really just want an intimate relationship. Ultimately, the decision is an individual choice.
Personally, and I know this is not always the case, I think folk that use these services don't have what it takes to attract what he or she may be looking for in a mate - - - but then again, I always say that you never know where you will find love!

My brother and sister-in-law met through yahoo personals. They have a beautiful love story. I doubted online dating, until it worked for them. They are now married, and HOPEFULLY working on giving me a niece/nephew.

DC_Zeta1920 · #26 06-27-2007, 06:18 PM

Well, I can honestly say that I've done the online thing before, through Blackplanet, and guess what, we're married. I guess it did help that we lived in the same neighborhood and had the same acquaintances except we didn't know each other. I know of three other couples that have met online and two are married and the other, well they will be next year.

Anyway, the internet is just another tool for people to interact. One could argue that people can portray themselves as something they are not only for it to come out in the end, but, you can meet people in the club, school, on the street, at a bar, wherever, and they do that. In essence, no matter how you meet someone, you still can't be naive.

delph998 · #27 06-27-2007, 10:23 PM

^^ That's beatiful, DCZeta.

I have quite a few coworkers that have dated online and are married or are soon to be married. Modern technology.

kathykd2005 · #28 06-28-2007, 12:33 AM

Crashing again because Professor asked me to

--
I agree with those that say that the internet is just another form of interaction. My husband and I communicated via the internet for months before we met, and like every one said, you need to make sure you are safe (and this goes for r/t meetings, too). True, people can lie about who they are, but you can also look at it another way--sometimes, since you don't see the person, you can truly fall in love with who they are on the INSIDE.

christiangirl · #29 06-28-2007, 05:14 AM

I have dated 2 guys I met online--mind you, I'm a youngin', so by "online" I mean facebook and myspace.

Mr. FB turned out to be a RUFF RUFF DOG.

We talked for a couple weeks after he "approached" me, then met because our schools were close to each other. We talked everyday for 2 months and were definitley "more than friends" when I found out about his fiancee (on Valentine's Day, by the way). Don't know if they're still together, one of my friends turned out to know one of the fiancee's friends and it all got back to her. I swore I'd never date a man off the net again, but Mr. MS caught me off guard.

Mr. MS was actually very decent. I used to work in a security office, so I ran a mini-background check on him. He was totally legit and everything he told me about himself checked out. Only then (after about a month), did I agree to meet him for a movie. We went for a walk around the plaza afterward, hit it off, and ended up dating for about 4 or 5 months (ALWAYS in public places). It didn't work out, but it was worth it; it was a good reminder that there are some good men out there; I'd almost forgotten. So just be careful and don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. The net is fishy, but you might find a good catch.

lovehaiku84 · #30 06-28-2007, 10:31 AM

I met my current beau (of about a year and a half) via Yahoo Personals. At first I was kind of wary about trying online dating, but since I had met a bunch of cads at school, through friends, etc. I figured why not try something different? I still don't really understand why so many people continue to look down on online dating, as if those who go this route are inherently more likely to be dishonest about who they are/what they are about. In all dating situations I think that it is important to be safe/smart because the cute person that you meet in the bookstore or wherever is, in my opinion, just as likely to be a liar, psycho, etc. as a person that you meet via the internet.

Just my .02 cents.