Cheating Defined

[adpialumcsuc]

Like preciousjeni, I have a very strict idea of cheating. However, I don't think that porn falls into mine.
One of my ex-boyfriends tried to convince me that he hadn't cheated on my because I was in another city. We broke up before I found out, but I realized that he broke up with me because he knew I would find out.

[James]

This is a really good definition. You guys should reexamine it.

It especially applies to anyone that is in a really long relationship.

If people find themselves doing this, it shows that there is a lack in their own long term relationship.

ITs usually a good sign to move on because the other person isn't meeting enough of the needs someone needs met by their significant other.

I call them surrogate relationships. Relationships that are substitutes for a encompassing romantic relationship. The Best Friend when you are single.

Or the a supplementary relationship, where you develop it to compensate for what is lacking, excitement, closeness whatever.

ITs a sign to make a move.

Originally posted by sororitygirl2
Allowing anyone who you may or may not be, but could eventually be, sexually interested in become closer to you than your your girlfriend/boyfriend/partner - emotionally or physically.

[IowaStatePhiPsi]

Originally posted by valkyrie
I would say any physical contact that goes beyond what you'd do with a friend -- kissing or more.

Agreed.

I once ended a relationship because I felt there was a high chance of me cheating and I did not want me cheating to be the reason the relationship ended (it was an odd ending).

[lyrica9]

now what kind of kissing?
i think on the cheek and 'friend pecks' are ok.
but if it's inspired by more than saying bye to a friend, then there are problems.
i'm jumping on valkyrie's bandwagon, people still have cyber/phone sex?!

oh, and i don't think look at porn is cheating. if anything, it's a blessing, because it gets him to leave me the hell alone.

[James]

Technical cheating would be anything that could be determined as romantic contact with someone you are interested in or is interested in you. At least it will appear that way to the person watching.

[kwazi19]

what would you guys do if it were the girl who cheated on you and by cheating - kissing or more...

[KSig RC]

Originally posted by kwazi19
what would you guys do if it were the girl who cheated on you and by cheating - kissing or more...

um, what would i do if my girlfriend cheated on me?



























let's go with, "break up with her"?

[kappaloo]

I agree with valkyrie's definition.

But I think there can be emotional cheating. I'm not talking about crushes on other people... it's hard to explain. I think it's possible to get too close to another person while in a relationship. To depend on them like you should depend on your lover. But it's only really detectable by the person doing it. Because only they know what's in their head.

[XOMichelle]

I think what really matters is how you and your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife feel about the situation afterward. Are you going to make it work or aren't you? People make mistakes, and this is one that happens all the time.