Pinning girlfriends? Opinions....

[Optimist Prime]

Originally posted by DeltAlum
I don't think anyone considered getting pinned "giving away your letters." It was more like sharing something very important to you with someone who was also very important to you.

In a more crass case, it was also kind of a status thing when one of the hottest women on campus was seen wearing your brother's or your badge. That was especially true when she wore it next to her pin from the "coolest" sorority on campus.

Well, I said it was crass -- at least the second paragraph.

I could be really wrong, but I have a feeling that when I was young "things" were more geared toward the romantic. My kids ran more in "groups" for dates, while in the 60's it was more one-on-one. There were things like "going steady" as well.

But, I could be wrong. Just the way it seems to me.

I agree with this. Would also like to add that I think it should go lavaleir (letters on a necklace, no shirt), and then if its really serious, give her your pledge pin/exchanging pledge pins (if she's a sorority girl) would be cool, because that's like your pledging your love to each other. I think only dreamgirls (sweethearts/little sisters/etc.) shoul recieve letter t shirts, unless the girl in question is a wife, fiance, sister, or mother to a Brother.

[thermobryan]

Originally posted by AlphaFrog
I think it's a sweet gesture for the girl...

BUT...Active hazing is STILL hazing.....

It's called brotherly love!

[AchtungBaby80]

We didn't pin at my school, so maybe that's why I'm not a big fan. I have my own lovely lamp to wear; I don't want a boyfriend's pin. I'd feel weird about wearing a fraternity pin anyway, since obviously I wouldn't be a member.

What we did at my school was, guys would lavalier girls. I think lavaliering is great, but if I were ever lavaliered, I would proudly wear the lavalier but probably not letter shirts or anything. Here, a girl is entitled to wear the letters of the fraternity as well, but, well...I've got my own letters.

I like the idea behind pinning, though. The pledge pin thing is an interesting idea.

[SapphireSphinx9]

I like the idea of pinning... It's a very romantic gesture to someone you love...

I wish my boyfriend was a greek!

[KSigkid]

Originally posted by James
I agree. Why would you give away your letters like that? You are not wearing her letters are you?

No, and I think the fact that my fiancee is an Alpha Phi made her understand my whole rationale. Her letters mean something special to her, and as she put it, "Why would I want your letters if I have my own?"

I can see other people's reasons for doing it...but it never was something I wanted to do. It has nothing to do with my feelings for my significant other...just my own beliefs.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by thermobryan
It's called brotherly love!

You better hope Pike HQ feels the same way.

Several of my chapter sisters are pinned (mostly to SigEps, but also a SigTau) and none of the guys got hazed afterwards...it was like a big happy lovefest.

[AXOKatie]

Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
You better hope Pike HQ feels the same way.

Several of my chapter sisters are pinned (mostly to SigEps, but also a SigTau) and none of the guys got hazed afterwards...it was like a big happy lovefest.

You mean hazing that anyone knows about.....

LOL, sorry GeekyPenguin, but that was the first thing that came to mind, i don't mean any bad feelings

i agree with SapphireSphinx9, i wish my boyfriend were greek because i think lavaliering/pinning is sweet....but a lot of hard work for the girls at my school because the girl pretty much has to be loved/adored/candidate for sweetheart of the decade, by all members of the brotherhood so that they can trust that she won't throw his pin in the crim dell when they have a tiff.

[thermobryan]

Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
You better hope Pike HQ feels the same way.

Don't worry about it and shut your mouths.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by thermobryan
Don't worry about it and shut your mouths.

I'm not worried, my chapter doesn't haze. Headquarters do read GC though.

[thermobryan]

good...and mind your own business....

[The_Nash]

damn, someone's a little testy

[thermobryan]

Originally posted by The_Nash
damn, someone's a little testy

Damn straight....It's a tradition to mess with the guy after he pins his girl, dont give me that hazing crap....

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by thermobryan
Damn straight....It's a tradition to mess with the guy after he pins his girl, dont give me that hazing crap....

This is funny because Pike definitely wouldn't approve of that.

[nyrdrms]

I'm not sure that fraternities at my school pin girlfriends, but I do know that they lavalier...they also give sweetheart status, but that's another story...

One of the fraternities here requires a majority vote, 3/4 actually, when a brother wants to lavalier his girlfriend. The other requirements are that the couple has to have been together for at least one year and each brother can only lavalier one girl in his entire life (with the exception of engagements, which are automatic lavalier).

Personally, I like this format of lavaliering because it shows that not only does the boyfriend care about his letters and about his girlfriend, but that the brothers support their relationship and also have a say in who can and cannot wear their letters....after all, the letters mean something to the rest of the brothers as well.

[thermobryan]

Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
This is funny because Pike definitely wouldn't approve of that.

What does Pi Kappa Alpha mean? Oh yeah, u dont know, shut youre fat mouth!

Oh and are you a Pike? NOPE! You dont know how things go, so shut your mouth.....