Need Help!!: Nightmare Monster(Baby)-Sitting - Page 2

Peaches-n-Cream · #16 06-05-2004, 07:43 PM

"No!" is a complete sentence. Know it. Learn it. Live it. Especially when these 4 children are involved.

ADPiShannan · #17 06-05-2004, 08:38 PM

Calls Social Services. Plain and simple. Tell them you dont want to leave a name but tell them all about the situation. Maybe make it seem like you are a neighbor and see all this. That way you can continue to act like you know nothing when they come and they will get the help they deserve. It is NOT right for these children to be treated this way. They are being abused, it may not be physically, but they arent even getting the proper medical care. Give me their name, Ill call SS on them. Its simple, its not right what happening to them and it shouldnt be your problem. Its not fair to you as you are pregnant and you dont need this stress. It can seriously harm your baby if you dont watch it. If you wont call SS on them, quit. If you dont, you are at a risk to lose your baby with all thats going on. I know other mothers who are under less stress than you and very strong women who take good care of themselves who have lost their babies so please be careful. You need to look out for the baby and yourself before its too late. Plus you dont deserve or need all that crap. You are pretty much doing it for nothing. I would def tell your dr all of it and have him write you a note saying you are not allowed to babysit anymore. I know you dont want to cause problems with you and your bf, but someone has to look out for those kids and it seems you are the only sane person there. Please try to do the right thing for everyone.

Jill1228 · #18 06-05-2004, 11:26 PM

No way would I babysit "Bay-bay's kids"! Ya gots to tell her no and definitely report her to CPS for neglect

AlphaFrog · #19 06-07-2004, 02:34 PM

More Drama

BUT I'm pretty sure I've got up the nerve to quit now....but for you soap-opera fans, it's still interesting reading...I think the title of this thread needs to be changed to Trailer Trash of Our Lives or As the Trailer-Trash Turns...

So basiclly she came home yesterday and the house was a mess (what else is new) and she told me that it is my fault because I don't get on them enough...

I started 45 minutes before hand and annouced they have 45 min to get the house clean before we went and picked up the mom...and annouced again at 30 min., 20 min, 10 min., and 5 min....I can't do much more then that besides physically making them do it...and then I might as well just clean the house myself and there's NO WAY that's happing...she doesn't pay me enough to watch the kids, let alone clean her house too.

Then she sat there and counted her money in front of me....$75 in just tips, not counting the $3.50/hour salary...now I do have to say that this is an exceptional day and usually it's more like $35...but then she paid me...$20 for 7 hours....and let me know that I'd have to be there at 5 am the next morning (today).

Ok, so today...she called me to remind me, and then came over to remind me...and I had to drive my bf to work (BTW, yes he is daddy and very concerned about his baby-to-be) at 11 and I'm borrowing my aunt's truck that only seats 3 because I just bought a washer and dryer, so another neighbor lady was going to be watching them at 10:30 so I could take him to work. And then she called me an hour later to remind me to take them to the neighbor's (like I was going to forget...I take my bf to work everyday). 3 things happened today that made me want to spit nails...

1. I went to make them breakfast and there was only 3 cearal bowls clean...she keeps the soap locked in her room because otherwise the kids will pour it down the drain...so I thought maybe I'd just wipe out with the dishrag one of the bowls they used yesterday for cearal (which were still sitting in the sink half full of cearal...not exactly the most healthy thing, but I though "what else can I do"?) I grabbed for the dishrag...it felt like a piece of raw meat...slimey and greasy and it smelled like it was rotting...and then I noticed the ants crawling all over the sink...(she says she has ant problems but it's not cause she's dirty, it's because the kids are always leaving sweet things around.....I'm sorry, but I spilled some sugar on my counter that I keep forgetting to clean up and I haven't seen one single ant.)

2.The kids asked why they couldn't go with to take Uncle Ernesto to work because they usually do...I explained that I have a truck that only seats 3 people and that would be 6 people and the 7-year old said "Oh, ok, and mommy said you're not allowed to use our van anymore"...this is the first I've heard of this and if that's what she really said I think I should have heard it from her, not her 7-yo kid. I think it's because yesterday it was making noises, but it's probably from being driven up and down our bumpy road...it's probably the shocks...and there's NO WAY for $3 or less I'm using my car and my gas to drag her kids around (dropping off my bf is one thing, but I use her van to pick up her husband and other things like that).

3. When I took them to the neighbor lady I told her that the mom said she needed to watch them at their house. The lady said that she had discussed it with the mom and they will be at her house and she would have them for the rest of the day (because I was under the impression that I was supposed to come back and get them after I dropped off my bf)...all stuff the mom should have told me...not the neighbor lady...

YES....I REALLY, REALLY want to call DCFS, buit I just know she'll figure out it was me...and she's the kind of trailer trash that would come pick a fight with me while I'm pregnant.

Lady Pi Phi · #20 06-07-2004, 02:53 PM

Please, pleas, PLEASE quit!!

My god! I want to guit for you!
This is far too much for you to handle. She doesn't leave you proper instructions, she plays you nothing, and she expects you to be her servant.
This woman makes me so angry and I don't even know her!
Next time she calls you and tells you to do something for her, say NO! Say no, you're not "working" for her anymore, you're not taking care or her Satan's spawn, and that's that. Hang up the phone.

Kevin · #21 06-07-2004, 03:05 PM

Take her on Springer.

AlphaFrog · #22 06-07-2004, 03:10 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by ktsnake
Take her on Springer.

Is that even still on????

No....I really want to know because that's a good idea....

NOT!

I have WAY too much class to be seen on national TV with her....

AOII*Azra-elle · #23 06-07-2004, 04:03 PM

DFS takes these claims to heart and even if you give your name they cannot by law tell her who called them...unless it goes to court then your name would be brought up. Talk to her and tell her she doesn't pay you enough to clean her house and take care of her brats, and so you are quitting! The stress is not healthy..trust me, medication for maintaining stress levels is very expensive! It also affects your heart, and your health, not to mention your unborn childs health. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel and what is going on, then call DFS on her, and then sit back and relax. Even if she is related to your man by marriage it is not your responsibility to take care of her brats, and deal with her marital problems. So what if her husband is a doormat, he needs to grow some balls and grow up! This woman sounds like a psycho...getting mad b/c he won't adopt her children. Sounds like she needs to keep her legs closed..anyways. I hope you do what's best for you, b/c your health is all you have, keep it and don't let people destroy it!

AlphaFrog · #24 06-08-2004, 02:46 PM

Well, it looks like I don't even have to quit...

My mom's going in for knee sugery and will be in the hospital for five days and then I'm sure she'll need help at home, and she won't be able to drive for 8 weeks, so I'll have to be her personal chaffuer...and she lives in North Carolina...so it look's like I'm taking a trip south for awhile....or if I can convince the bf, we'll be moving to the south soon...Charlotte, here I come...and once I'm safe in another state...Hello? DCFS?

Kevin · #25 06-08-2004, 03:42 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by AlphaFrog
Well, it looks like I don't even have to quit...

My mom's going in for knee sugery and will be in the hospital for five days and then I'm sure she'll need help at home, and she won't be able to drive for 8 weeks, so I'll have to be her personal chaffuer...and she lives in North Carolina...so it look's like I'm taking a trip south for awhile....or if I can convince the bf, we'll be moving to the south soon...Charlotte, here I come...and once I'm safe in another state...Hello? DCFS?

Geez.. it sounds like you're the designated 'go-to' person in your family. I hope you enjoy getting away from them all. It can sometimes be a drawback to be the responsible one.

pixell · #26 06-08-2004, 04:17 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by AlphaFrog
Well, it looks like I don't even have to quit...

My mom's going in for knee sugery and will be in the hospital for five days and then I'm sure she'll need help at home, and she won't be able to drive for 8 weeks, so I'll have to be her personal chaffuer...and she lives in North Carolina...so it look's like I'm taking a trip south for awhile....or if I can convince the bf, we'll be moving to the south soon...Charlotte, here I come...and once I'm safe in another state...Hello? DCFS?

I'm sorry about your mother's surgery, I hope she gets better soon! Definitely use it as an easy way out of your job! I hope you move to Charlotte, it's a fun area. GOOD LUCK! And DEFINITELY call DCFS on her!

AlphaFrog · #27 06-21-2004, 12:57 PM

One last addition as I compleate my last week of duties...(I'm watching the two youngest one more time, the two oldest are at Grandma's...gee I wonder why she didn't want ALL of them

) The kids have FLEAS!!! AND, they don't even have any pets... (they had a cat about a month ago, but she finally got rid of it after the kids almost killed it several times) That is definatly the last straw, I'm calling DCFS.....

Lady Pi Phi · #28 06-21-2004, 01:01 PM

God for you!

The most important thing is the welfare of the children.

pixell · #29 06-21-2004, 01:24 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by AlphaFrog
One last addition as I compleate my last week of duties...(I'm watching the two youngest one more time, the two oldest are at Grandma's...gee I wonder why she didn't want ALL of them ) The kids have FLEAS!!! AND, they don't even have any pets... (they had a cat about a month ago, but she finally got rid of it after the kids almost killed it several times) That is definatly the last straw, I'm calling DCFS.....

Oh my god!

I'm so glad you decided to call DCFS, I don't know what's wrong with their family but those kids deserve so much more! I understand that a lot of families can't provide their children with everything..but there's no excuse for the child playing in the road or for the children to have fleas!

I'm sorry you had to go through this but remember you're doing the best thing for the children!
Make sure to keep us posted on what happens because we'll all be worried about the kids!

PS. I *love* the names you've selected for your baby (especially the girl's!)

AlphaFrog · #30 06-21-2004, 01:34 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by pixell
PS. I *love* the names you've selected for your baby (especially the girl's!)

Thank you!

They are actually the Hispanic forms of my parent's names
Mom-Marianne (has no middle name)
Dad- John Rodney (Rodney is his uncle's name, Pedro is the name of one of the baby's uncles, family tradtion)