[Poll] Hon etc...

[WCUgirl]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose
Same as decadence on this one. Mais je suis une femme.

English please?

[navane]

Originally posted by ktsnake
Et vous etes un 'brit', non?

In the US, I have a feeling I'd get bitch slapped if I used that phrase in casual conversation with women. Must be different on the other side of the Atlantic.

Just as a point, in Britain - Bristol, England to be specific - I was routinely called "luv" ( as in, a cab driver saying, "Where to, luv?") and "babber" ( as in, "Awlrite me babber?" )

luv = love

babber = baby/friend

Awlrite me babber = Hey, how's it going? ("Alright my friend?")

Heh, if you all are having this much trouble with "hon" and "sweetie," you haven't seen the world.

I luved liven in Bristle, I did. Tho, mauve yer in Californiawl now. I luved me those cabbies; them blokes is mint. When I wonna lern the krekt waiter's peak Brissle, I ast them, I does. Them smart innum?

Whas fink of ee then me babber?



.....Kelly

[KillarneyRose]

Originally posted by AXiD670
English please?

Sorry; it just means that I'm a girl

[WCUgirl]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose
Sorry; it just means that I'm a girl

Thanks. I only took 6 years of Spanish, but nothing else. I assumed femme was related to female somehow, but we all know what assuming does.

[sororitygirl2]

It's all situational, but for the most part, I don't mind terms of endearment being used casually - unless you can tell it is in a patronizing, mean-spirited way... In which case, my reply would be "F**k you, sweetie!"

[kddani]

If it's someone I don't know, or if the context is clear (like if something bad happened "oh sweetie" is okay), then they're fine.

But if it's from someone I don't know or don't really get along with or if the context is unclear, it can annoy me. Sometimes they can come off as patronizing.

I use the term "hon" a lot IRL, but only to people I know and that I know it doesn't annoy...

[Kevin]

Originally posted by navane
Just as a point, in Britain - Bristol, England to be specific - I was routinely called "luv" ( as in, a cab driver saying, "Where to, luv?") and "babber" ( as in, "Awlrite me babber?" )

luv = love

babber = baby/friend

Awlrite me babber = Hey, how's it going? ("Alright my friend?")

Heh, if you all are having this much trouble with "hon" and "sweetie," you haven't seen the world.

I luved liven in Bristle, I did. Tho, mauve yer in Californiawl now. I luved me those cabbies; them blokes is mint. When I wonna lern the krekt waiter's peak Brissle, I ast them, I does. Them smart innum?

Whas fink of ee then me babber?



.....Kelly

I've been around.

I'm just saying that where decadance lives (and you corroborate this), things like "sweetie", etc. are commonly used.

Where I am, in Oklahoma, at least in my circles, it is considered something that you'd use condescendingly.

[justamom]

It's ALL about "tone" for me.

[navane]

Originally posted by ktsnake
I've been around.

I'm just saying that where decadance lives (and you corroborate this), things like "sweetie", etc. are commonly used.

Where I am, in Oklahoma, at least in my circles, it is considered something that you'd use condescendingly.

I wasn't trying to disagree with you; I was only trying to be informative about the different kinds of terms found in different places!


.....Kelly

[Glitter650]

as long as it's not being used in a patronizing way... there's a lot worse things someone one could call me IMO

[veemers]

I'm not offended. If someone were to call me hun or sweetie in a patronizing way, well, there are a lot of worse things I could be called, so I really don't care.

[kafromTN]

I know I'm not a female so my vote might not count, but I live in the South and I love it when an older lady calls me hon, sweetheart, sweetie etc. such as when I go to a restaurant.

Just my $.0156658 worth
Mark

[Sistermadly]

No man should call me hon, sweetie, sugar, or any other diminuitive unless he knows me well.

No one, male or female, should call me gal. Ever.

[PlymouthDZ]

Originally posted by justamom
It's ALL about "tone" for me.

co-sign!!!

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by twostep
Not written by me: There are too many feminists that support female superiority instead of equality between genders. From what I've seen, the feminist movement is complete. The rights of women have improved vastly over the years. I have yet to see any public discrimination towards any woman. In my opinion, white men are one of the most discriminated people in America (second only to homosexuals).

Ditto on whoever "ahahahaha"ed this. Give me an effin' break.


And I agree that using these terms pleasantly is fine, I'm all for it -- but often online (especially on GC) they are used in a much more patronizing manner (coughJamesI'mlookingatyoucough). It's annoying, but at the same time it's not something that's going to raise my blood pressure. I mostly just ignore it.