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[Crimson Diva]

Your younger sisters need you if you are a senior. But hey, just stop participating and attending meetings. I didn't know they could take you to court if you don't pay dues. Your sisters who respond to you in a mean way are probably thinking that when you made the commitment, it was for life, not until you tired of them. There are ways that you can be a member, not dish your sorority, but maybe not go to every party or little function. It seems like you just don't want to give up the money, but it was fine when you wanted in.

[pachick21]

but if you dont like your younger sisters.......why bother???????

pachick,

I think that depends on why you don't like the younger sisters. Families don't always agree on things. Is it a matter of prospective on certain issues? Sophomoric attitudes? Money issues? Time concerns? Expectations? Are you the only one with these concerns?

[LXAAlum]

Pachick...
In response to what you said about not liking your younger sisters...this reminds me of a brother I knew sometime ago, who, during his senior year, "burned out" on the fraternity. He was depressed, didn't want to be around the "young" guys, etc....

Myself (an alum at the time), and one of his closest friends in the chapter sat down to talk to him about his attitude - we were worried about him. His response was that he didn't see any reason for him to belong anymore - all the people that he looked up to when he joined had long since graduated and moved on. Now all that was left was him and a few others he considered "close" friends, and then the rest of the younger members, most of whom he didn't really know, nor did he like.

His friend said something that to this day I still remember. It was something to this effect: it may be true that the people who you admired and respected, and consequently made you want to join are no longer here, but, look around, there are 70 other brothers, many of whom joined because of YOU. You have taken the place of those you admired by the new members, they are not looking up to the same people you did, they are looking up to YOU.

Needless to say, this had a profound impact on him. He hadn't looked at the situation this way, and, he took it to heart, and became the mentor he should have - he left a lasting legacy on the chapter that continues to this day. He has since graduated and become a doctor, and many are following in his footsteps.

Hope this helps you - there may be other ways of looking at your situation...


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Don't be your brother's keeper; rather, be your brother's Brother.

[This message has been edited by LXAAlum (edited August 22, 2000).]

[12dn94dst]

Very well said LXAAlum. It's difficult to realize that you may be someone else's "role model," that you've had a positive impact on someone's life, until it is brought to your attention.

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Kelli
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
12-Delta Nu-94
MAL, Southern Region
Savannah State University c/o 1997

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[mgdzkm433]

There is no way for you to become an "inactive member"? I've never heard of that before. I know that in my sorority, you can become an inactive member and not have to pay dues or go to meetings. If I were you, I would contact your chapter advisor, or regional advisor, or even your nationals and ask how you can become an inactive member. I became an inactive member of my professional organization at one point, and it was really quite a simple process, however, I'm not sure how it works with my social organization. I automatically became an alum member once I was out of school.