Are you enjoying your life?

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by alikat2
I love my life right now. I have a job I genuinely enjoy, good friends, a family who loves me and I'm having lots of fun. On a strictly material level, I have about everything a girl could possibly want.

The one thing that holds me back is that there are people in my life who like to pass judgement on my lifestyle......i.e., someone at work who thinks my girlfriends and me party way too much.....which not only annoys me, it makes me question myself. But I really try not to let it. It's hard, though.

LOL

That's like the fourth time you said that...May I ask...what do you exactly mean by partying? Shaking your booty and having a few drinks type of partying? Or, Shooting up and sleeping around types partying?

[AGDee]

I definitely enjoy my life. I have a great job that I enjoy, two of the most wonderful two children in the world, a super group of friends... Are there challenges? Of course there are, but I am one who believes that attitude is the key to happiness. Sometimes I get down.. I'm a single mom and money gets tight sometimes, or kids get sick, things get too busy, but I try very hard to see through the fog of chaos and find the good. I am so thankful to have these two kids who keep me busy (and broke). I watch them turning into intelligent, compassionate and interesting people. I love just being with them because they are just so cool to hang out with. My department head is the most flexible and easy going guy in the world. Some places would fire me for how much I call in sick because of my kids being sick. They don't worry about it. It's my time to use as I need to use it, as they see it. My coworkers are like a family, they are compassionate and caring people. I am "Surrounded by Sisterhood" in Alpha Gamma Delta and feel that almost every day in my associations with the chapters that I work with, my alumnae chapter, other volunteers and my sisters on GC.

I am very blessed.

Dee

[Rudey]

To anyone that isn't having a good time, I recommend listening to Corey Heart (Never Surrender or Sunglasses at Night), get pumped up, and go do something you never thought you ever would.

Live long and prosper.

-Rudey
--Nanu Nanu

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by Rudey
To anyone that isn't having a good time, I recommend listening to Corey Heart (Never Surrender or Sunglasses at Night), get pumped up, and go do something you never thought you ever would.

Live long and prosper.

-Rudey
--Nanu Nanu

Don't mess around with the guy in shades...

[alikat2]

Originally posted by Dionysus
LOL

That's like the fourth time you said that...May I ask...what do you exactly mean by partying? Shaking your booty and having a few drinks type of partying? Or, Shooting up and sleeping around types partying?

Wow, you have a good memory!!

Anyway, I DEFINITELY mean the first kind of partying. I do the hard-working career thing during the week and let loose on the weekends, but it never goes past having too much to drink and getting silly and obnoxious. At the age of almost 24, I guess there are a lot of people who feel I should be past that!

[James]

They are just jealous . ..

And also, women are peculiar creatures, y'all like to police each other way too much. What you wear, where you go, what you do, how you look . .. sheez leave each other alone.

Originally posted by alikat2
Wow, you have a good memory!!

Anyway, I DEFINITELY mean the first kind of partying. I do the hard-working career thing during the week and let loose on the weekends, but it never goes past having too much to drink and getting silly and obnoxious. At the age of almost 24, I guess there are a lot of people who feel I should be past that!

[justamom]

Off topic, pardon me!
DA-I think you're right, (in many cases) it is a generational thing along with mobility and decrease in agricultural based communities. The difference is that my family (grandparents, aunt, uncles and cousins) was so HUGE, we never had to work at establishing outside relationships. Of course
I'll never have friends like I did in college but that's partly because I'm not as open as I was and I honestly believe being educated in a different type of environment than Louisiana offers
makes finding common ground/interests more difficult. Valkyrie-I agree with what Munchkin03 said, too -- most of my friends are scattered all over the country and as I've gotten older it has become harder to meet people with whom I have anything in common.
I'm NOT a Southern Belle-Sometimes I want to SCREAM get over your Deb Ball or the football game you played 30 years ago and save it for a reunion! My, how they DO go on and on and on...!
Munchkin03-Most people aren't attached to their hometown or even home state as much as our grandparents were, and as a result, different levels of cohesion between social groups occurs. You don't have that group of hometown or college buds to fall back on, because everyone's scattered. True-especially about the different levels of cohesion!

Most of our real friends are transplants because the old lines are living in and ON the past. I guess some people are happier remembering than creating new memories.

[sairose]

Yes, I am absolutely LOVING my life.

This year has been the first year of my life that I truly feel happy, feel like I have a purpose and a direction to go in...for so long I was so insecure and scared of the future. But I sat down and analyzed WHY I felt that way and it was because I was destined to be a high school band director...not a bad job by any means, but not quite what I wanted. Now I am going to go to grad school to get my masters and doctorate in Saxophone Performance to be a college professor of saxophone and perform on the side. I'm so excited about what the future has to offer, and I really am loving life right now!

Sorry if that was corny.

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

I'm really enjoying my life right now I have my major going much better than it was, I love my current jobs, my boyfriend is the best thing that has happened to me, my family is wonderful....ahh...I like my life just a wee bit

Originally posted by justamom
Most of our real friends are transplants because the old lines are living in and ON the past. I guess some people are happier remembering than creating new memories.

I think you hit it on the head, JAM. Some of our high school and college friends are still around (ie. within the state, not necessarily nearby)... but we've just all moved on to different places in our life. When we get together, conversation inevitably shifts to things that happened in (name time period), and it gets old to talk about those things all the time.

Most of our friends now we've met through work, or through dinner parties/cocktail parties that other friends throw. We hang out with our (well, moreso his) old friends sometimes, but they're mostly single and we just don't have much in common.

I'm sure once some start having kids and others don't yet, there will be another big divide...

[KillarneyRose]

Originally posted by alikat2
The one thing that holds me back is that there are people in my life who like to pass judgement on my lifestyle......i.e., someone at work who thinks my girlfriends and me party way too much.....which not only annoys me, it makes me question myself. But I really try not to let it. It's hard, though.

Don't listen to those fuddy-duddies! lol When I was your age, I was at the same point of my life as you seem to be. I worked hard, then when I was done with work, I played hard. As long as you're doing a good job at work, the rest of your time is yours to use as you see fit.

This is relatively short period in your life: you have the money and the energy to go out every night if you want to. Your responsibilities basically end at when your work is finished. Someday, you'll probably have the responsibility of a husband and a family and you won't just be able to call up a group of girlfriends and meet up with them whenever you feel like it.

This is YOUR time; enjoy!

[Munchkin03]

Originally posted by Ginger
Some of our high school and college friends are still around (ie. within the state, not necessarily nearby)... but we've just all moved on to different places in our life. When we get together, conversation inevitably shifts to things that happened in (name time period), and it gets old to talk about those things all the time.

That's funny...I'm still friends with most of my best friends from college, and we tend NOT to reminisce about old days. Perhaps it's because we all have such great things going on in our current lives...such things as pursuing careers, traveling, and doing the things upwardly mobile twenty-somethings do.

I would also advise against depending on socializing as couples--it doesn't always last. Most of the couples my parents (mid 50s, married for just under 30 years) used to hang out with are divorced. As a result, most of my parents' friends are widowed or divorced--they (gasp) like eachother because of shared interests, not the fact that they're married! After all, wouldn't you want to socialize and make friends based on real life interests?

[annice22]

I know that I have created the post?

At the moment I am still enjoying my life however today while I was at work(yeah I had to work on Easter). I realized that my life is becoming a little boring and mundane. So I need to shake it up a little.

Also a lot of my good friends have graduated and I miss hanging out of them. But......this summer some of my friends who graduated are coming up for an "Almuni Party". So I'll get to hang out with them.

[alikat2]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose
Don't listen to those fuddy-duddies! lol When I was your age, I was at the same point of my life as you seem to be. I worked hard, then when I was done with work, I played hard. As long as you're doing a good job at work, the rest of your time is yours to use as you see fit.

This is relatively short period in your life: you have the money and the energy to go out every night if you want to. Your responsibilities basically end at when your work is finished. Someday, you'll probably have the responsibility of a husband and a family and you won't just be able to call up a group of girlfriends and meet up with them whenever you feel like it.

This is YOUR time; enjoy!

Thank you! You don't know how much I appreciate that!

Yes, my motto is, work hard, play hard. What really has been grating on my nerves lately is the copy editor at the newspaper where I work. See, another girl who works there and I like to go out and have ourselves a damn good time on the weekends, and this woman (she's around 35) seems to totally disapprove. One night, my friend and I were working late, and she PURPOSELY kept giving us more stuff to do to prevent us from going out to the bar!! She even later admitted it. I find that ridiculous. Sorry, but I don't need someone telling me what to do off the clock, especially when I do perform very well at work (not to sound conceited).

And James, mostly everyone has mentioned she is probably just jealous.

[MrsMcCartney]

I probably should be more content than I am. I have a loving husband, two incredible kids, super pets, I live in my dream house in my dream neighborhood. As far as material stuff goes, I'm there. But I miss my mom like crazy every day of my life, my dad lives far away, and I desperately want another baby while my husband doesn't. We don't spend enough time together and we definitely don't have as much fun as we used to....we used to travel in a pack, a bunch of couples. We had a blast, Now everyone has kids and we just don't see each other except for kids' birthday parties and that sort of thing.

I think I am perfect proof that material things are fun and nice but they don't bring you true happiness. We have an incredible house and expensive cars, I've got the jewelry and the fur and the handbags and the clothes and all that stuff, but what do I really want? Those of you who have beautiful relationships and loving families....that's where it's at. I'd give up all that stuff in a heartbeat to have my mom back for just one day. I'd go back to work without any complaint if I could just have one more beautiful child. I'd be so happy if my dad would move back home. I miss my best friend (she lives in GA.) And I wish I had more time with my husband.