my rant: why are boys so stupid?

[smiley21]

Originally posted by AXJules
All I have to say is this...
You guys haven't been getting along.
You will no longer be physically intimate.
You have "sensed things were coming to a close".
You are now talking to people on a message board about whether or not to consider staying with him. (No shame in posting problems here, I'm just saying you're now at the point of relying on almost total strangers for advice.)

at the risk of sounding like a pathetic loser- i am asking you guys for advice because i dont have any real friends to talk to. other than my mom, you guys are the closest thing that i have got.

[AXJules]

Originally posted by smiley21
at the risk of sounding like a pathetic loser- i am asking you guys for advice because i dont have any real friends to talk to. other than my mom, you guys are the closest thing that i have got.

Sweetie I totally didn't mean it like that....I ask things like that all the time on here. I'm just saying, when you first think of something, you keep it to yourself. Then you ponder it, then you reach out to friends/fam/a journal/whoever. All I'm saying is it's gotten to this third level.....whether its us or a friend IRL or your mom or whatever...the fact that you're reaching out to people outside of your relationship with so much uncertainty, tells me you already know what you want to do.

I apologize if it sounded so harsh- not my intention.

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
Why, exactly, do guys need to have sex? Does your hair come out and your eyelids curl up, or what? I have never understood this. The quickest way to make a girl not have sex is to say, "But...I need it, because I'm a guy!"

No, smiley, I don't blame you for not wanting to be all lovey dovey with a guy for whom your feelings have been mixed up lately. I understand that he might see this as rejection, but honestly...would a guy want to sleep with a girl he wasn't sure he thought was cute? Don't let him, or anyone else, make you feel bad. You do what you think is right.

Man, I could eat this post for lunch.....



I just want to reply to your post, Dana, because I feel I can answer your questions.

First off, girls will never understand why guys need sex all the time. Why? Because they're not guys. They don't have as much testosterone going through them. Guys get Awnery when they don't have sex. Its like our balls swell up and either A.) we have to phuck or beat off or B.) We end up getting in a fight with another guy. And beating off can only sustain a man for so long once he's had pussy in his life. Its like we know something better is out there but we just can't have it. We get cranky and pissed off for no apparent reason. A wise man once told his daughter that the best way to a man's heart was to keep his belly full and his balls empty...then there'd be no problems. Thats why housewives who stay at home and cook while giving all the booty they can to their man, they're usually the ones who have successfull marriages. The women out there who want things their way most of the time are usually the ones who have shitty marriages/cheated on or are the ones who get divorced. Believe me when I say this....A MAN IS ONLY AS FAITHFUL AS HIS OPTIONS....Ladies, if you want a man whos going to cheat on you or one thats going to leave you...then don't take care of his needs.


And Dana, as far as would a guy sleep with a girl whom they didnt think was cute???? You bet your ass they would, given they are intoxicated. How the hell you do think ugly chicks have babies?

[AOII_LB93]

Boys are stupid because they have a "dumb stick".

[James]

Yeah . .. females please pull on it. . .

Originally posted by AOII_LB93
Boys are stupid because they have a "dumb stick".

[XOMichelle]

smiley-
I'm in a similar situation where every so often I can't have sex (there are very good reasons that I won't get into). I know my bf tries to be supportive but I can see it is really hard for him to go without. I let him know that I would have sex if I could, but it's not my choice. Recently though he's started to question if it is my choice, and if I am holding out etc. It's very trying, since I am doing no such thing. But his suspicions make me less and less in the mood. Also, because he isn't getting a whole lot he ALWAYS talkes about sex during these short week to two week bursts. And that turns me off even more because I start thinking: geeze! All he wants to do is have sex. Can't we spend time together not in the bedroom?

If you want to be with him, tell him that. But a sexaul realtionship does indeed include sex. If you don't want that in a realtionship, you need to strike out and find someone who will wait until marriage or accept your decision.

[James]

I guess the lesson is to try and hook-up with someone's who's libido matches your own . . .

I like sex play all the time, if the girl has some hang-ups about stuff, or is uber-sensitive, body issues, sex issues or what have you. Its not going to work and I am going to leave her . . . probbaly without any explanation or closure

[James]

Also, they have a term for two people with an emotional relationship but little to no sex between them . . . its called, drum roll please:


Friends

[Rudey]

First of all I want to say it's not a dumb stick but a magic stick.

Then I want to say, you must not have heard of blue balls.

-Rudey
--Lyrically lifted

[Optimist Prime]

I think you try being fcuk buddies. Fcuk has some really nice clothes and maybe if you saw each other wearing them you would think each other is hot and want to have sex again.

You need to break up. Find someone else and start over.

[AchtungBaby80]

OK, I'm going off on a tangent here, but since cashmoney so honestly answered my previous question (and I thank you for your help), maybe he can tell me the answer to this one: If a girl doesn't want to have sex with her guy, even for a legitimate reason, why does the guy automatically ASSume she's getting it somewhere else? That makes me soooooooooo mad...come on, just because I'm not in the mood right now does not mean I just did anyone else!

[smiley21]

Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
OK, I'm going off on a tangent here, but since cashmoney so honestly answered my previous question (and I thank you for your help), maybe he can tell me the answer to this one: If a girl doesn't want to have sex with her guy, even for a legitimate reason, why does the guy automatically ASSume she's getting it somewhere else? That makes me soooooooooo mad...come on, just because I'm not in the mood right now does not mean I just did anyone else!

because guys are naturally jealous and their ego is too sensitive

[James]

See thats why you have problems in relationships .. you have little clue how men think

Originally posted by smiley21
because guys are naturally jealous and their ego is too sensitive

[smiley21]

Originally posted by James
See thats why you have problems in relationships .. you have little clue how men think

isnt that the pot calling the kettle black?

[cashmoney]

Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
OK, I'm going off on a tangent here, but since cashmoney so honestly answered my previous question (and I thank you for your help), maybe he can tell me the answer to this one: If a girl doesn't want to have sex with her guy, even for a legitimate reason, why does the guy automatically ASSume she's getting it somewhere else? That makes me soooooooooo mad...come on, just because I'm not in the mood right now does not mean I just did anyone else!

Its like this.....

He thinks you're getting it somewhere else because it seems like you're never in the mood, or if you are it's once in a while like maybe 1 or 2 times a week if that. You're about the same age as me. That said, guys my age are going to want to hit it more often since we're in our sexual prime. In most cases, but it won't be mine, after a guy hits his 30's he's done with the intercourse thing and only wants oral most of the time. Women don't start phucking like jack rabbits until they hit 30+ unless a guy turns them into a feen.....like I do. My girlfriend tells me she gets these cravings for some dick throughout the day, and she blames it on me for turning her into a feen. She says we've had more sex than all her ex-boyfriends combined. When we first started dating, I used to think she didnt like the sex because we only did it once or twice a week. I even thought she was still fucking around with her ex. I didnt trust her, there are people here who can verify that. I just had to remind myself that girls you just start dating don't put out mad pussy unless they're lil'whores. It takes time to make a girl into a feen unless she's 30+, by that age they don't think like they did when they were 22, 23,24. Most guys that arent that experienced don't know these sort of things and thats why they think you're banging someone else. Either that, or they're just trying to put a guilt trip on you to make you have sex. And believe me, that shit Does Happen.