AI Journey - Page 2

branramb · #16 03-11-2004, 09:52 AM

The detailed letter was to me, but she didnt have a chance to write it because she was busy with clients all day.

branramb · #17 03-11-2004, 01:13 PM

No word yet. She said first thing this morning but I guess she hasnt had a chance to reply. It's driving me crazy I want to know so bad.

branramb · #18 03-11-2004, 02:28 PM

Well guys I have given up hope. I am sure she would have replied by now if there were really interested. I guess the letter she was developing is a nice rejection letter. I guess she is trying to come up with the words to let me down gently. Well, good luck to all you other AIs I hope your journey is more successful.

Jill1228 · #19 03-11-2004, 03:00 PM

Hey chill! It ain't over yet!
Sure she said first thing this morning but ya know things get in the way: work, kids, other stuff...LIFE! Ya know bosses think their employees have to work

I know how hard it is to wait (trust me, my sponsor prolly wanted to strangle me at times).

Don't expect the worst. The detailed letter could mean anything. Usually if it is a detailed letter it is not a kick to the curb letter...

Also wait until she contacts you. Do NOT badger her with "how come you haven't given me that detailed letter". It will turn people off and make you look desperate.

Good luck

PhiPsiRuss · #20 03-11-2004, 03:07 PM

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Originally posted by Jill1228
Hey chill! It ain't over yet!
Sure she said first thing this morning but ya know things get in the way: work, kids, other stuff...LIFE! Ya know bosses think their employees have to work

I know how hard it is to wait (trust me, my sponsor prolly wanted to strangle me at times).

Don't expect the worst. The detailed letter could mean anything. Usually if it is a detailed letter it is not a kick to the curb letter...

Also wait until she contacts you. Do NOT badger her with "how come you haven't given me that detailed letter". It will turn people off and make you look desperate.

Good luck

What Jill said. Rejection letters are usually no longer than a paragraph. I've never heard of a detailed rejection letter, unless it was a generic form letter.

Forget about it for a week. Something could have popped up in her life.

navane · #21 03-11-2004, 05:48 PM

branramb,

Woah, woah, woah!

Don't give up just yet!

If I had a dollar for every time someone said to me "I'll have that e-mail/report/item for you first thing in the morning", I'd be richer than Bill Gates!!

As Jill pointed out, people have work, family and other committments which get in the way. I know I personally have some 100+ e-mails in my inbox that require my attention and/or personal response.

I mean, you yourself said that she explained she was "...busy with clients all day".

It just sounds to me like you are so hopeful for this opportunity that you just want to know if you have a chance or not. There is nothing wrong with that! But, it also sounds to me like you're afraid for the worst. So, you're looking for any little clue which might lead to that big let down. That way you can say that you "saw it coming" and therefore it won't hurt as much. How does that sound to you?

Don't give up! <hugs> If there is one piece of advice that I always give other PNAMs is that you will probably have to do a LOT of waiting! Waiting for someone to reply to an e-mail, waiting for someone to call you, waiting for an appropriate event that you can be invited to, waiting for the alumnae to have their meeting, waiting for the decision process and so on.

I hope that you will receive the answers you are hoping for....soon!

Best wishes from a fellow PNAM,

.....Kelly

LouisaMay · #22 03-11-2004, 05:52 PM

I happen to have received several rejections recently....

Something like....

Thank you for your interest in _________________. We regret to inform you that we are not able to offer you a place in our program. We have received hundreds of impressive applications this year. Unfortunately, we are unable to accept many highly qualified individuals. Best of luck in your future pursuits.

Blah, blah, blah.

Never detailed.

Tom Earp · #23 03-11-2004, 06:22 PM

Steady one and all! It is spring and the fancy turns to other things!

As navan said, stear the course, stay with it!

As tinydancer, who said, she is almost my maturity, found a Home so can there be hope!

There are some Sororities out there who are much more attuned to A I than some. Dont hide the light under a basket, let it shine! Keep trying.

tinydancer · #24 03-11-2004, 06:43 PM

Keep a good thought - I did a LOT of waiting, like almost 2 years. Sometimes it just takes time for everything to work out. There were times when I thought it would never happen for me, but I just held on, waited, attended all the things I could, and look at me now! I'll be initiated next week!! It took me 30 years (

) to finally find a home. It's a dream come true for me.

So buck up!! It ain't over till it's over - and I don't think you are out of the running at all!

Lizz

branramb · #25 03-11-2004, 07:03 PM

I have been working on this since the summer of 2001. I finally made a contact that I thought would help. I just wished she woulda said if they were interested that we were in the right direction or things dont look good. That group doesnt vote the collegiates do. I guess if they say no I can always try and relocate my big sis and fellow pledges to see if they would sponsor me.

navane · #26 03-12-2004, 05:24 AM

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Originally posted by branramb
I have been working on this since the summer of 2001.

branramb,

Guess what? You're not alone! I definitely feel you on this one. I started my AI journey in November 2000 (or spring 1997 if you want to count the time when I got a bid as an undergrad) and I'm still trying some three years later!

I agree with you that it would certainly be helpful if someone could at least let you know if you are even in the running! Waiting for that response is probably just so nervewracking! That's as icky as my situation which was people telling me that they were definitely interested in me yet not taking any action for forever and a day.

Let's just say that waiting in general is no fun.

Again, I'm really hoping that you receive an answer very soon!

PNAM,

.....Kelly

branramb · #27 03-12-2004, 08:31 AM

Another thing that hurts is that everytime I get introduced to the collegiate president the other end takes awhile so I have to start all over introducing myselfs. When I first started, many of the collegiates were pledges when I was a pledge. Now I dont know any of the undergrads.

branramb · #28 03-12-2004, 07:34 PM

Got a letter from her saying she was very busy and would get back with me later this weekend.

bsp-mich24 · #29 03-12-2004, 08:26 PM

Branramb,

I know this easier said than done, but just "hang in there" b/c you never know when that door to AI will open. Like Kelly said, " you're not alone." Although I only have been at this process since May '03, I too have had my ups and downs over along the way as well as others pursuing AI; so I feel for ya.

Keeping fingers crossed for you.

branramb · #30 03-12-2004, 08:32 PM

I just wish she woulda hinted if it were positive or negative letter.