S/he's married! - Page 2

Rudey · #16 02-11-2004, 10:46 PM

Only if she gives butt sex.

-Rudey

AchtungBaby80 · #17 02-11-2004, 10:58 PM

No...I never want to feel like I'm playing second fiddle to anyone, especially a wife! I would get too jealous.

James · #18 02-11-2004, 11:25 PM

I am with KillarneyRose. And I wouldn't expect it to be a relationship.

Also, there is a certain convenience to dating married women, they don't get clingy or demand to much of your time . . . oh and they usually skip straight to the sex.

Hmm m m.. sounds real good actually.

DigitalAngel126 · #19 02-12-2004, 12:37 AM

My current boyfriend was still legally married when we first got together. I wasn't too worried, though, becuase he and the ex hate each other, plus she was living in Florida at the time. The divorce was finalized in the fall last year, and the boy and I are still together.

winnieb · #20 02-12-2004, 12:55 AM

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Originally posted by James

Also, there is a certain convenience to dating married women, they don't get clingy or demand to much of your time . . . oh and they usually skip straight to the sex.

Hmm m m.. sounds real good actually.

You are exactly right.... And if you are married and looking to have an affair--always choose the married person---- they are less likely to get possessive, to threaten to tell your spouse, etc----- they have just as much at risk!!!!

-wendi

absolutuscchick · #21 02-12-2004, 05:12 AM

You've got to be joking me. I'm sorry, but adultery is just plain WRONG. I could never, ever, ever, ever date anyone who was married, in a relationship with someone else, or even someone who's divorce hadn't been finalized.....EVER! Who cares what he says, the truth is, HE'S MARRIED! I'm sorry but I value myself WAY too much to get involved with schmucks like that!

James · #22 02-12-2004, 09:16 PM

Thats a very well meaning but extremely naive comment.

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Originally posted by absolutuscchick
You've got to be joking me. I'm sorry, but adultery is just plain WRONG. I could never, ever, ever, ever date anyone who was married, in a relationship with someone else, or even someone who's divorce hadn't been finalized.....EVER! Who cares what he says, the truth is, HE'S MARRIED! I'm sorry but I value myself WAY too much to get involved with schmucks like that!

decadence · #23 02-12-2004, 09:21 PM

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Thats a very well meaning but extremely naive comment.

No, it is not.

James · #24 02-12-2004, 09:42 PM

Yes, it is.

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Originally posted by decadence
No, it is not.

PhiPsiRuss · #25 02-12-2004, 09:50 PM

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Originally posted by Rudey
Only if she gives butt sex.

gives? with a strap-on?

I'd rather date a chick who receives.

G8Ralphaxi · #26 02-13-2004, 09:10 PM

About a year ago, I dated a guy with a grammar problem:

He didn't understand the difference between "I am divorced" and "I am getting divorced." To me, they were entirely different things.

Not only was the divorce not final, but his wife was still in town and still had a key to the house. Not good.

One evening I was over there, we were watching movies and I was trying to figure out what I was going to do about the whole situation. So, we're sitting there on the couch talking and suddenly I hear this "bing bing" from the other side of the house. It was the sound alarms make when you open a door or window. He freaks out, jumps up and hisses at me, "Ohmygod!!! It's my WIFE!!!!! Quick, you HAVE TO HIDE!!!" I'm just too in shock about the whole thing to even react and he leads me to a closet and I go in. (At least it was a big walk in closet). So there I am, stuck in the closet like the Other Woman!

I'm trying to eavesdrop as well as I can. Apparently she's mad at him because he didn't call her back about something a day or so ago, and then she had tried to call that night but he hadn't picked up the phone because he was busy trying to convince me not to dump his stupid married butt. She starts yelling and whining about something, he's trying to calm her down and get her to leave. The whole time I am just waiting for her to realize I'm there (I had kicked off my sandals earlier - they were still by the couch and my purse was on the coffee table) and come find me and claw my eyes out. Finally she says she's just going to get her mail and stomps out.

So he comes to get me out of the closet. He opens the door and I am just standing there, glaring at him. He starts trying to apologize, I just cut him off and said "Take. Me. Home. NOW!!!"

He called a couple days later. I told him I really didn't see how this could possibly work. He was still married and I was totally uncomfortable with it. What if she had found me in the closet that day? That is not a situation I ever want to find myself in again. Then he tells me he thinks she did know someone was there because now she is demanding more money from him. Sorry, buddy, that's not really my problem now, is it?

The moral of the story: Dating married people is a bad idea. Relationships are complicated enough without having a third person involved. And look at it this way - the marriage is messed up usually because one (or both!) of them is screwed up in the head. So either you're dating the psycho, or their current spouse is the psycho and will probably make trouble for you!

sigtau305 · #27 02-14-2004, 10:27 AM

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Originally posted by Dionysus

Would you date someone who is married?

No.

cash78mere · #28 02-14-2004, 12:16 PM

i wouldn't do it. i couldn't cheat either.

lovelyivy84 · #29 02-14-2004, 12:23 PM

I'm kinda shocked by some of these answers.

Why would you ever knowingly date someone who was married (separated is different, although not by much and if I were you I'd want to see some notarized paperwork, lol)?

Is it because you don't really believe in marriage? Do you just not care about someone else's commitments? Is it his problem and not yours if he cheats? What makes it okay? What about the danger factor? People are CRAZY, and NO ONE has the potential for Crazy more than a woman who feels she's been wronged. Do you REALLY want to set yourself up to be stalked by the angry wife?

Even if you don't care about marriage, I wouldn't want to shoulder that kind of karmic burden. Stuff like that will eventually bite you in the ass.

valkyrie · #30 02-14-2004, 02:04 PM

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Originally posted by lovelyivy84
I'm kinda shocked by some of these answers.

Why would you ever knowingly date someone who was married (separated is different, although not by much and if I were you I'd want to see some notarized paperwork, lol)?

Is it because you don't really believe in marriage? Do you just not care about someone else's commitments? Is it his problem and not yours if he cheats? What makes it okay? What about the danger factor? People are CRAZY, and NO ONE has the potential for Crazy more than a woman who feels she's been wronged. Do you REALLY want to set yourself up to be stalked by the angry wife?

Even if you don't care about marriage, I wouldn't want to shoulder that kind of karmic burden. Stuff like that will eventually bite you in the ass.

I disagree. I think that most people answering here (and I don't mean you, lovelyivy84) have no concept of this situation.

I was separated when I started dating Mr. valkyrie, so I've been on the other side. Despite g8ralphaxi's kind words, I don't think that I or my ex were "screwed up in the head" -- it just wasn't working out and it's that simple. My separation was not a "legal" separation, and thus there was no paperwork involved. I don't see any "karmic" issue here at all, and never thought that I should sit at home alone until my divorce was final.

To answer your question about marriage -- maybe I don't really believe in it. Or maybe I do, but I think that two people should only be married to each other if they both really want to be. I don't see the point of sticking it out when you're miserable just because you said you would.