One of my sorority sisters dropped out of school and committed suicide a few months later - so much less was known about depression back then.
Her rabbi was wonderful, and told her parents and everyone at the memorial service: "don't blame yourselves for not knowing what was going on in Dori's heart - that's playing Godd. Only God knews what was really in her heart."
I think that gave her parents some degree of comfort, and I hope the Alpha Phis will also realize you can never know what is going on in someone's heart.
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