Is it Cheating?

[da1udesire2005]

Ok thanks everyone for your responses. A friend of mine had a real concern with this issue and your answers have really helped her.

My questions: What constitutes as cheating? Is it the feelings for another person or the actually act?

1.Is it ok to be married and like somebody else while liking your significant other?
2. Or is it only cheating if you act on the those feelings?
*let me hear it. . . .

[justme]

Originally posted by preachdawg
As a Preacher I deal with this question all the time. Is it? or isn't it? Hard question because cheating is relative. now Adultry is a whole different thing entirely. By biblical definition it is having intercourse with someone other than your spouse. So you are not committing adultry, btu it can lead to it. In philosphy we would call maturbation, and the likes the lesser of 2 evils. Unfortunalitely Bible doesn't fully address maturbation, if at all. Anybody have any private questions just PM me. Peace!!

That Doggy Preacha!!!!

I think this is a really interesting topic and there have been some interesting replies. I'm honestly not sure how I feel but biblically speaking.... contrary to what the above quote says....

In Matthew (5:27-30) Jesus says, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart..."

I am no biblical scholar and the only real reason that I knew where to look in the bible is because my Sunday School class was talking about the passage right before this one (on hate) just yesterday. I just wanted to set the "biblical" story straight.

[preachdawg]

hey justme, you are very correct in qouting Jesus's answer to the Pharisees concerning this issue. In defense of my answer I was not qouting a text about adultery as much as I was giving the exact translation of biblical greek as it pertains to this word that we translate in english as adultery. Your text deals more in context not with who is really doing what as much as it is equalizing the playing field of those who were calling themselves the religious leaders of Jesus's day. Jesus's issue here was not adultery, but was more about the religious people who looked fine on the outside,acted moral, and yet as Jesus called them they were white washed graves. The genesis of your sin is lust but lust is not sin until it becomes manifested. Read James 1:13-15. If it is not context don't qoute. Now the record is straight.

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[da1udesire2005]

Hmm PreachDawg Im hearing you. But i dont know about that. A couple of preachers have told me that so a man thinketh so he doeth ( i dont know if thats scripture or not) I just know that what you think you will eventually act out. Thats not only Bible but science tells us that too. I mean I wouldnt want my husband to look lustfully at another woman. But like i said i dont know? thats why im getting answers

[preachdawg]

Hey da1, I'm hearing you and I like yhese types of discussions, they remind me of my seminary days. I believe the scientific portioin you are talking about is psychosomatic, which means were your mind goes your body follows. I agree that you would not want your husband to lust after another woman. I hope by this discussion nobody has taking me as saying that lust is alright. I am not saying that, but what iam saying is that sometimes especially in relationships we need to sometimes be willing to look at the bigger pictuer and not get caught overly focussing on what can be considered secondary issues. The bible is true when it says that all have sinned and falling short of the glory of God. Your husband or boyfriend may be looking at ornography( which by no means is a good thing) but dont be so quick to categorize him as some kind of lustfull deranged person, and at the same time miss the fact that you to may be in lust just not sexually. Which according to God's word is no different.

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