Name Change - Page 2

pretty3grl · #16 05-08-2001, 06:12 PM

I am in the minority, because I dropped my maiden name and took my hubby's last name. I just LOOOOOOOVE signing it (am I acting like the newlywed that I am?).

ZChi4Life · #17 05-08-2001, 06:23 PM

Well I guess I am "Everyone Else" too

I will definitely take my husband's last name. Reasons for doing so are long and drawn out

But that's my plan of action...now, just gotta find a man...hmmm

prospectiverushee · #18 05-08-2001, 06:42 PM

I guess I'm "Everybody else" too

I wouldn't change my name at all. The reason being I have an unusal name to start with,so unless I meet a guy that has an interesting last name that sounds good with my first name then I would consider hyphenating or changing

So what does this mean for my children if I don't change my name? Well me and my future husband will have to decide what will best

AlphaChiGirl · #19 05-08-2001, 07:48 PM

I've been actively considering this lately. Based on my timeline, I don't have much longer left.

Business\Academia: Keeping my maiden name. I've had it for the past 20 years, I like it, and it's definitely going on in my family.

Formal: I'll probably go as Mrs. Bob So-and-so, especially for matters relating to children and school.

Eclipse · #20 05-08-2001, 07:49 PM

I probably have the most unusual name (names..)..

At work I am Eclipse MaidenName

Legally I am Eclipse HisName-MaidenName (reversed what most people do which confuses the heck out of folks! They want to call him by my maiden name!) My husband is more than cool with me using my maiden name and work and does not have a problem with the hypenation. I did the "reverse" thing because I knew I wanted to to hypenate, but hated the "flow" so I reversed it!

Most of our collective friends and family just call me Eclipse HisName

Each one of my names carries a different connotation (sp?) and I embrace them all!! Does this mean I have multiple personalities?!?!? LOL

Any children (when/if) will carry his last name only. I've thought about giving one my maiden name as a middle name.

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pink_ace · #21 05-08-2001, 07:57 PM

I want to hyphenate my name, just because my name is so unusual that no other name sounds "right" with it.

Diva7401 · #22 05-08-2001, 08:03 PM

Initially, I dropped my maiden name BUT after 5 years, I changed my mind and now I am a "proud" hyphenating "Wifey"

Rain Man · #23 05-08-2001, 08:58 PM

I am SO glad that someone brought up this topic. I have been waiting so long for a discussion like this.

Currently I am in a situation. My lady and I have been very seriously considering marriage. Now initially she wanted to hyphenate her last name with my last name. I said NO! I will not allow her to "straddle the fence" between my name and hers. In a way, it assumes the worst (read: it sounds like she is "leasing" my name until we get divorced). I said if she was compelled to hyphenate my name, then I would appreciate it if she rather not use my name at all and keep her maiden name as is. I said if her name meant so much to her, I would change my last name to hers (and I am dead serious too--my current last name is so common and plain, I really wouldn't miss it) OTOH, her name is not as plain as mine, but still rather common (hint: it is the last name of one of the actresses on Living Single). BTW, thanks Jali for that trend update; I thought it was just me. But either she adopts my name or I adopt hers or neither of us adopts.--no hyphenation in this family. I would however allow her to "hyphenate" for identification purposes (class and family reunions, etc.)

In my previous marriage, my ex hyphenated her last name with mine, and even though we have been apart over 3 years, the hyphenated name is still in effect (I thought she would have dropped my name after the divorce was final). Since then, I have been a little sensitive about folks "leasing" my name.

Just my $.25

Rain Man

VctoriasSecrt3 · #24 05-09-2001, 07:31 AM

i would not change it...but i would consider hyphenating it...

CrimsonTide4 · #25 05-09-2001, 08:43 AM

DROPPING MY NAME. IT is unique but 90% of people mispronounce it which IRKS the heck out of me. They try to make it FRENCH. Ideal08 knows. Anyway, no hyphens or nothing.

Now like ZCHI I am in search of a MAN

LadyAKA · #26 05-09-2001, 09:09 AM

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Originally posted by Rain Man:
In a way, it assumes the worst (read: it sounds like she is "leasing" my name until we get divorced).

Interesting

Catwoman · #27 05-09-2001, 09:09 AM

Legally...my name is hyphenated. It appears that way on my social security card, driver's license etc. I kept my maiden name...one because I like it and two because I got married when I was 29 and for business purposes my maiden name was what I was "known" by. I receive mail with my maiden name only, hyphenated name, and with just my married name. When filling out papers etc I NEVER just use my maiden name ... I always use the hyphenated version or just my husband's name.
I guess because I was known by my maiden name for so long..it was hard to drop it.

Discogoddess · #28 05-09-2001, 10:32 AM

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AlphaChiGirl · #29 05-09-2001, 10:44 AM

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Originally posted by AlphaChiGirl:
I've been actively considering this lately. Based on my timeline, I don't have much longer left.

Business\Academia: Keeping my maiden name. I've had it for the past 20 years, I like it, and it's definitely going on in my family. I'm still young enough so that I could change it with little confusion. I guess it all depends on what my husband's last name is, and how well it goes with my first name.

Formal: I'll probably go as Mrs. Bob So-and-so, especially for matters relating to children and school.

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Miss. Mocha · #30 05-09-2001, 03:14 PM

I decided to hyphenate my last name when I married as a way to keep my identity, and because I was too lazy to handle important business with the necessary speed.

I have also hyphenated my daughter's last name. My maiden name is very short, 4 letters, my husband's last name has 9. The funny thing is, my daughter can spell my husband's last name, but she can't spell mine to save her life. Everybody in her life addresses her by my husband's last name, but if you ask her, she'll tell you both.

I think it's a personal decision, and I think your husband's feelings should play a part in the decision. Being in agreement (or close to it) when you're married gives favor from GOD.