Sorors, have any of you ever had a family member (cousin, niece, aunt, sister, etc.) discuss becoming a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha right in front of you as if you shouldn't even care? This is exactly what happened while I was visiting some of my family. I have a cousin who, to my surprise, is seeking membership in a graduate chapter and feels that she WILL have her letters by the end of this Spring. Now SUPPOSEDLY, she has talked to a Soror about membership, but I know for a FACT that she has not been invited to join. Anyway, we were sitting around talking when someone said something about me being an AKA. Before I knew it, she was talking and saying things like "when I get my letters, dah, dah, dah," and "after I cross, this and that." She even had the audacity to say that she needed "her letters" by a certain time before she goes on some trip or to some party or something in March
. Some of my other cousins and aunts that she told have already been "buying her things" (if you know what I mean) to keep until after she "crosses."
Now I don't know about the rest of my Sorors, but before I was made, I got upset with ANYBODY who bought me anything pink and green or with AKA on it and let me know that they had it. I told them if you buy it, don't let me know it! And I would NEVER even fix my mouth to say something like "when I cross.." in front of a Soror of AKA, much less tell her that I needed my letters by a certain time
! I have aunts who are Sorors and I NEVER even mentioned AKA to them unless they asked me a question and even then, I watched what I said. Well, by this time I had gotten quiet as I sat in my seat FUMING! Once I composed myself, I had to explain that AKA does not work on YOUR time, YOU work on HER time! I remembered that my mother called me a few weeks before and told me that my aunt referred to my cousin as my "future Soror" a number of times when they talked. She even referred to her as a "future Soror" to another lady who I know is a Soror. My mother knows how dear I hold AKA to my heart and advised my aunt not to say that around me. The other thing that bothers me is I do not feel as if she is pursing membership because of what she wants to bring to the organization. It seems that she just wants some letters to wear so she can say "I'm an AKA!" Period. When all a person talks about is the people that they will surprise, the parties they will go to, the jackets and shirts and outfits they will buy, how they plan to decorate their car inside and out with AKA para and NEVER once mention a service project or desire to run for an office, I have to question their reason for joining, family or not. I am sure my Sorors will agree. I mean, do people really not understand that this IS a SERIOUS matter? AKA is not just some club that you just sign up for and walk right on in. She does not need anyone to just wear her letters. She has thousands and thousands of Sorors worldwide to do that. To sisterfriends reading this, I know it is said over and over, but PLEASE be discrete AND respectful to AKA AND my Sorors. I apologize for this long post, but I felt so disrespected after this incident I had to tell someone. Much love Sorors!
[This message has been edited by MsAnn (edited December 30, 2000).]
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[This message has been edited by MsAnn (edited December 30, 2000).]
[This message has been edited by MsAnn (edited December 30, 2000).]
Blatant Indiscretion!!
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