Could this be an abusive situation?

[Jill1228]

From someone who is a child abuse survivor, let me tell you this:
Unless the cycle is stopped with you (ie you ain't gonna take this isht), history will only repeat itself!

Press charges and DO NOT BACK DOWN FOR ANYTHING! If you do, it will show him that he can get away with it. And he will continue to do it. If he ain't abusing you, it will be his girlfriend or someone else. You have to nip it in the bud and if it takes his butt going to jail, then that's what it has to be!

Make a pact that you are mad as hell, not scared to follow through (ie scared silent) and you will not take it from ANYONE anymore.

Take it from someone who has been there. Hugs to you and good luck

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Sorry to those who have said otherwise, but from someone who volunteers with a domestic violence organization, this is a classic case of "learning the behavior". It's very common for a children in DV situations to think that the behavior they see is perfectly acceptable and to copy it. And in a DV situation, the verbal abuse is often worse than the physical stuff. It's all about control.

I would call a domestic violence hotline, they can probably give you a host of local resources/options to pursue and the police should be at the top of the list. Staying away may be your best option, but that's for you to decide.

[ThetaPrincess24]

I would find a way to get the hell out of that situation in a hurry. If it mean two jobs to support yourself on your own then so be it. It will only get worse if you stay.

You deserve not to be abused physically/verbally/emotionally. You deserve a sense of security. You deserve peace of mind. Dont settle for anything less....ever. Further more, dont open your doors to your brother or anyoen else abusive. Call the cops. Who cares if they are small town and someone's rep is on the line. Who cares if your parents will get pissy. You need to take care of YOU....

[Tom Earp]

Simply put, if one has has to ask, then yes it is!

I really appreciate all of ya'lls help and advice. I am researching local domestic abuse hotlines because I really want my brother to get help. I think what is most frightening is approaching my parents because I have told them, especially my mom, he and my dad have problems. I have told my dad and my brother they have problems and they, of course, deny it.

I am glad I can get on greekchat and people are there to support me and others when we can't go to anyone else.

I am moving out after graduation to my own apartment in Rock Hill. In the fall of 2004, I will be going to law school to specialize in family law to represent those men and women that are in the same position I am or in international law to join the CIA. Either way, I'll get out of dodge and won't be back. Both jobs will be healing experiences for me.

BTW, I have only been in one abusive relationship that lasted 3 months and, fortunately, I am out of that!

[bethany1982]

Originally posted by ztawinthropgirl
My parents don't do anything about it. They just tell ME to get over it, and I should just walk away from the whole situation.

I think I'd walk away from the whole situation... the whole family. Get over it my A$$...