WEDDING ETIQUETTE?

[toocute]

Originally posted by ManndingoNUPE:
tickledpink, lady I have two words for you:

Beat Down!

Nuff said.

MN

LOL!!!!! I was thinking the same thing but was going to be lady like and not post it.

[AKAtude]

**LOL at MN!**

[AKA2D '91]

Beat down!

AND

JUDGE JUDY, IF YOU DIDN'T GET YOUR MONEY BACK!

[darling1]

I agree with AKAtude on this one as well. Brides-to-be are under no obligation to invite so and so's boyfriend or so and so's girlfriend just so they aren't lonely. Weddings are about meeting people and having fun. Since my fiance and I are paying for our wedding we see each person as a dollar sign. This way we keep things in perspective. If any of you brides-to-be have family 'inviting' themselves just kindly tell them that you aren't sure, you will have to see. DON'T FALL TO THE PRESSURE..LOL. HEY AKA2D....what's with the hatorade...lol

btw akatude my wedding is may 25th, when is yours????

[PrincessELG]

I am unfortunatley in a wedding where eveything is just so poor quality. She has three different kinds of Hallmark wedding invitations and thats just for her side of the family her groom hasn't picked out his yet. She has no real color scheme or anything that ties everything toegether to make it classy. Some woman who they know can cook is making the food not catering it and she wants to have all plastic and paper for her wedding reception. And on top of all this they have no money and they are ages 20 and 22 coming out of thier parents house. I want to voice all of my concerns but I don't know how she will take them. My concerns are basicaly that they should find some independance first and save so they can have a "nice" wedding and start a life together securley and not just a thrown together cheap affair and no real plans for the future. Together they have had six diffrent jobs in the past year so they have zero job security. And are planning to buy a house, again with no money saved up.

Does anyone have any advice on what I should do? The plans are already set in motion and I don't want to ruin her excitement but I think she is just moving way to fast with out enough of a saftey net and forethought. And we used to have all these dreams when we were younger and we would sy that "we are not going to have some tacky thrown together wedding" we both said that we would have "classy" weddings that we could be proud of. That just doesn't seem to be happening on her side.

(SORRY FOR THE LONG POST THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND FOR A WHILE)

[AKAtude]

My wedding is May 26th!

[darling1]

AKAtude that is to cool sisterfriend!!!!! How are the plans?? For some reason I am not stressed. We start our christian counseling next week. .

[AKAtude]

I don't know the answer for this one. I do agree with PositivelyAKA that you should do what you want to do, but discussing it with your mother is not such a bad idea. Even though she may be against it, she may tell you to invite them because she recognizes that it is your day. You may not have a sisterly bond/relationship with them right now, but you don't know what the future could bring.

[PositivelyAKA]

Originally posted by OOHLALA:
With all of the talk about other siblings on the this board.I have another wedding etiquete question.....
Do you think that I am wrong for not wanting my fathers children (through a relationship with there mother, while he and my mother were married) present at my wedding. I get along OK with them, but the sisterly bond is not really there. My main reason for not inviting them is this: I know how my mother feels about them and although she HAS NOT mentioned anything about them attending (knowing my mother she will not)she will be very uncomfortable......And I love my mother (of course) and want her to be just as happy seeing her baby girl get married.

i don't know if there is a right or wrong answer for this one, but here's my spin on it. since its your wedding you should do what you want to do however know that if you do decide not to invite them to a traditionally family/close friend/even associate event then they may be offended and any relationship they thought they had with you may be forever ruined. it would probably hurt them to know that you invited a coworker over them (blood). so perhaps you should discuss it with your mother and see what she thinks, you may be susprised at her answer. the bottom line is if you don't want them their then you probably shouldn't invite them because you will make yourself,mom and them very uncomfortable, believe me it will show if you are not sincere. just be willing to accept the consequences of whatever you choose to do. good luck.

[tickledpink]

LOL @ MN as well.