Do Right Man

[Sexy Mocha]

You noticed? The counseling must be working!

[blu_theatrics]

I have struggled this year through relationship hell and I really think that the only thing that matters is a loving, God-fearing man

(I can't type long her my eyes are already about to water up...lol)

But if I can find a man that truly loves the Lord, he will not disrespect me or our family. He will not cheat on me, he will not hurt me, and if he does backslide and head toward the wrong way, he will ask the Lord to bring him back.

My only problem is that if I found this man.....I'd probably look him and the eye realize who he was and then look for the first thing wrong with him, because I'd swear he was too perfect....lol

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by PinkCashmere:
O.K. Ladies, as you know I like to read and I am currently reading "Do Right Man" by Omar Tyree. Now, this book is about a man who is the sensitive, nice guy type. He has many female friends. He is learning how to not be a pushover. As I began reading the book, I found myself saying out loud (as if he could hear me) - "Stop being a punk!! Stand up and be a man!" I am nearing the end of the book and he is learning, however some of the examples of his naivete are exasperating. From love to career he let's people run all over him.

I don't want to give the story away too much to those who haven't read it, but ladies, let's discuss what makes a man a good catch. Sexy Mocha started a discussion on "Signs Your Man Loves You" that got sorors, sisterfriends and others talking about the men in their lives. So, the questions are:
1. What makes a man a good catch?
2. Why do so many women go after the "Bad Boy" "Playa" types and get dogged out over and over again while letting the good men go.
3. What makes some men the "just a friend" type?

Ey. How are you Sistas of AKA?

When you hook up with a brotha that cares about you in every way; and wants to spend most of his available time with you doing the kinds of things that interests you-as well as the kinds of things that interests him, YOU HAVE A GOOD CATCH.

When you hook up with a brotha that compromises; today is your day, tomorrow is mine, and the day after is OURS-YOU HAVE A GOOD CATCH.

When you hook up with a brotha who checks you when you're wrong and accepts your checking him when he is wrong, YOU HAVE A GOOD CATCH.

When you hook up with a brotha who believes in sharing: who pushes your ambition and refuses to let you accept mediocrity; a brotha who demonstrates mutuality-YOU HAVE A GOOD CATCH.

When you find us, get your pride out of the way before you lose us! We don't come back.
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[LadyAKA]

blu_theatrics, you stated that very well ...
GOD FEARING is what really counts! I think you both will be guided by the lord and all
the rest of the good things that we all mentioned in this and another post will definitely come with time, or maybe you both already have it and you need to make it come out in each other!!

Sisterly

[PinkCashmere]

I think that you will get a good man, when you are a good catch yourself. As a single woman, I know that while God is preparing that special someone for me, He is also preparing me to be a special someone for my mate. All those things that I am looking for in a man I know that I must also possess them. Since I want him to have a good relationship with the Lord then I must have a good relationship with the Lord as well. If I want my mate to be honest, respectful, kind, generous, etc.... then I know that it is a requirement for me to have these qualities as well.

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[AKA2D '91]

For those of you who have not, check out Iyanla Vanzant's IN THE MEANTIME. It is WONDERFUL!

I can tell by some of the responses that many have read the book. After you have read the book and begin to apply what is in it...everything else will happen FOR YOU, including that "Do Right Man."

I have read the book over and over and over...when I find myself slacking, if you will, I go back to it as a reference. It is an EXCELLENT book for ANYONE, regardless of sex or race.

[AlwaysDivine]

A good sign:

When he still visits your family even when you are out of town.