married but leaves ring at home - Page 2

33girl · #16 07-21-2003, 10:30 AM

If you never wear a ring, that's one thing. My father never did because double-ring ceremonies just weren't as prevalent in those days. Ditto for the guys who have safety issues at work.

But if you wear a ring all the time and then take it off to go out? NO. That's f-ed up.

doubleblue&gold · #17 07-21-2003, 10:38 AM

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Eirene_DGP · #18 07-21-2003, 10:41 AM

Aside from the dude not wearing the ring, I think the husband was wrong for putting himself in situation(s) to make it appear as though he were available. Once your married as deltaphi94 mentioned, I don't see why your wife cannot be in the same social setting as you. I've always heard that it is best for married couples to mix and mingle with other married couples.

steelepike · #19 07-21-2003, 10:49 AM

If the guy was flirting with other ladies he was wrong but if he just left it because it is jewelry or what not and it was totally innocent i see nothing wrong, but if the guy was trying to portray that he was single thats just uncool.

DeltAlum · #20 07-21-2003, 11:33 AM

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Originally posted by Rudey
The guy is a dick. But at the same time, why is he acting single? Pregnant wives maybe are not sexy so I don't completely blame him for wanting the attention of beautiful single women.

I'm absolutely amazed nobody reacted to this.

Some men consider pregnant women to be very sexy. Besided, they got her that way.

Sorry, no excuse there.

Here's just a little "seves you right" story. I was once in a bar with a married guy I knew slightly. He took off his wedding ring and put it in his jacket pocket -- then walked out of the bar, forgetting the jacket. When he got back, both were gone.

Wonder how he explained that to his wife.

Sorry guys, unless it is work or health related, it should be left on.

SparkliiQTMTSU · #21 07-21-2003, 11:37 AM

I'm pretty sure my guy would be wearing his ring no matter where he was. unless it was going to get ruined somehow like if he did some kind of outside work or something like that. otherwise he better not be taking it off when hes out with the boys. That would just be like hes wanting people to think that hes single and that would bother me. wether I thought he was going to cheat on me or not he still shouldnt need to take the ring off. theres no reason that he cant keep it on.

Nichole

33girl · #22 07-21-2003, 11:43 AM

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Originally posted by Eirene_DGP
Aside from the dude not wearing the ring, I think the husband was wrong for putting himself in situation(s) to make it appear as though he were available. Once your married as deltaphi94 mentioned, I don't see why your wife cannot be in the same social setting as you. I've always heard that it is best for married couples to mix and mingle with other married couples.

OK I SOOOOOOO disagree with this.

I'm not married, but have been in a relationship long enough that I might as well be. I love going out to clubs and dancing. Mr 33 hates it. I'm not going to force him to go with me, nor is he going to force me to stay home. That would just make both of us unhappy.

My dad belongs to a hunting camp that is very (ahem) rustic. My mother went with him once (she is like me - roughing it is not enough towels in the hotel) and said she never ever ever wanted to go again, but she wasn't going to stop him from going.

All couples should spend time apart from each other occasionally, and to say that marrieds should only socialize with marrieds - I don't even want to start on that one. If someone's really your friend, you don't dump them or not do things with them because they're not married and you are (or vice versa).

If a married man or woman can't go out for a night with the boys/girls without getting into trouble, the marriage had problems to begin with.

sigmagrrl · #23 07-21-2003, 11:46 AM

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Originally posted by DeltAlum
I'm absolutely amazed nobody reacted to this.

Some men consider pregnant women to be very sexy. Besided, they got her that way.

Sorry, no excuse there.

Here's just a little "seves you right" story. I was once in a bar with a married guy I knew slightly. He took off his wedding ring and put it in his jacket pocket -- then walked out of the bar, forgetting the jacket. When he got back, both were gone.

Wonder how he explained that to his wife.

Sorry guys, unless it is work or health related, it should be left on.

DeltAlum,

I felt it was completely worth ignoring that comment. Sometimes I wonder what he smokes before he gets online. Sometimes he may be kidding, other times he's not....I read it, and rolled my eyes

sigmagrrl · #24 07-21-2003, 11:48 AM

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Originally posted by 33girl
OK I SOOOOOOO disagree with this.

I'm not married, but have been in a relationship long enough that I might as well be. I love going out to clubs and dancing. Mr 33 hates it. I'm not going to force him to go with me, nor is he going to force me to stay home. That would just make both of us unhappy.

My dad belongs to a hunting camp that is very (ahem) rustic. My mother went with him once (she is like me - roughing it is not enough towels in the hotel) and said she never ever ever wanted to go again, but she wasn't going to stop him from going.

All couples should spend time apart from each other occasionally, and to say that marrieds should only socialize with marrieds - I don't even want to start on that one. If someone's really your friend, you don't dump them or not do things with them because they're not married and you are (or vice versa).

If a married man or woman can't go out for a night with the boys/girls without getting into trouble, the marriage had problems to begin with.

I agree with you. You should still feel and be independant enough to have friendships of your own and be without your spouse once in a while...

ZTAMiami · #25 07-21-2003, 12:04 PM

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Originally posted by DeltAlum
I'm absolutely amazed nobody reacted to this.

Some men consider pregnant women to be very sexy. Besided, they got her that way.

Sorry, no excuse there.

Thank You DeltAlum.
Seriously, for guys who think that way, just wait until the day your wife or significant other becomes pregnant, if you are so blessed.

docetboy · #26 07-21-2003, 12:05 PM

To me, it's simple.

If you are married, you wear the ring when going out.

Hardly any ifs, ands, or buts.

James · #27 07-21-2003, 12:05 PM

PRegnant women are still sexy to some men .. . There are whole porn sites dedicated to them . . . but there are like granny sex sites also . . . lol.

docetboy · #28 07-21-2003, 12:07 PM

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Originally posted by James
PRegnant women are still sexy to some men .. . There are whole porn sites dedicated to them . . . but there are like granny sex sites also . . . lol.

That just means there are some really sick people....

CutiePie2000 · #29 07-21-2003, 12:10 PM

If the guy takes his ring off for work for safety reasons, (i.e. he works in the trades), that's one thing.

For going out to the bars, that's a definite red flag.

James · #30 07-21-2003, 12:11 PM

Correct me if I am wrong . . . But:

People generally like to flirt and receive attention from members of the opposite sex even if they aren't going to know them in a biblical sense.

I have had seriously flirting conversations with girls at bars or parties where the girl is extremely flirtatious and somehow manages to avoid mentioning she has a BF/Husband all night long.

In fact even her friends usually won't say anything unless they are jealous that she is geting attention and they are not.

When asked about it later, I have been told that girls will hide their taken-status because they think boys won't talk to them if they are taken which means they won't have as much fun.

So, boys and girls are just as likely to to represent themselves as single when going out.