Legacy Question - Page 2

GeekyPenguin · #16 06-21-2003, 03:57 PM

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Originally posted by JohnsDGsweethrt
We are in 100% agreement here! I also think there are many definitions of what I would consider to be GREAT chapters! The most important for me is the quality of the sisterhood! (ie that its good!)

Exactly! For example, a friend of mine is a Pi Phi at a different school. She didn't like our chapter there, and so she didn't think she would like mine either - but when she met my sisters, she loved all of them! I can understand where people want their kids to join their GLO, but I would rather see them be happy. I have several relatives who are looking into AI, and I would love for them to be Gamma Phis, but if they find something they like in another group, then I will be happy for them too!

Peaches-n-Cream · #17 06-21-2003, 10:55 PM

I have a seven year old cousin who I hope becomes a PNM in 2014.

You never know.

Nikki_DZ · #18 06-22-2003, 12:11 PM

This is so hard.

My little cousin is the closest thing I have to a little sister. I used to haul her around with me everywhere, and I just adore the kid. This fall, she's attending the university where I'm an advisor for the DZ chapter. I would love, love, LOVE her to join our sisterhood, but on the same hand I don't want to pressure her. Plus, I honestly can't see her going through Recruitment. She's 19, engaged to a guy in the military, and might be transferring in a few years. And I can't see her parents being thrilled about the idea (my family is very, very small town and fundamentalist christian).

Kristin AGD · #19 06-22-2003, 12:18 PM

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Originally posted by Nikki_DZ
This is so hard.

My little cousin is the closest thing I have to a little sister. I used to haul her around with me everywhere, and I just adore the kid. This fall, she's attending the university where I'm an advisor for the DZ chapter. I would love, love, LOVE her to join our sisterhood, but on the same hand I don't want to pressure her. Plus, I honestly can't see her going through Recruitment. She's 19, engaged to a guy in the military, and might be transferring in a few years. And I can't see her parents being thrilled about the idea (my family is very, very small town and fundamentalist christian).

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have two cousins attending the Univ. of Oklahoma and they have no interest in rushing at this time. I am kinda dissapointed, they are awesome girls. But one is already involved in so much that I see where she is coming from. They both have nothing against greeks, it just doesn't seem worth the trouble to them at this point. I keep hoping they might change their mind, but in the end I want them to enjoy their college experience wherever they feel comfortable.

sugar and spice · #20 06-22-2003, 07:13 PM

I think that getting my potential kids to rush will be a big enough hurdle that I don't care what sorority my daughters end up in!

My family is pretty anti-Greek (or, at best, neutral), and I was the first person in it to join a Greek organization. Chances are that my husband won't be Greek either, which means that my children won't be innundated with Greek-dom like so many of you were.

I'd really like my kids to at least rush, but as long as they go through rush, I don't care if they decide it's not for them, or if they join Tri Delta.

I'm still trying to get my little sister to the point where she'll consider rushing . . . Any tips on how to do that?

DGMarie · #21 06-22-2003, 10:42 PM

I'd say the college is more important than which GLO's are there. My daughter would be a legacy to DG (through me), Pi Phi (through one grandmother), KKG (the other grandmother), Theta (greatgrandmother) and my sister is a Zeta. I figure we are covered in any case!

As for my son, his father, grandfather, greatgrandfather and all his great uncles are Lambda Chis.

DaisyCrazy · #22 06-23-2003, 12:36 PM

I would love for my future children to be legacies! I think it would be wonderful for my daughter and I to be able to talk about the ceremonies and secrets of AXO. But I wouldn't PUSH her to join AXO if she didn't feel right there.

From another perspective, I would have loved to have been a KD legacy (my mom is a KD) if they had a chapter at my school. One of the colleges I applied to did have a KD chapter and I have a feeling that if I had gone there, I would be a KD today. But both my parents were really supportive of my decision to go greek (they were both greek as well and met each other through their respective chapters) and they loved hearing my stories of the things my chapter did.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #23 06-23-2003, 12:44 PM

I don't plan on having children, but I do plan on living vicariously through my friends' children who will already be inundated with Gamma Phi by the time they get to college......

But, I am also a firm believer that everyone's life is their own choice. I'm sure my parents bit there tongue many times over the things I did and the guys I dated.

justamom · #24 06-24-2003, 10:22 PM

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Originally posted by HotDamnImAPhiMu
I'd raise my kids to understand the meaning Phi Mu has had for me, and the meaning greek life in general can have for its members.

Other than that..... what else can you really do? You push, they back away.....

how glad am I that I don't have kids yet? I'd have NO idea how to handle it! JAM, thank goodness we have women like you out there....

GOLLY!!! That was one heck of a surprise to read. You don't know how nice that was! Gee, thank you!

Forgot to respond, I was in shock!- No. Now that my daughter is a DG (I'm AXO), I can honestly say that I love the DGs too. Even though we are different GLOs, they saw something in each other that means a lot. How could I feel any differently if a GRANDCHILD

decided to be a PI PHI or a ZTA? In the end, we would all share Greek Life and that would be enough. A particular GLO really can't measure up to
the relationship of mother/daughter or grandmother/ grandaughter...if it's a LOVING relationship of couse. So, let her make her own choices and bring on the inlaws!!!

KDShan · #25 06-24-2003, 11:29 PM

My son is 3 years old. When I have CAB meetings, one of the women from the chapter watches him. He has grown up knowing Kappa Delta. If you ask him what kind of a girl he's going to marry he says "a KD lady!" His dad wasn't in a fraternity, but three of my very close male friends were: Sigma Chi, Pi Kappa Phi and Delta Tau Delta, so I would like for him to join one of those-so that he can be pinned by one of his 'uncles'.

erniegurl00 · #26 06-24-2003, 11:32 PM

I have to admit that I would LOVE for my daughters to go Pi Phi. It's sad, but one of the reasons I chose to buy a new, jeweled badge was with hopes of passing it down to my daughter. However, I know that I have no control over it. Knowing me I would want my daughter to be happy and to choose what she wanted to do. This could mean not joining a greek org or joining another org. Either way I'll be happy. (But secretly I'll be hoping she'll chose to be a Pi Phi sister so I can pin her and take her to convention with me. LOL

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Oh yes, I forgot to mention this. College comes first! I want my children to go to a school that will best help them and their chosen careers. Additionally, I want to add that I come from a somewhat greek family. However, ernieboy00 doesn't and his parents sometimes have a hard time understanding my choice to be greek. My poor children will simply have to choose for themselves!

SDTSarah · #27 06-24-2003, 11:54 PM

While I would love for my daughter to also be my sister, it was very painful to be cut by the group I'm a legacy to. I would never want my daughter to feel "undesirable" in any way...and, as many other people have said, education DEFINITELY comes first.

But, I can honestly say that there are so many wonderful GLOs...I would be happy for her, wherever (and if) she decided to go.

pinkyphimu · #28 06-25-2003, 11:45 PM

i would love to have my daughter be a phi mu, but i would hate for her to join a chapter if she didn't feel comfortable. it is a catch 22 in my opinion. if she really loved the girls in a different chapter, but pledged phi mu because of me.....then she probably wouldn't have the same fondness for phi mu as i do! since phi mu is for life, she would have plenty of time to get over that..lol.

i really wanted my mom to AI, but she said no. i had some friends whose moms AIed and i thought it would be great for my mom to do it too! when i approached her, she gave me this whole lecture about why she didn't want to be in a sorority. i think she still thinks that i had to eat goldfish like my aunt did in the 70s when she pledged!!! plus, there isn't an alum group in my area, so she couldn't really be active!

GPhiBLtColonel · #29 06-26-2003, 01:53 AM

I have two young sons who both know LOTS about Gamma Phi Beta due to my heavy alum involvement. Right now they both hate girls (they are 9 and 11) and they both say ewwwww! when I tell them that I sure hope they marry a Gamma Phi! Actually, I would not mind if they married a girl from a different GLO -- my biological sister is a Theta and some of my dearest friends are ChiO's, so....really I don't care that much....I know both my sons will go to good colleges and have opportunities to meet sorority women. My oldest is planning to attend the Air Force Academy and my youngest wants to be a paleontologist -- where are the colleges for that? I personally would love for him to attend my alma mater Southern Cal, though, and be in a fraternity there (I was a Lambda Chi and TKE little sister; I dated a Fiji for two years and got pinned to -- though never married -- a Sigma Nu, and hung out with the Betas since I was on swim team).

AlphaXiGirl · #30 06-26-2003, 01:19 PM

I am blessed with two beautiful Alpha Xi Delta legacies. My four year old is on her way (this weekend) to her third National Convention... although she is much more interested in the second half of our trip which is to "Mickey's House". My husband wants to know when we are going to finally just initiate her.

My sixteen-month-old has been lulled to sleep by a number of Alpha Xi Delta songs. My husband just laughs. I think secretly he really wants to sing the Theta Xi Sweetheart song to her.

I would like to think that my daughters will put "Alpha Xi Delta" in her list of things to consider when looking at schools but I don't want that to be a major reason for picking the school that she attends.

At four years of age, she always says, "I want to be in your Alpha Xi Delta Club". But she also wants to be a cheerleader and a dance teacher when she grows up. A lot will change in the next fourteen years - we'll see where she winds up.

As a side note: I often worry whether or not my involvement may have a negative impact on her decision to join Alpha Xi Delta. I am quite active and I am always mindful of her perceptions. At age 4, she just wants to be with mom where ever I go. When she's 11 and wants to stay home and play with friends and I try to drag her to the chapter house - I could end up with a fight on my hands. We'll cross that road when/if it comes.