what did you not like about rushing? - Page 2

curlygirly · #16 05-05-2003, 01:19 PM

...and the coffee house snapping.... it freaked me out when I saw that during rush, but I'm used to it now.

I remember kneeling on the floor of the Kappa house during their skits, and the sisters were snapping. It was weird to me at first, but now I understand... you let people know you agree with them without clapping over what they're saying.

It's funny b/c we'll snap at chapter and during announcements after dinner... but sometimes I find my sisters snapping (i don't know how to snap!!

) at non-Kappa events, and it'll catch on!

AchtungBaby80 · #17 05-05-2003, 01:29 PM

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Originally posted by curlygirly
It's nice that the houses offer cold water for the PNM's to drink... but then you'd have to use the gross porta-pottys planted in the middle of sorority row! (trust me... NOT fun!)

Tell me something, everyone. Why is it so awful if a PNM asks to use the bathroom? When I rushed, our Rho Chi stressed that we were NOT supposed to ask to use the bathroom at any of the houses we visited, but why? Bladders don't know that it's rush week and they have to behave, so I've never thought anything of it when a PNM asks me to take her to the restroom.

LeslieAGD · #18 05-05-2003, 01:53 PM

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Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
Tell me something, everyone. Why is it so awful if a PNM asks to use the bathroom? When I rushed, our Rho Chi stressed that we were NOT supposed to ask to use the bathroom at any of the houses we visited, but why?

Not that it's right, but
1) it can screw up the rotation
2) it can come off as if you are uninterested and you want to get away

dzrose93 · #19 05-05-2003, 02:16 PM

Couple things that I disliked while rushing:

In one party, I was sitting next to a beauty queen (seriously, she had won a big pageant recently), and both my rusher and hers were both latched onto her every word. I was ignored and basically had to either a) listen to their conversation or b) stare into space until a floater finally noticed me and came over to chat. I cut that house as soon as possible. I suppose that my advice to rushers would be to stick with your girl -- no matter who is sitting next to her.

Also, in a pref party, my rusher had me sitting in a chair while she knelt at my feet, held my plate, and tried to feed me tea cakes. I mean that she literally tried to feed me -- like a mother holding a spoon for her toddler. Even though the girl was perfectly nice, the situation was weird, and it made me really uncomfortable. I would much rather sit eye-to-eye with someone and make conversation rather than having someone kneeling at my feet like they're my own personal servant.

lyrelyre · #20 05-05-2003, 02:25 PM

I know a lot of people don't like being rushed by someone who's sitting on the floor while they're sitting in a chair or on a couch. I thought it was awkward too. But, our PX explained to us that most houses did it because PNMs might not know they would have to sit on the floor and may have worn clothing in which it would be difficult to get up and down from the floor. After she explained that it made a lot more sense.

OUlioness01 · #21 05-05-2003, 03:02 PM

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Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
Tell me something, everyone. Why is it so awful if a PNM asks to use the bathroom? When I rushed, our Rho Chi stressed that we were NOT supposed to ask to use the bathroom at any of the houses we visited, but why? Bladders don't know that it's rush week and they have to behave, so I've never thought anything of it when a PNM asks me to take her to the restroom.

my Rho Chis encouraged us to ask to use the bathroom if we needed to. Not only that, they told us which houses had the prettiest bathrooms in advance so that we would ask in the houses that had really really nice bathrooms.

XOMichelle · #22 05-05-2003, 03:09 PM

I did not like that the sororities lied to me about how rush worked. They should just say they discuss each girl and vote! Please, it's easier to know the truth. Also, I wasn't told by my Rho Chi all my options, that peeved me a lot too. She was trying to be positive and steer me in the direction of her house, and withheld information. Thankfully it backfired (I got this feeling she wasn't telling the truth and cut her house), but please tell the PNM's the truth! They can tell when you are not genuine.

UF56 · #23 05-05-2003, 03:29 PM

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Originally posted by curlygirly

Or how about when the girls all line up outside of the house before taking the PNM's in... and all the girls look the SAME! Now I don't mean wearing the same clothes... but physically! They all had the same "look." It was definitely INTIMIDATING! (being a brunette and all! )

LOL!!!! HA HA HA I know which house you are refering to!!! I can see where what your saying would be true, but I can also see for some that theyre like ooooh....I look like them....I'll fit right in!!! And you are right about the hotness oh my lord!!! We about sweated to death!!! But rush is good in the sense I got to meet great people like curlygirly!!!!

USChica06 · #24 05-05-2003, 03:50 PM

The noise. I couldn't hear anything for a week. I think I spent my classes with the "Just Smile and Nod" technique.

Professor: "Bethany-how was your weekend?"

Me:

DGMarie · #25 05-05-2003, 03:55 PM

I did not like people kneeling on the floor in front of me. It makes for very awkward conversation. I would prefer to be seated and the rusher be seated.

curlygirly · #26 05-05-2003, 05:28 PM

So after reading some replies... I agree!!! I hated how the Pi Chis (Ro Chi... whatever you want to call them!) weren't very up front about recruitment. I remember asking them how they the sisters would be able to remember us (and several other rush questions), and their standard answer for everything was "Each house does it differently." When in reality, there are some very basic similarities. How else are they going to give you a bid, if they don't discuss you?!

PNM's don't need to know the EXACT procedure but don't skirt around the issue. Fortunately I had someone (KDonline) who gave me advice and answered all my UF rush questions honestly.... b/c if I had gone by what my Pi Chis said, I would've been so lost. Also, (UF56...you'll remember this) DZ colonized at UF this year and our Pi Chis were basically discouraging people to drop from rush JUST to rush DZ (we attended an info session during Round 1). It seemed as if they wanted to girls to try for DZ only as a last option. I even remember one of my Pi Chis saying to another of the Pi Chis that if girls were dropped from their "top" houses during rush, they probably wouldn't get picked for DZ. They definitely didn't give them a very good chance.

I hated kneeling on the ground... or sitting in a chair and having a sister kneel in front of me. It's just awkward.. and how are you supposed to kneel in a skirt, and then "gracefully" stand up?!

Rush was fun in the sense that I got to meet people (UF56!), and I still talk to girls from my rush group around campus. But then there are others that joined XYZ and are "too good" to talk to you.

Alright... I've said enough!!! Looking forward to everyone's responses!

RedHotChiO · #27 05-05-2003, 06:08 PM

There were only two houses, so it was clear that there was a rivalry between them. The one thing that really turned me off about this sorority was how they kept complaining about the other sorority. "Oh the other sorority hazes!" "You'll get fined if you ever miss chapter, we never fine here at XYZ." "The other sorority doesn't let you go to chapter, because they don't think you're important enough to go to chapter. We let all of our members go to chapter, and you can even vote." Needless to say, I wasn't very impressed. After I joined the other sorority and went through rush practice, one thing that they always told us is that the name of the other sorority should never be mentioned when a girl is at a rush party in our house. We have only a short amount of time to convince them to be Chi Omegas. You should only focus on the positive aspects of our sorority. It works for us.

Dirty rushing never works out in the end.

Glitter650 · #28 05-05-2003, 06:08 PM

About the whole snapping thing... funny that you should mention it because almost all phi sig chapters snap, my chapter HATES IT... so we don't do it... it's painfully obvious when we are at events as a division and we are the only chapter that doesn't snap... just thought it was funny that it turned off some of you as rushees at first... I guess that could be a plus that we don't snap

aephi alum · #29 05-05-2003, 06:12 PM

At one house I was constantly asked "So, do you have any questions about XYZ?" I ran through my pre-planned questions pretty quickly, which led to some awkward pauses.

At another house I got quite the cold shoulder. We had a round of formal rush called "informal rush" which is the only round where you can go outside the student center. So, two sisters, another PNM, and I went to Boston Public Garden for a swan boat ride. The swan boats have benches - so I sat down on one bench, and the other PNM sat down behind me. One sister climbed in next to the other PNM, and the other sister, instead of sitting next to me, sat in the row behind me as well. None of them talked to me for the whole ride.

One sorority sprinkled confetti all over the floor of their rush room, and then expected the PNMs to sit on the floor during a skit. Spending the rest of the day trying to surreptitiously brush glitter off your new black pants is NOT fun. (Also, every year they got charged with a rush infraction for giving gifts, because PNMs tracked confetti out of the room.)

Over and above all that, though, formal rush just struck me as massively fake, and I wound up dropping out and finding my new home via COB the following week.

ToBeSororityGrl · #30 05-05-2003, 06:17 PM

God, that gets old after every 5 minutes. I feel stupid asking the same questions over and over to different girls. Should they be asking us questions about ourselves? Soo, why did you choose that dorm, why did you choose this school, what did you do this summer, just something to find out about us maybe.

I'd also like to see the groups use the things they bring a lot more. Like we won this at greek week because our skit was yada yada and I was involved, or I watched and something. Like show your group off, not just show a pic and mention what it is, but really explain what it is!