diamond sisters

[violets]

adpiucf,
Thanks for sharing such wonderful memories with us!
The oceanside Diamond revealing sounds amazing! I can't really remember how my Diamond (big) was revealed to me, but I do remember that our relationship, like a lot of solid friendships, took time to build. But I loved having her as my big, she was incredibly bright and had boundless energy. She also was very sweet with me, she regarded me as extremely innocent, so it took time for us to get to a place where we were both on equal footing, but the time was worth it. I think there is pressure in general for Diamond Sisters, or any "special sisters" to click together immediately, and for some women this does happen. However, frienships that take time to build are just as precious and sometimes have an even more solid foundation to them.
Just my 2 cents..
violets

[adpiucf]

Violets,

I defintely agree that there is a lot of pressure on the Diamond Pairings to be the best of friends. A lot of the other sororities place such an emphasis on their "Big" and "Little" relationships; when really the Diamond sister is merely the special friend who leads you through Initiation-- you have a chapter full of sisters to be your best friends for life. Objectively, that is the way we are supposed to see it, but even as an International Officer, I still would like more emphasis placed on the Diamond Sister relationship. I think having such a short new member program has a lot to do with it, not to mention that we get assigned diamond sisters so quickly (or for those of you out there getting them right before Initiation, we're supposed to get them within 10 days of our bids during Formal Recruitment, and within 24 hours of accepting COR bids). It's hard to determine within that short amount of time which alpha-delta pairings will work out the best, and alphas have such limited input as to who their diamond sis will be.

[ADPiSAI]

My diamond sister and I get along really well. This past semester was really hectic for me, so I'm hoping that we get to spend more time together next semester.

In my chapter, your diamond sister is the one who delivers your bid. You get a little diamond sister in the order in which you were initiated, unless you're really close with the newest alpha -- then it's given to the next person down on the list so they get a chance to get to know someone new.

Prides aren't all that big in my chapter since we're really small, but we did have activity this past semester where we made up prides. I think we're going to try to keep doing this, but it's kind of hard as a small chapter. I can't say we have problems with cliques anyway. We definitely get to know everyone else in the group without a problem!

[SLUadpi]

I wish I could say that my big diamond sister and I were close, but we're not. Since she is 2 years ahead of me and has a "full time" boyfriend, it's hard for us to get to spend time together. The only time we really hung out was the six weeks before initiation and we had a great time. I wish we could've became really close, but I'm going to make sure that I spend as much time as I possibly can with my little diamond sis to make sure she feels comfortable in the sorority. It's really pathetic, I already have all of my diamond sister gifts bought for her for next semester!! I'm soooo excited to be a big sis!

We reveal diamond sisters during our fall retreat which is like 2 weeks after bid day.... on the last day of retreat, all the deltas show up and the alphas put together a funny skit to show them. Then the alphas stand in a big circle and the deltas stand behind them, and each of the deltas have made a candle for their diamond sis, and we sing Pass it On and the big diamond sister walks around the circle and hands her candle to her little diamond sis. It was great. Then we do "bonding" activities with them for the rest of the day.

Prides are actually a HUGE thing at our chapter. We really try and emphasize them for the sake of the alphas so they can get to know alot of the older girls as well as the ones in their class. We go to alot of movies, picnics in the park, the zoo to see the lion that we adopted , pick up trash on our part of the adopt a highway, or even study dates at the library (like any studying gets done...yea right). At the end of every couple months a prize is given to the most active pride, and then we join a new pride for the next couple months.

[MiamiADPi]

I've been searching the boards for weeks now about recruitment ideas and sisterhood ideas, I keep coming across something new that I want to comment on. (I'll try to keep my bringing threads up from the dead a minimum though)

Since we just rechartered this year, we were assigned "Long Distance" Diamond sisters a few weeks after Alpha Ceremony.... My diamond is the same year I am at UF and we talked all the time at first, I felt a connection with her right away. The few weeks before Initiation, I started thinking about depledging and questioning if ADPi was really for me (sooo glad I didn't!). She was the best and reminded me that you can't expect immediate bonds with 90 something girls, it's just not possible. It was a rough couple of weeks, but she told me to stick with it because things will get better and they did. I hadn't talked to her in about a month and then a few days ago she IMed me and our short 15 min. conversation totally made my day. It's amazing how you can have such a strong connection with someone you've never met; sometimes it's scary how often we'll say the same exact thing. lol-

As for prides, we were assigned prides with 8-10 girls last semester and they were great at first, but after a few weeks it would be the same 3 or 4 girls showing up at pride events. Halfway through the semester, it just died out. Our MEVP just assigned new prides and pride leaders will be announced on Monday after they get back from DLC :crossing fingers:. Definitely looking forward to this semester---- so many great things planned and so many great times ahead.

Now back to browsing the boards.....

[CougADPi]

I am as close to my big as I can be considering she lives in Europe now. But apparently she is moving back to the States, so hopefully I will get to see her soon. I am close-ish with my three littles, though its difficult to keep in touch at times. I think I am closest with my "Grand-big". She was the only one able to make it to my wedding. I love her to death (and she adopted me when my big graduated and moved around the world )

[ADPiShannan]

My older diamond and I had a little bit of a rocky start at first, but then we became very close. When she graduated it was very hard on me and took me a while to really have fun in the chapter. I missed her like crazy. We keep in touch by e-mail and sometimes phone, but it seems like its hard to keep in touch with anyone anymore with work schedules, ect.. I miss her though.

As for my younger diamonds, I took two of them. One of them was VERY close with me we were together all the time, on the phone all the time, and did everything together. The other we had a hard relationship from the start, she dated a guy I used to know and it was just bad esp when I told her what I thought about him. We never really connected after that. Although she was in my wedding, we dont keep in touch much at all. She is still in the chapter and graduating this spring I think, we just dont have as much in common as I thought we would. I wish we could get past everything and work things out, I just dont know if that will happen. As for the other one who I was super close to, we also got off track due to the other diamond, a big mess, too hard to explain and I had to take sides and I shouldnt have and it cost me her. I try to email her all the time to try to work things out, but I just think she isnt ready to and Im not sure if she ever will. I really wish she was though, cause I miss her like mad and we had so much fun. She was one of my best friends. Hopefully oneday we can work things out, but for now I wont push it with her or I may lose her forever.

[EXiADPi]

Well I have my big <> and I have my 3 lil <>s.

I was close to nauadpi while she was in Flagstaff but after she ran away back to California it has been hard because I am still the over involved person she left here in Arizona. When she was here we were inseperable and just alike. We still can have conversations about nothing and other things that people think are strange. I still remeber that she wants to be the soap on a rope in Dean Cane's shower. I have to be careful when i say that because the Dean of the College of Education's name is Dean Kain.

My first little and I are not close at all. She has a larger bond with another sister which is fine. We talk to each other whenever we see each other on campus or in the hall but it is nothing spectacular.

My second little is my best friend. I have known her since my first day at NAU. I did my recruitment of girls I knew and was able to suck her in. We were doing a South Park COR with punch, pie, and cheesie poofs and she didn't want to snub me by just walking by the booth. She decided to go because she is adicted to cheesie poofs. Well we got a KD legacy (which isn't here) and her younger sister if she ever goes through initiation. Getting Lindsay is another story for another day. We worked some magic on that one. Kayce and I have had our trying times and who hasn't in 5 years. She lives in my suite in the room next door and this could be a problem because we were up late last night just talkin.

My third little I am close with but I am afraid. I think I will stay close with her because we have a bond over my obsession with NASCAR especially Tony Stewart, and my friend hot Nick.

I have bonds with other women so I guess it is just who matches you the most.