Rules for wearing IFC members letters

[WUSIGMA3]

In My chapter, when you are serious (aka exclusive) if the guy is in a fraternity he will give you his laveliere, but if he is not in a fraternity he will give us a pearl drop necklace. Its a really big thing for us to get lavilered or pearl dropped. I don't know if other sororities have an equivalent of the pearl drop though.

[kateshort]

Originally posted by AGDZO Susan
Has anyone ever heard of a sorority member lavaliering her boyfriend (giving him a lavalier with her letters on it)?

I've done it! This was between a girl in a local and a guy in Phi Mu Alpha Sinfonia.

He lavaliered me my sophomore year (hid it in my coat on the way home from a "Run for the Border" date party, wrapping it in sheep ribbon left over from my halloween costume. I ended up giving him a lavalier (I had gotten two), but he never wore it. We went to pick out letters for me together (weird plaid on purple, and I still wear them).

Next summer, before his senior year, I sent him my sorority pin. I also got him a Delta Chi Epsilon sweatshirt, which he sometimes wore. The following January, on our anniversary, he pinned me.

Two years later, when I was at grad school, I proposed to him about two weeks before our anniversary. Two and a half years later we finally tied the knot.


So yeah, it happens, but it's kind of rare!

[xo_kathy]

We lavaliered first, and the guy would get "treed" if he did (tied to a tree on the sorority's property in his underwear and have disgusting stuff thrown all over him by his brothers).

Next step was getting "pearled" - a pearl ring worn on the left ring finger. This was the equivalent of pre-engagement and the same as being pinned, but no one on our campus would give away his pin!!!!!

Then engagement.

I was a Pike sweetheart and never got a pin. I don't think any of the fraternities on my campus gave sweetheart pins...

And I don't think I would have wanted my boyfriend's pin. I would never want a non-Chi Omega wearing mine, so I wouldn't expect him to let me wear his. A lavaliere I would have liked, but oh well!!!! I wouldn't have wanted to clean him up! YUCK!

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

For comparison, here is the official pin for an undergraduate pin for a Teke


Here's the TKE Sweetheart pin, this one is the slightly more expensive one though. (..and the one I want from Christmas )

[The1calledTKE]

May I add the TKE sweetheart pin looks more like a smaller version of the alumni pin. All undergrads have to have the more plain one.

[dzandiloo]

Funny story about "lavaliering." Where I went to school, a lavalier was called a "drop." My Freshman year, my then friend/future brother-in-law told me he was going to "drop" his girlfriend (my pledge sister). I was distraught. I couldn't believe he was telling me he was going to dump someone who I was close to and he seemed happy about it!
Long story short, I got the full explanation (it wasn't until I traveled as a chapter consultant 4 years later that I ever heard anone call it a "lavalier") and was quite relieved. I think they need to stop calling it "dropping" though--it became quite the running joke that none of us wanted to be dropped b/c it seemed like everytime someone got dropped, they inevitably broke up within a few months. :P Of course, I got my drop, and yes--we broke up about 7 months later. In fact, I don't know anyone who got a drop that didn't end up breaking up at some point (strangely, most of us ended up getting back together and are now married to the "droppers"). I think I would have preferred to be pinned. I think that is a lost art...but then I guess, lavaliers are a whole lot cheaper than pins, eh? Still, I wouldn't mind finding a Lambda Chi sweetheart pin under the Christmas tree (and my dh isn't involved as an alumni so that would seem weird,I guess, but I love LXA's pin).
I'm rambling, so I'll shut up now.

[cinamin1]

Well, I know i cant even conceive of giving him my pin. In my org., if you're not a member, you can't wear the pin. Point blank!

As far as him giving me his pin, i'm totally afraid, now! I didn't know it was that...binding! I love him so much, really.

We've had major hurdles during our relationship b/c of the interracial dating thing. His Dad was the biggest hurdle of them all- -he wouldn't even look at me or allow me to visit their home. Now he accepts me (as an educated young lady), respects me and realizes his views of black people are totally on a case by case basis .


Thanks for all the help, you've really gave me the insight I needed...
I'll keep you guys posted!