big/lil

[Cardinal026]

There was no such thing as a single sister taking triplets in our pledge class. A lot of girls tried to be optimistic about it, but I think all of us liked the idea of having our own big sister! The revealing was so much fun, and the big sister that I got took me completely by surprise! She had actually been at the top of my list, but all my clues so logically pointed to someone else, I forgot about how they try to trick us! We went out with our Family (who I still haven't figured out *quite* what they are, since my grandbig has graduated) and had a really great time in DC, even though the club we tried to go to got shut down. So I'm really excited about this semester, and LOVE my big!

[Hootie]

Congratulations on getting your Big Sister! I'm glad she was one of your top choices! That always make it nice!

I had a hard time figuring out the family thing too at first - especially when my Grand Big had two littles and then there were branch-offs! But I love my family! They're lots of fun!

Here's a link to a picture of my family! If you scroll to the bottom you'll find us!

My personal page

Dawn is the Grand Big.
Molly and Megan are her littles.
Katie and I are Molly's littles. Angel is Megan's little.
Caslyn is Katie's little. Sarah is Angel's little!

See how complicated it can be!

[Cardinal026]

What a fun picture! I kinda wish our family were as big as some of the others. My real family has 6 kids so I'm used to lots of people! But I think the answer to that will just be for me to take a little next Spring.

[XOAlumXO]

I remember meeting my big during rush. We just hit it off, and after I became a pledge, we just started hanging out. WE had a pretty big family. I took twins as my lils. My big and I are still the best of friends, and we've been graduated for 2 years now.

For those of our Alum sisters, does your chapter have reunions and have you went to one? (And for you collegiates, feel free to answer if your chapter holds reunions!! My chapter is fairly young still, so we haven't had an 'official' reunion yet)

[Hootie]

Originally posted by XOAlumXO
I remember meeting my big during rush. We just hit it off, and after I became a pledge, we just started hanging out. WE had a pretty big family. I took twins as my lils. My big and I are still the best of friends, and we've been graduated for 2 years now.

For those of our Alum sisters, does your chapter have reunions and have you went to one? (And for you collegiates, feel free to answer if your chapter holds reunions!! My chapter is fairly young still, so we haven't had an 'official' reunion yet)

I think it'd be fun to have a family reunion. I actually just emailed my grandbig last night...I haven't seen or talked to her since before I moved to Texas She mass emailed everyone about her change of address...so at least I know she still thinks of me

[xoheatherxo]

i remember getting my big sis!! all of us new members were trying to figure out who our big was, but i kept asking all the actives if they knew who mine was. of course they wouldnt tell me and they all kept telling us that they couldnt have a little that semester for some reason. they all did a pretty good job cause i didnt know until reveal who mine was!! my big ended up being my first choice, but the clues she gave me described almost all of my choices the first 2 days and then the last day i narrowed it down to 2 girls. me and my big totally bonded and are as close as can be!! were 2000 miles away from each other now, but shes still the first person i call when anything happens and we talk at least 3 times a week just to keep each other updated on how were doing and whats going on in our lives. congrats to all the new baby owls who just got bigs!!!

[Cardinal026]

Hey guys,
I posted a couple of posts up about how excited I was about getting my big sister...but now I was hoping for a little bit of advice.

It's been like three weeks since big sister revealing, and I haven't seen my big once since then. She doesn't have a cell phone, and is never online on AIM. I e-mailed her the week after big sister revealing, and still haven't gotten responses. So after listening to all my pledge sisters talk about all the amazing things they're doing with their bigs, I'm starting to feel a bit left out. A couple of days ago I put a sign I made for her on my computer in her file in our file room, and haven't heard back about that either. Well, today I was sitting with a bunch of my pledge sisters and regular sisters at a table on campus, and she walked up, and said hi to a couple of people before me, and then said that she was doing an exchange to Malta next semester??? I'm starting to feel like she got me just because I put her at the top of my list, and maybe she didn't want me? And if she's really going to Malta, she'll miss my initiation, which is next semester (We do a LONG pledge process). Also, someone suggested to me that since she's the only other person in our family, she was obligated to take a little so her family didn't die out. I feel weird talking to my G.M., just because she was my first choice, and I don't really want to complain. Just not sure what to do. Has anyone been in this situation? Would love to hear, or get some advice...Thanks guys.

[xo_kathy]

While I think it's a little sad that you aren't getting attention from her, I don't think you should worry about it too much. I had a big that seemed extremely excited about getting me, and was perfectly nice to me, but never "connected" with me. I just pursued relationships with other active sisters and connected extremely well with many of them. I have about 3 women who were in my big's pledge class that acted as bigs for me when it came to me needing a sister to turn to.

The same can be said for my little. While I definitely made sure to be a "better" big, she and I were good friends, but I did became more of a big to some other girls in her pledge class. Sometimes you pick a big or little because they seem the perfect fit after your first couple weeks pledging, but remember that you barely know one another yet. There may be better fits that you hadn't met by the time you picked bigs. Remember, while it's always fun to become best friends with your big, there are tons of women in your chapter to form wonderful, close bonds with!

Good luck!

[CardinalSM]

I know you feel like you shouldn't talk to your GM because your big was your first choice, but you should talk to her! That is what your GM is there for I am sure she would be glad to talk to you about it, it might even feel great for you just to have someone to vent to. Give it a shot!