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NinjaPoodle · #16 10-15-2002, 11:59 PM

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Originally posted by kizzie22
Well, SoRHOr I am also back on the market again too...

Hang in there soRHOr!

kizzie22 · #17 10-16-2002, 05:29 PM

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Originally posted by NinjaPoodle

Hang in there soRHOr!

Thanks Soror!!

jojapeach · #18 10-17-2002, 02:11 PM

SoRHOr Ninja Poodle, I'm really happy for you. I liked how you didn't chase him and act eager to meet just anybody. You just played it cool without looking for someone, and a nice guy that you like fell right in your lap. My philosophy has always been to not go out seeking a man because you usually find trash when you're looking.

SoRHOr HolyGhost7, EXCELLENT advice!

When you're not with someone, that is the best time to work on YOU. I learned from a Singles' Fellowship that the time when you're single is the most important time of your life becuase you don't have a lot of other obligations, ie husband, children, in-laws and everything else that comes with it, to take up your time. Like HolyGhost7 said, once you get things right with you, everything else will fall into place.

Last thing: I, like Soror HG, also pray about what kind of man God wants me to have. When you're praying, be specific. When your general prayer is just, "Send me a man," that's all you're going to get: a man. He won't necessarily be a kind, sensitive, intelligent, well-versed, financially stable or even a decent man. Just a man. And that's where trouble starts again. (You learn a lot of things at Bible Study.

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Lastly, I'm in your boat, too, SoRHOr Kizzie22. I'm wishing both of us luck.

NinjaPoodle · #19 10-24-2002, 04:04 AM

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Originally posted by jojapeach
SoRHOr Ninja Poodle, I'm really happy for you. I liked how you didn't chase him and act eager to meet just anybody. You just played it cool without looking for someone, and a nice guy that you like fell right in your lap. My philosophy has always been to not go out seeking a man because you usually find trash when you're looking.

Soror, I find that to be true also.

There is something I noticed. Although I was born in Chicago, I grew up here in San Francisco. Generally speaking, a lot of the men out here are DISRESPECTFUL towards women. I've noticed that the guys I've dated that are from the eastern shore board {with the exception of one-soRHOr SeriousSigma22, U know whom I'm talking about!

} tend to have more home training than these knuckleheads out here. And the Cali boy's who have potential, are conceited.

Oh, well. I feel I got it right this time so I can't complain.

He's a Philly transplant...

Tinese · #20 10-24-2002, 04:46 PM

Greetings sorhors:

It is so true that when you don't go looking for a man that's when you will find one. This has recently happen to me. I went to go visit one of our sorors in Maryland and we went to a que pic nic. And I literally ran into an Omega man. I just went down there to have fun with sorhors and came out with a man. And the more I think about it, he truly is a blessing because he fits the description that I prayed for. Prior to me meeting him I hadn't been in a relationship for three years. And during that time I period I was able to focus on my needs and get myself completely together so that I can be a better mother and a stronger woman. I hope this testimony helps someone out.

Tinese
Zeta Nu Alumnae Chapter Boston MA

SeriousSigma22 · #21 10-24-2002, 09:05 PM

You go Sorhor Ninjapoodle!

Serioussigma22

NinjaPoodle · #22 10-25-2002, 07:17 PM

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Originally posted by SeriousSigma22
You go Sorhor Ninjapoodle!

Serioussigma22

We get to take pictures at our "prom" so I'll send you a copy!

Shelacious · #23 10-25-2002, 08:31 PM

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Originally posted by NinjaPoodle

There is something I noticed. Although I was born in Chicago, I grew up here in San Francisco. Generally speaking, a lot of the men out here are DISRESPECTFUL towards women. I've noticed that the guys I've dated that are from the eastern shore board {with the exception of one-soRHOr SeriousSigma22, U know whom I'm talking about!} tend to have more home training than these knuckleheads out here. And the Cali boy's who have potential, are conceited.

My girlfriend and I were just discussing this (again) yesterday over lunch. Having dated guys who were from originally Ohio, Philly, New York, I had long ago noticed a significant difference between men in other parts of the country and California men. It's not just AA men either--I've heard women from all types of ethnicities complaining about CA men.

I think part of the problem here is that many people MOVE FROM somewhere to move to Cali, so there's this really weird feeling of "unreality" --of folks trying to create a new "them" different from whatever they're running from. There's also not a sense of extended family (or really family at all) like I've seen in other parts of the country, and for many, their "friends" are their only family in CA. There's no passing down of family traditions or even respect for the family unit, 'cause sometimes they've come to CA to get AWAY from that family unit. Individualism is really encouraged and expected here. It's not considered unusual AT ALL for guys to still be "unattached" and playing the field well in their 30s, 40s and 50s here and there's no real incentive from the family that's not here anyway to get "attached."

On another thread about CA men, I joked that I would start a dating service that gets newly transplanted CA guys straight from the airport and wisks them to a woman's home before they're contaminated with the "playa posse freaky CA gene".

((Still calculating the start-up costs)).

BlueReign · #24 10-28-2002, 02:09 PM

Ninja, I am so happy for you and what a nice date! I remember your nightmare story and I am glad you met a gentleman.

I'm dating and enjoying it. Since I've been married before I am in no real rush to do it again so I just enjoy meeting different men and going out. And the men I've met... that's a whole nother thread!

NinjaPoodle · #25 11-08-2002, 02:23 AM

My "prom" is this saturday so I will give ya'll an update on what happened.

And if I can figure out how to work the f*#@$n scanners at school, I'll post the pics too.

It's a formal event so we're going all out except for the limo.

NinjaPoodle · #26 12-09-2002, 07:27 PM

SeriousSigma22 · #27 12-09-2002, 07:47 PM

Ninjapoodle,

Sorhor, you go girl! Handle your business!

Serioussigma22

NinjaPoodle · #28 12-11-2002, 04:41 AM

Oops..sorry about that.

So here's the story. I had a really busy morning the day of the prom and I didn't get home from my errands until around 4pm. This thing started at 6pm but the good thing was that the hotel was about a 15-minute drive from my house. For those of you who know San Francisco, I'm on the SF side of San Bruno Mt. and the hotel was in South San Francisco...an airport hotel. Anyway, He arrives around 5:30 to pick me up and he looked DEVASTATINGLY HANDSOME IN HIS TUX!!!! And, yes being the woman, I looked absolutely fabulous! So, after we get into his car, he hands me a small box which turns out to be a pair of BEAUTIFUL diamond and pearl earings. I don't celebrate my birthday because to me it's just another day but he found out it was my b-day and got the earrings for my b-day.

So, we head on to the event and even though we got there around 630, we were one of the first people to show up but about 10 minutes after we got there, other guests started to arrive. It was really nice! My friend had decorated the room like a prom, balloons streamers and the whole nine. The photographer was set up in one corner of the room and the buffet was on the other side and the DJ was in the front. She had a "prom court" and of course she was the queen--well it was her birthday, ya know?

Ok, I'm tired and it's 12:40am. I'll finish this tomorrow.

SeriousSigma22 · #29 12-11-2002, 08:37 PM

Ninjapoodle,

I see that you really had a wonderful time and I'm so happy for you.

Serioussigma22

NinjaPoodle · #30 01-13-2003, 10:55 PM

SoRHOr SeriousSigma22, Check your e-mail

Eee-yyyiip!
NP.