Why is it so hard to date greek guys? - Page 2

OPAGal · #16 09-26-2002, 11:49 AM

Let me just tell you it's definitly not just greek guys. My boyfriend of 5 years has had so many girls try to take him home after mixers it horrible. Even we he tell them that he has a girl friend they say "Well I don't care" Then when I pull up to take him home they dissapear. So while not all girls are this way there are just as many girls as guys.

CarolinaDG · #17 09-26-2002, 03:47 PM

General rule of thumb... if they won't do anything with you outside of a bar, all they really want is sex.

sororitygirl2 · #18 09-26-2002, 04:11 PM

Okay, I keep trying to post this but GC is being SO slow!

Anyway, I am going to make a sweeping generalization here, so prepare yourself: BOYS LIKE SEX (and girls too, for that matter!)

However, a boy's hormone levels do not increase just because he chooses to sport Greek letters. Non-Greek guys like sex too...

So, my rule is not that I do not date fraternity boys... it is that I don't try to start a relationship with boys I meet at bars. Instead, I date boys I meet in class, volunteering, or through friends. Of course, these boys too want to hook up, but usually not as soon as we meet (or maybe they just don't act on it so quickly... they can't really try to grind with you in class)!

*Disclaimer: I do agree that sometimes when a large group of guys are hanging out together, it can breed a macho attitude... so I guess that boys in fraternity may act a little more into sex... however, I am sure the non-Greek guys are too... they just don't show it all the time!

edited for grammar!

Optimist Prime · #19 09-26-2002, 04:21 PM

Find a Theta Chi.

annice22 · #20 09-26-2002, 04:44 PM

We do not have theta chi at my school. I wasn't trying to generalize or sterotype all fraternity guys. It was just the fraternity guys here at my school they always seem to be "looking to get some" all the time and they don't care with whom. Plus, the guy i like is probably too immature for me anyway.

nyrdrms · #21 09-26-2002, 05:47 PM

This is going to sound real bad, but bear with me.

It’s the beginning of a new school year and because of this there is an abundance of new girls on campus. Freshman girls are no longer under their parents control and guys will take advantage of this fact. I know that’s how it is here. One of my friends refers to it as the “freshman fun time” because the freshman are willing to do things they normally wouldn’t because now they can. After a month or two, it starts to die down a little bit, and with it, the guys hormones. I’m not saying that the girls are at fault or that the guys are for that matter. It’s just that many people are looking to just have fun, and for some, that means sex. If that’s not what you’re looking for, then say no. And if that doesn’t work, try to find a friend to help you out of the situation.

RUgreek · #22 09-26-2002, 05:49 PM

that's because most guys do want some

I understand that this sort of personality is not what you are looking for, so just ignore him and meet other guys. In the interests of sounding P.C., don't stereotype his house, but honestly I don't think you'll find your winner there. Just have fun, it's college

RUgreek

#23 09-26-2002, 06:12 PM

I've had girls say some pretty immature things to me too. I hold to the theory that girls are just as confused and frustrated at guys as guys are confused and frustrated at girls. In this more than anything else is there equality between men and womyn.
Most of the guys in my house have girlfriends, including me. I can't imagine of us saying anything immature like that.

My advice to you is to stop lookin' for those guys who'll tell you that you have nice legs and then ask you what time they'll open.
And disregard whoever gave the advice to become a cock tease ("If you can't fight 'em join 'em" or whatever). You don't want to stoop down to that level, you want to associate with guys at your level.
Keep your chin up!

PS: The same advice goes to guys out there lookin' to get away from ditsy girls! Look for ones at your level who play with your feelings like you have none.

Optimist Prime · #24 09-26-2002, 08:05 PM

Check out the What is it with girls thread in chit chat for some of my adventures in bitchland.

Fewdfreak · #25 09-27-2002, 05:03 AM

Most college guys here are ick! Me and my roomates call the nasty-get-in-your-pants ones chotchi's... Every guy that I've met here is one, but that could be because we only meet guys at bars, and the guys that are at the bars are automatically out to get some @$$. My suitemate went to this one guys frat house that she'd been friends with before, and she turned him down when he asked her to spend the night, and he told her "I can't believe you turned me down, no girl ever turns me down. You are a freshman, you are supposed to be easy, start acting like one." She slapped him.

Then she met some guy at a bar and went back to his room, and they made out, and he took off his shirt and told her "Lets @#$!" and she was like "Okay, that really makes me want to... that's not my style." and he told her "I was just kidding, I can give it to you anyway you like." Then he passed out, and she left... A few weeks ago, I was at a bar, and some nasty came up to me, and we were dancing, and for some reason he though he could put his hands down my pants... No, I don't think so... I felt so disgusting... I squiggled out of there faster than he could turn around and molest someone else...

Where do these random nasty's get their ideas?

nyrdrms · #26 09-27-2002, 09:09 AM

They get their ideas from the girls who let them do it...and the girls that act the same way.

Optimist Prime · #27 09-27-2002, 10:36 AM

I don't like slutty girls! Well, I do. But not for to dating. Do not meet guys at parties. Meet in class. Date guy who helps you with your study group. Take him to formal. He will treat you like a gentleman like the lady you are.

CarolinaDG · #28 09-27-2002, 10:58 AM

I have a new complaint about greek guys...

Let me explain a little something really quick...
We don't have houses, we have halls. There are two different fraternities in each separate building. My boyfriend's fraternity is in the same building as the fraternity that we're doing homecoming with. There are actually three floors, the first is the lounges, which are side-by-side. We were practicing homecoming dances in the lounge last night. All right, now hopefully you can understand a little better what's up...

...I went to the top floor last night (homecoming fraternity) to use the bathroom. On my way downstairs, I ran into my boyfriend who was carrying in some liquor. He asked me what I was doing, and I said homecoming practice (which he seemed shocked about) and I asked him if he was going to the mixer (they had a mixer with tri-delt... for the record, I love the girls, and I hang out more with them socially because they mix with my boyfriend's fraternity a lot). He replied, snapping, "yeah, I live here!" I dunno where the mixer actually was, but I can pretty much guarantee that only the pre-party was on the hall. Anyway, I'm not upset that he was going to the mixer, but the fact that he snapped at me kills me. I can't decide whether this is the end, or just a fight. I hope to GOD just a fight. Anyway, mixers with other sororities... that's the hardest part about dating a greek guy.

Optimist Prime · #29 09-27-2002, 11:29 AM

Only if you're insecure about your reltaionship.