Big/Little Relationships as an Alumnae

[BabyPiNK_FL]

I love my big and talk with her regularly. I am closest with my littles. I still speak to all 5 and I frequently travel with one. I also am very close with my pledge mom as well.

[PhilTau]

Big: Assigned. Main job was to keep me from getting blackballed and to rescue me when being hazed. He got married right after I pledged. So my contact with him after pledging was very limited. I didn't really get to know him in college. Reconnected decades later. We live on opposite coasts and are very in sync politically. We communicate somewhat regularly.

Little: Assigned. My main job was to keep him from getting blackballed. Shortly after pledging, some actives got on him about wearing high water pants. He depledged before I had a chance to intervene. I have since forgotten his name.

Little sister 1: Chosen. Stayed in contact with her and other members of her family for decades. We talk regularly.

Little sister 2: Chosen. Lost contact a year after graduation.

[bevinpiphi]

My big graduated two months after I initiated. We're facebook friends....that's it. No contact there. There wasn't a whole lot of contact ever, except when she wanted to secure a position at the school I went to for elementary school and still had connections to.

My little and I are still in contact. At one point, she worked for our headquarters, and we had more contact then (I think the...constant, daily reminder of Pi Phi for Life encouraged her to reach out more). She was a bridesmaid in my wedding, and I'm invited to her COVID delayed wedding.

I suck at maintaining friendship of any kind.