Everyone: if you had the chance to go through rush again... - Page 2

CarolinaDG · #16 07-20-2002, 06:43 AM

I think that knowing what I know now I would've rushed as a freshman... or at least come up with a better reason for why I waited until my sophomore year. Also, I said some pretty stupid things... for example, in the KD room, I cussed at one point, and said that "it doesn't really matter what sorority you're in, as long as you're greek." I don't think the girl appreciated that too much. Also, I would've kept a more open mind. Going through as a sophomore, I already knew a lot of the girls and a lot of the sororities' reputations. One of the reasons I gave DG a better chance is because a Sigma Nu told me what a great sorority it was. I was also rude to one sorority (well, not blatantly, I just didn't really try to talk that much) because I was supposed to have a guaranteed bid and I didn't care about impressing them... I ended up getting cut first round. Whoops!

LeslieAGD · #17 07-20-2002, 12:43 PM

I don't think I would change anything about my rush experience if I had it to do over again. I went through as a sophomore but, if I had gone through as a freshman, I don't think I would be the same person I am today. I knew more about college and about myself.

Now, there are definitely some things I would change about my recruitment experience as an active...but that's another story!

RockChalk · #18 07-20-2002, 02:00 PM

I would have ignored my mother's advice and rushed. Maybe she was right about the whole thing all along, but if I had rushed then at least I'd know for sure instead of sitting here wondering "what if..."

33girl · #19 07-20-2002, 06:48 PM

Not a damned thing.

And for the record, this is one of the few instances in my life where I can truly say that.

dzandiloo · #20 07-20-2002, 07:10 PM

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Originally posted by 33girl
Not a damned thing. And for the record, this is one of the few instances in my life where I can truly say that.

I'm with you, 33girl. If only I could look back on all of the other things I've done in my life with such confidence....

...well, maybe I wouldn't have worn that red skirt & peach blazer to first round....(it was the 80's folks--totally acceptable then...).

TxGirl · #21 07-21-2002, 11:44 AM

I would have taken my grandmothers advise and gone through recruitment as a freshman. I had a boyfriend who didn't want me to do it and like a FOOL I listen to him.

I think it would have been interesting to see who I got invited back to as a freshman rather than an undervalued sophmore, but I KNOW that I would have choosen Alpha Xi Delta anyway. I went through looking for girl friends - I was one of those girls that had lots of guy friends in highschool. Alpha Xi was a great group - maybe not number one on campus - but number one in my heart, then and now.

When I was in the chapter and some of us would be sitting around lamenting that we didn't get to mix with such and such fraternity we would play the "if you could have gone anywhere" game. And while we all thought there was a group that we didn't get to go back to during recruitment that we would have like too, we all agreed that we wouldn't change where we pledged. It's more about the people than the name. All five bridesmaids in my wedding were Alpha Xi's - 4 from my chapter and 1 from the chapter that I advise. I never would have met any of them without Alpha Xi Delta.

Alpha Xi is the best decision I ever made - my only regret is not going through a year earlier so I could have been at home with my sisters sooner!

AlphaSigLana · #22 07-21-2002, 06:49 PM

There are so many great sororities out in the world that I would have liked to maybe have waited to see if I was going to stay at the school before rushing. Now I am transferring to UWF and wonder what could have been, but i get to help with Panhellenic which is awesome! Anyway I was such a geek during rush I'd like to change that! I hated rush, but everything else was fun!

CarolinaDG · #23 07-21-2002, 11:02 PM

Yeah, we sometimes pass around the ole "who did you pref" thing to see where everyone would've gone had they not gone DG. And, as one of the girls said the other day, "Even when you get frustrated with this chapter, you've gotta admit you love the sorority." I find out more and more things every day about DG that makes me SOOOO proud that I am one!

maggieaxid · #24 07-22-2002, 02:52 PM

i wish i wasn't so naive as to believe someone who told me that i was going to be a part of their chapter, when in fact they didn't even invite me back to second round. but i ended up where i wanted to be, and where i needed to be by preference.

maggieaxid · #25 07-22-2002, 02:53 PM

Hey CarolinaDG, check your pm box.

prophet · #26 07-22-2002, 04:20 PM

I look back, year and a half ago, and knew I mad the right choice because I did do alittle research into the history, beliefs, and etc. about the national org. As far as local org. I did not do any research on them because I know I would be told alot about them by them. So, I just went with the flow. I looked and participated in another org. but did not feel their mentality. I felt as if it was another bunch of highschool PALs of mine. They were all into the I bet your ass if you give the wrong look to us and we are the best because of our pledging. They believed highly, into hazing. To me that is bullshit. But, In short I felt I mad the best choice.
--Heath--
[B][COLOR=darkred]FKT

A Random DphiE · #27 07-22-2002, 11:17 PM

If i had to go back and do it all again...I WOULDN'T CHANGE A THING!!! All the memories, tears, smiles, and legacies produced within the past two years in my life as a DphiE are PRICELESS. This is where i belong, and this is where my heart will forever be. Never could i EVER imagine being anything but a DphiE!
*Everything Happens For a Reason*

h2oot · #28 07-22-2002, 11:56 PM

Wouldn't have changed a thing. It's amazing how rush usually works out for the best for both the PNMs and the members.

SoProud2BeAnAlphaXi · #29 07-23-2002, 06:00 PM

Fun question! I wouldn't have changed how CLUELESS I was going into it, since clues would probably have only added mental baggage to the process. I would not have declined my other preference invite -- although I am 100% certain my decision would have been the same, I should have stuck that through to the end. I wouldn't have gotten upset when XYZ chapter cut me, and instead would have realized, going in, that the fact that the very nice girl who'd been in [embarrassingly unrequited] love with my boyfriend for YEARS was an XYZ chapter member, really didn't bode well for my membership there! And when the week was over, I would have filed an infraction against my Rush Counselor, who told my entire group that Alpha Xi Delta was about to fold at a time when, in fact, the chapter was rebuilding very successfully -- we've been one of the strongest chapters on campus for several years now. Thank heaven most RCs have better panhellenic spirit than she did! All in, though, it was a wonderful rush, and it changed my life forever and for the better!

pinkyphimu · #30 07-26-2002, 06:30 PM

I have to say that on my campus, I would never have gone anywhere else. Even if I went back to college tomorrow, I would still pick Phi Mu. First of all, I knew where I wanted to be before rush started. There are only 4 sororities on my campus and we have sophomore deferment, so most people have a pretty good idea of where they want to be. I cut one the first night because one of the sisters told my boyfriend to tell me that I would definately get a bid there. I didn't like most of the sisters and I thought it was silly that this girl was making my bf be a go-between. I cut another sorority because the person I was paired with left me! Their president ended up noticing that I had been left alone and spent time talking to me. Needless to say, this was not a place I wanted to go. And the third was a group of nice girls, but I just knew I wouldn't fit in. Phi Mu was a perfect fit!