How do you feel when people who are not in your Frat/Sor. wear your letters?

[LexiKD]

Doesn't really bother me. My real sister has tons of my Shamrock shirts, but I think that's good PR for our event...

[CarolinaDG]

KD, I actually wanted to ask you about that. At our school, KD's sell their shamrock project shirts to people who participated, but I never buy one because I'd feel weird wearing another sorority's letters. Would it bother you to wear our anchorsplash shirt? And would it bother you if you saw me wearing your shamrock project shirt? Also, to Prophet, I think you're a little too hung up on this. I think you need a girlfriend so that you'll understand why guys let their girlfriends wear their letters. I don't wear other fraternities letters to "show off" I wear them b/c I don't have anything else clean.

[carnation]

I think that because of event shirts--especially the events held by 2 or more GLOs--people are much more comfortable wearing each others' letters than they were a few years ago when there weren't any event shirts. Now it doesn't seem to bother people. I noticed that our 15-year-old was wearing her sister's AOPi Rose Ball shirt and the AOPi said that on her campus, people wear each others' event shirts, just not their sewn letter shirts.

When I was a little sister, I felt weird in my Theta Xi sewn letter shirt even though my name and Pi Phi were on the back because we generally didn't wear each others' letters at all back in the day. That feeling has persisted. I have an AOPi mom shirt and you can hardly see the "mom" part at all...I feel strange in it but I wear it because of my pride!

[ChiOJenn78]

Originally posted by prophet
come on, you are just like the girls I dis-like! All you are wearing TKE letters for is to show his brothers, your as important and a little more. You have a relationship problem, don't you? Must, if that is how he shows you love; and must if you take it like that. Are you in a sorority? If so, you really have a problem if your screen name is after TKE and not your own sorority. If your not a sorority girl, which I could see possible, no wonder why you believe that to be true of a sweetheart. I could see why you have to floss your mans letters, and go around claiming a sweetheart like that, that you believe, "The meaning behind a sweetheart wearing the letters is that he is putting her up to the same (and even more) importance than the fraternity, she has become equal"(TKE209sweethrt).

Ok, I have to say that I have a small problem with these statements. First of all, I am a sweetheart for my boyfriend's fraternity. And yes, I believe that the fact that he pinned me and recommended me for Sweetheart-and I can now wear his letters occasionally-means that I am of the same importance to him as his fraternity. And, no-we don't have a relationship problem. To say that anyone has a relationship problem, b/c they think this way is asinine. And yes-I am in a sorority, so it's not like I need his letters for validation-I have my own.

However, I know that every chapter does things differently-and yours obviously does (from what you have said in your posts)-and thats cool. But I don't think it's fair to say rude things to girls like-you think you mean things to the fraternity, but you don't, etc. Just because other chapters do things differently from yours doesn't make them any better or worse-they just do things differently.

[prophet]

CarolinaDg, wtf. you talking about!? Your taking a forum idea and personal belief of mine to the heart. What you can't respect my freedom of speach, so you have to make a personal attack. Hahahaha take your lame comment and shove it, I have a girlfriend of 5yrs. Now, what? You need to watch what you write. Also, you need and everybody else who does not read what I type, to just remember, do not speculate what others mean until you clearly READ what others have wrote. In short to all you ladies who get upset on my belief on this, "wearing others letters," unless you are a sweatheart or had an activity with that other org. you should not wear the others letters; quote me on that! For you ladies who only look at one line of what I wrote to that TKE sweetheart, why not read the whole post? I said I hate when girls use being named sweetheart to floss. To claim their better than everyone else. Maybe y'all should read-the whole thing!
-Heath
P.s.
DG. your wack again. I need a "Girlfriend" hahahaha, 5yrs can you do better?

[prophet]

Originally posted by ChiOJenn78


Ok, I have to say that I have a small problem with these statements. First of all, I am a sweetheart for my boyfriend's fraternity. And yes, I believe that the fact that he pinned me and recommended me for Sweetheart-and I can now wear his letters occasionally-means that I am of the same importance to him as his fraternity. And, no-we don't have a relationship problem. To say that anyone has a relationship problem, b/c they think this way is asinine. And yes-I am in a sorority, so it's not like I need his letters for validation-I have my own.

However, I know that every chapter does things differently-and yours obviously does (from what you have said in your posts)-and thats cool. But I don't think it's fair to say rude things to girls like-you think you mean things to the fraternity, but you don't, etc. Just because other chapters do things differently from yours doesn't make them any better or worse-they just do things differently.

Your point is what, to me? You say you have a small problem with my statement, no you have a big problem if your quoting me. First off that is a message I wrote to Tke209sweethrt and not to all the sweethearts of the world. In your case, your all good but she, Tke 209sweethrt, was trying to use the sweetheart thing as a competition thing. That is not the right way to show a true sweetheart. What is funny about my post for and about Tke209sweethrt, everything I said was true. Like I told DG make sure you look and read the whole post before speaking!
-Heath
p.s.
Go ahead and make a personal attack, I love em'. Tell me like Dg I need a "girlfriend" so I can laugh at you!

[PSK480]

I have no problem with the sweetheart, lovaliers, or in my fratenities case immediate family with permission from the brother, wearing our letter if I know for a fact they won't bring us a bad name. When someone wears the letters the represent the fraternity, good or bad, wrongly or rightly. So I am very apprehesive about anyone wearing my letters. So I would be very careful of lovaliering, or for that matter letting anyone wear my letters even my immediate family b/c when in letters they are represnting me and my fraternity.

"Ziggy"
Phi Sigma Kappa
Nu Pentaton Chapter Clarion University
DAMN PROUD!!

[ChiOJenn78]

Originally posted by prophet


Your point is what, to me? You say you have a small problem with my statement, no you have a big problem if your quoting me. First off that is a message I wrote to Tke209sweethrt and not to all the sweethearts of the world. In your case, your all good but she, Tke 209sweethrt, was trying to use the sweetheart thing as a competition thing. That is not the right way to show a true sweetheart. What is funny about my post for and about Tke209sweethrt, everything I said was true. Like I told DG make sure you look and read the whole post before speaking!
-Heath
p.s.
Go ahead and make a personal attack, I love em'. Tell me like Dg I need a "girlfriend" so I can laugh at you!

Oh, ok-while I read your post, I guess I missed the general idea-I thought you were talking about all sweethearts in general-now I see what you really meant.

p.s. I don't waste time with personal attacks. And I don't really care if you have a "girlfriend" or not.

[CarolinaDG]

Well, but hopefully you wouldn't get engaged to someone who you were embarrassed to be wearing your letters in the first place (which is basically what lavaliering is saying... eventually we're getting engaged, just not yet).

[CarolinaDG]

I'm not even gonna waste my time with a response. You've contradicted yourself so many times in this point. How about you decide what exactly you think, and then make a reasonable argument, and I'll reply to that one.

[PSK480]

CarolinaDG, I know where you're coming from, and I wouldn't do that unless absolutly certain about it. But I do have some brothers who would and have. To us lavaliering is before engagment and it is kinda saying that you are promising to become engaged later. But we are all humans and make mistakes or misjudge situations like this. So anyone could make that mistake.

"Ziggy"
Phi Sigma Kappa
Nu Pentaton Chapter, Clarion University
DAMN PROUD!!

[FuzzieAlum]

Each fraternity and sorority has its own rule about who can and cannot wear their letters. You may think another group's rules are dumb (why are Fijis so protective? why does so and so give their letters to anyone?), but they are those groups' rules. It's not my business to try and change them. And I don't think its fair to say, "Well, I can't give my younger sister my shirt with my crest on it, so it's wrong of Fraternity X to do so." Let fraternity X be the judge of that.

I would only object to a non-member wearing a group's letters if I KNEW they were in violation of that group's policy. So if I see someone who isn't an AXD wearing a non-event shirt, I would object.

[KerriMarie]

your - possessive form of you meaning a person's, one's. Example: This is your t-shirt.

you're - Contraction of "you are". Example: You're an idiot if you are in college and can't grasp this simple concept.