FOR GREEKS - Biggest Mistake? - Page 2

Rho_Rho · #16 01-04-2005, 02:16 PM

Ummm I don't think I made a mistake either. I guess if I had to do something again i think I would've attended some more of the chapter events. I remember one time one of the sorors asked me to come out and support one of their events but i totally chickened out. I mean that's not really a mistake as much as something i wish i could go back in time and change.

BlueReign · #17 01-08-2005, 02:13 PM

OK I have been having an ongoing conversation with a co-worker for the past 2 years who is interested in ABC sorority. This might help some of you out there who are interested in whatever sorority/fraternity. EVEN ON THE GRAD LEVEL FOLKS SHOULD JUST SHUT THEIR MOUTHS AND BE DISCRETE AND "make yourself small" Don't talk so much. Follow this cause I'm going to give it to you in bits as I have conversated with her in the past 2years.

I walked into her classroom with my lunchbag with my letters on it. She looked at it and said "Sigma Gamma Rho", OH NO!!. I said,

"well what are you?"

"Well, it would have been ABC sorority when I was at such and such university but they were suspended. that was over 10 years ago but I will be joining a grad chapter in the area soon."

More to follow...

SeriousSigma22 · #18 01-08-2005, 06:44 PM

Sorhor Bluereign,

Wow! Why do people do that when they aren't anything and it might not even happen. I can't believe that a grown adult opened up her mouth and inserted her foot.

Serioussigma22

I'm waiting for the rest of the continuing story. . .!

TRSimon · #19 01-10-2005, 02:03 PM

I have had a woman who I KNEW didn't have nobody's degrees, nor was she in college (had dropped out a few years ago) tell me how she was on line for an NPHC sorority grad chapter (all big and bad), and I was like, uh, okay, and left it alone. I could have made some calls and busted folk out, but it wasn't that serious. I ain't seen no pins or no letters since that "line" experience, but I just let that go.

You'd be surprised how many supposed grown folk don't handle business better than that.

I'm stayin tuned to see if ol girl from BlueReign's job works out though, cause I'm messy

BlueReign · #20 01-10-2005, 02:36 PM

Continuing..

"I feel that I am ABC material and I know what they are looking for and I fit the description."

I didn't say anything. I just let her run her mouth.

A few weeks later I am in a teacher workshop and meet 3 FABULOUS women. We have lunch and have a FAB4 pow-wow and just discussing what schools we have worked in etc. The one from ABC sorority says that she knows a teacher in my building that was at her school last year and that she hopes that she is ok now cause she was very difficult and always had a complaint about something. She said she was also always bothering me about when my chapter was going to have "another line". She never bothered to ask about any events she could attend, etc.

The next day I ask the teacher that I work with if she knew the lady. Oh she piped up and said "Yes, I'm going to be joining her chapter soon!" I started to say "that aint what I heard." I just let it go for then.

Stay tuned.

SeriousSigma22 · #21 01-10-2005, 09:08 PM

Sorhors,

I'm still blown away by the attitudes and behaviors of some or shall I say a few grown women. Bluereign this story is extremely interesting please continue. . . .

Serioussigma22

PearlRuby · #22 01-10-2005, 09:44 PM

Here's another, although not as imperative...Try not to wear another sorority's colors when you're attending an event sponsored by the sorority of your choice.
I remember wearing only neutral colors at Sigma events when I was an interest. I didn't want to wear another sorority's colors, and didn't want to appear assuming and wear the Blue and Gold, so I wore a lot of black, tan, and gray. LOL! Those were the days.

Ok, so am I the only one who had this experience?

Disclaimer: I am NOT implying that an interest would be rejected from Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc. or the org of their choice based upon what color clothes they wear! In the grand scheme of things, it's not that deep.

TRSimon · #23 01-10-2005, 09:48 PM

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Originally posted by PearlRuby
Here's another, although not as imperative...Try not to wear another sorority's colors when you're attending an event sponsored by the sorority of your choice.
I remember wearing only neutral colors at Sigma events when I was an interest. I didn't want to wear another sorority's colors, and didn't want to appear assuming and wear the Blue and Gold, so I wore a lot of black, tan, and gray. LOL! Those were the days. Ok, so am I the only one who had this experience?

No, it's not just you!!! Tee hee hee

BlueReign · #24 01-12-2005, 12:32 PM

Some time after our initial conversation we're walking in the hallway after school and I asked her why did she want to be a member of ABC?

Her response: "Because they are known for being ___________ and that's what I am -- a ______________."

(insert negative stereotype in above blank)

And she was as serious as a heart attack.

Then she added, "And I don't want to do all that other stuff they have to do as members. I just want my letters."

That was last spring and I think a part of my jaw is still somewhere on that hallway floor.

We continue to talk and I ask her if she was acquainted with the few women in the building who are members of ABC. She states that she doesn't like any of them and would never talk to them about membership. I ask her if she would consider talking through with them over any misunderstandings that she had. (I had issues with one of the ladies myself).

But just for the response that she gave to my question was enough for me to think through for a whole weekend as to what my response would be cause I honestly did not know what to say to this dummy. When I responded (for those of you who know me) I wasn't as "pleasantly blunt" as I am known to be.

I'll be back later with my response cause I know all those who are reading this thread could use it!!

#25 01-12-2005, 12:35 PM

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Originally posted by preciousjeni
excuse the hijack...did they go Kappa or Theta or did they get booted altogether??

Kappa, but they were like, what the hell, ADPi cut us?!

TRSimon · #26 01-12-2005, 04:56 PM

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Originally posted by BlueReign
But just for the response that she gave to my question was enough for me to think through for a whole weekend as to what my response would be cause I honestly did not know what to say to this dummy. When I responded (for those of you who know me) I wasn't as "pleasantly blunt" as I am known to be.

I'll be back later with my response cause I know all those who are reading this thread could use it!!

Oh my goodness!!!! Now you are wrong for leaving us hanging (especially those of us who know you

)!!! I have been reading this thread and visualizing your responses, and I have been straight ROFL, Robin!!! Tee hee hee...

SeriousSigma22 · #27 01-12-2005, 07:24 PM

Sorhor Bluereign,

God willing, I'm gonna hunt you down during the Midwinter conference and I want the entire story and don't leave anything out. You know that we are all hanging and checking out the message board just to find out the end result of this woman's quest for her very strange version of sisterhood.

Serioussigma22

All I can say is that she's unbelievable!

MIDWESTDIVA · #28 01-12-2005, 08:21 PM

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Originally posted by BlueReign
Then she added, "And I don't want to do all that other stuff they have to do as members. I just want my letters."

rho4life · #29 01-14-2005, 01:56 AM

My biggest mistake was not spending enough time working on one of my projects while I was going through my process. Well, I learned quickly that the "shortcuts" weren't worth it b/c the next week I had a new project, AND I had to re-do the old one. I actually have both of the times somewhere in my home where I can see them regularly. It keeps me humble and reminds me that the short way isn't always the best way.

BlueReign · #30 01-14-2005, 11:45 AM

Got a quick break here so I'll tell you all who have been anxiously awaiting

MY RESPONSE:

What do you mean that you don't want to do any of that "stuff" they do. You just want your letters?! In the future be very, very cautious who you talk to and what you say. DON'T YOU EVER TELL A DUES PAYING ACTIVE MEMBER OF ANY GREEK LETTER ORGANIZATION THAT FOOLISHNESS! Don't you know that if I didn't like you that I could black ball you?

"Well how could you do that. You're a Sigma Gamma Rho."

And you are right about that. You don't think that we talk to each other? At any given community service event almost all of the D9 show up. We network. We have the NPHC. WE TALK!! I know members of ABC in different chapters in the area that are directly involved in membership for their respective chapters. All it takes is one phone call. The world is too small for what you said to me. And why not try to establish a positive line of communication with the members you work with first. What if you showed up at one of their chapter's events. You think they would have anything favorable to say about you concerning your interest in membership?

And further more if you are dating a man who was a member of any fraternity and you let that crap come out of your mouth it may make the difference as to whether he will take you seriously because he knows that you will never fully understand the depth of his commitment and time obligations to his fraternity.

"Well I thank you for telling me that but I don't have to pledge here in this area. It is my goal for '05. And I will make it in by '05. I'm just that determined. Even if I have to go to Texas."

And Sorors and friends who are reading this, I had nothing to say after that. The old term "6 degrees" doesn't even apply in the greek world. It's more like 2 degrees. Even in Texas. In the words of Fred Sanford -- I had to keep this to myself --- YOU BIG DUMMY!!