Guys and Girls - Page 2

LeslieAGD · #16 03-05-2002, 04:07 PM

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Originally posted by justamom
I still enjoy the company of men compared to women, but that's probably due to the fact I've never found any female friends like I had in college.

I have to agree with this. All my best friends have been guys until I joined AGD as a sophmore. I love my sisters, but there is only a handful that I can trust with anything and that I know I will actively keep in touch with when I graduate. Sometimes I find girls to be too judgemental and catty...but that's a whole 'nother thread in itself!

pinkangel · #17 03-05-2002, 04:44 PM

After reading some of the stories, I'm a little (but not much) swayed, so I'll say that it is possible. However, I really do think that 99% of the time, there is an attraction. For all of you who had friends of the opposite sex that you weren't attracted to, I can almost gaurantee that they were attracted to you and simply never said anything out of love for the friendship. It may not be the type of attraction where you're in love with the other person, it's probably a strong attraction to their personality (which I think is what creates strong friendships)
At least in my life, I've had and still have best friends who are guys, and usually I've got a crush on them and they don't know, or I find out they have a crush on me. Just because there's an attraction doesn't mean there can't be a great friendship.
Just my 2 cents

ErikaXO · #18 03-05-2002, 05:54 PM

I think it is completely feasible for men and women to be just friends and nothing more. I am not going to lie and say that I don't think a certain amount of sexual tension is sometimes unavoidable....if one or both of the pair is attractive it would be impossible for the other not to notice. Plus, you tend to be more attracted to people who you genuinely like and care for, so that ups the anty even more. BUT.....that being said, I don't think that necessarily has to ruin things. If both of the friends are involved elsewhere, it is especially easy.

I've gotta say, my husband in particular has a really hard time with this. He doesn't have a problem with the concept of he himself having strictly platonic female friends, but when it comes to me I think he would like to put me in a box and hide me from all but his little approved list of men. He is pretty liberal when it comes to his buddies, maybe because he thinks they are too scared of him or too respectful of him to mess with me....but if I talk to guys in a general, social manner it sometimes bothers him. He hates me being on GC. I don't know what he thinks I am going to do but I know it is because he knows there are guys on here. But whatever, I am a guy's girl and I get along with guys generally, and I am always going to have guy friends.

shultzz · #19 04-16-2002, 08:38 PM

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Originally posted by gphi2k
What do you think about guys and girls being friends? Do you think it's perfectly possible and feasable or do you think a 'When Harry met Sally' scenario is inevitable?

Not possible unless the other person is totally unattractive. There are times when we pretend to be friends with girls but that is just becaue we want to sleep with them. I dont think I have ever met a good looking woman that I didnt think about sleeping with.

Dionysus · #20 04-17-2002, 01:13 AM

About 95% of my friends are guys. I can trust female "friends" as far as I can throw a stick, and I can't throw a stick that far.

KSigkid · #21 04-17-2002, 08:08 AM

It's completely feasible for guys and girls to be friends...now, how that comes about can be varied.

When you think about it, there's a certain amount of attraction you have to someone of the opposite sex when you're friends with them - there's a part of them that you're attracted to, and that's what makes you want to have some sort of relationship with them. Now, the people that you actually date, you're attracted to more parts of them - more parts of their personality, appearance, whatever.

I'm friends with a bunch of girls that I don't see myself going out with - I just see us as good friends.

I'm not saying that it can't go the other way too though. My current girlfriend used to be one of my best friends at school, so it definitely could move onto something else...

Collin

KSig RC · #22 04-17-2002, 04:07 PM

My best non-fraternity friend at school is a girl - and we definitely started talking to each other b/c of an attraction, but we ended up friends and now she's like my sister. People can;t believe we've never hooked up, it's hysterical

FuzzieAlum · #23 04-17-2002, 04:29 PM

Most of my good friends are guys.

And so what if one person finds the other attractive? I mean, there's a difference between thinking, "Well, he/she is good looking and so I MIGHT do something if the opportunity ever came up," and having a hard-core lustfest for them. Face it, guys find most women attractive - but that doesn't mean they cry if they don't get to sleep with all of them!