could you give me advice?

[aggieAXO]

I definitely support my twin on this.

Originally posted by valkyrie
Ohhh, I really hate to say this, but, dude, run for the hills. It sounds like this is one of those situations where you are much more invested in having a relationship than she is, and she will keep stringing you along until she finds someone else and that will be the end of it and you will feel even worse. Staying with her and trying to work it out is only going to end in misery, and you don't need to waste your time with someone who is so insensitive to your feelings. She's not ready for what you want -- and why would *you* want to waste your time with someone who only "kinda" wants to give it another shot? Tell her not to let the door hit her in the ass on her way out... It will suck for a while, but you will get over it.

[OKsoonergirl]

SAEguy, I truly believe if you want things to work out at any point, you should disappear. I know some might see it as an immature move on your part, but i've done it before and I really believe in its effectiveness. If she feels her grasp on you is slipping, it might force her to see what she had, and she will most likely think twice about her relationship w/ you. Don't call her, don't go to her place, just be cordial and it will drive her crazy!!! I know that is hard to do to someone you love but it might help the long term... I hope you guys don't think I'm evil!!

~R

[Hootie]

To be blunt....if someone just wants to be friends it's an easy way of saying A) I don't love you anymore/right now B) I want to explore other waters or C) I am breaking up with you and this is how I keep you in my life, although nothing will ever be quite what it was because let's face it...who can go from lovers to friends in 1 day?

So, there you have it. The short and not so sweet version. Sounds to me she's a classic B....in other words she doesn't know what the hell she wants...

Hootie

[SAEguy]

Hootie i think you are def. right, she doesnt know what she wants. But I also think it is me, I broke up with her last time. I'm not sure if I originally typed this, but she told me we needed to talk which is what she said when she dumped me so I got the clever idea to break up with her before i got hurt again. This is her description of the event

The first night back was probably the worst night of my life. I finally talked to you in a real convo for the first time in a week or so on IM. It became official that we weren't dating...I knew it was coming, but not for sure. I pretty much lost it. I bawled soooo hard i almost threw up. Luckily my good friend Lolo was there for me even though she was all the way in California. She called me and told me to just calm down, things would all be ok. She told me to go to the soccer house because Speedy was there and at least I would have some one to talk to. I went over there and after about 2 hours of crying, she finally got me to stop. After that night, I realized I couldn't deal with this much stress every night, so I just had to get over the fact it wasn't going to work out.

I feel so bad for hurting her, but it was the samefor me when his firs happened. And as for hiding I wish I were that brave, I think that would make it easier for her to forget about me!

[justamom]

Sometimes, people CAN turn off their feelings. When the hurt is so deep and so intense something inside CAN die.

It sounds like this happened to her.

If there is any "spark" left, things could work out, but it would take a very...............long.................time. A lot of repair work to do but it won't happen by following her around or playing games.
You will have to LIVE the life of the man she loved and if she ever regains trust in you (Did you break her trust? Rhetorical...) you may have the smallest glimmer of a chance.

"Too much, too little, too late to try and love again."
Can't remember who sang this.

[ErikaXO]

Sweetie, she is sooooo playing you. You may think she's "IT" now but there are so many other women out there worthy of you. I just can't see how people can get so hung up on one person that they can't imagine themselves with anyone else, ever. As much as I love my husband, if things got horrible (even if I still cared for him) I would know that there are plenty of other fish out there in the sea. PLEASE cut this one loose and have some fun, and the right one will come along. Get some of your bros together, go on a fun weekend, have some drinks, meet some girls, throw away a few bucks at a strip joint, revel in your singleness, and when you get back be yourself and let nature take its course.

[Tom Earp]

SAEGUY, sent you reg e-m! Check and get back to me as you can!