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Old 02-19-2002, 09:10 AM
KarenC725 KarenC725 is offline
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Day 3:

If one more person asks me how he is, i'm going to scream and then most likely hit them. Its not their fault I know, but no one ever asked about him before this, why are they now?

Another breakdown last night. Considering we never go more than 2 days without talking, this is not so fun. Here's to hoping I don't run into him tonight when we both have class.

Have I mentioned lately that we WILL get back together
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Old 02-19-2002, 11:23 AM
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Just remember that what you are feeling is normal. You need to feel the pain and you will get through it.

Not to sound too "new age" but do something nice for yourself and make sure you are taking care of yourself too. Don't do anything destructive that you may regret down the road.

It seems to me that if you keep breaking up, maybe he's not the one? I don't know but I know it's easier said than done but at least you know NOW instead of ten years and three kids later.

Please try and feel better and please take care of yourself.
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Old 02-19-2002, 11:33 AM
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This answer would be the same if we hadn't had what I've come to refer to as "The Unfortunate Phone Incident".

Without a doubt in my mind, heart, body or soul, I know that he is the one. I guess I've known it since we met, but since we were both in relationships, we tried to hide it. I was VERY close to marrying my ex and as sad as it is to say, I never felt this way about him. I didn't see grandkids playing in the front yard with him. I definitely could see us making arrangements for who was picking the kids up on what day though.

Rob and I have a connection that though the past 7 years of being friends then dating has blown both of us away. I guess it goes beyond knowing, I feel it.

I'm not trying to say that we don't have any issues. every couple does. doesn't help that we both are bull headed and stubborn.

Thanks, everyone for listening and giving advice. Until this is resolved, I'll need it.
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Old 02-19-2002, 09:09 PM
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So you haven't spoken to him?
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Old 02-19-2002, 09:25 PM
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I know from reading your replies in this post that you said it was something you just sorta said and that possibly his response was sorta just something sudden (that you were both in bad moods).

I dated a guy for a year and a half and towards the end when things went sour, I kept asking him if he still wanted to be together. Finally one day he told me that if I didn't stop asking that, that someday he might just say "yes" without thinking.

I don't know if this is something similar, but perhaps you two just need some space because of stressful situations not relating to each other? It's so hard to say. On one hand you want answers and want to know if you're really done so you can move on, while on the other hand you might feel compelled to beg for him to reconsider. I know oh too well how you feel and what you're going through as I wrote a lot of my feelings on GC a long time ago.

And considering the extent of your relationship it's not easy to turn around and not have that "best friend" in your life anymore. I do know this much, if it's really over it will take you a while to get over it. It's only natural. They say it's like a death because sometimes you're in denial while other times you're angry.

I know I spent countless night crying, bawling, sobbing into my pillow. It seems that it's worse when you're alone and not around friends and family. So what I always did was kept myself occupied. I surrounded myself with friends and family who loved me because it helped.

It's not best to just try to forget about the situation all together because eventually you'll have to come to terms with it. But sometimes it's too much to take in at once, so deal with in doses. Do something good for yourself, spend time with friends, and try to keep a beautiful smile on your face.

Just remember we're all here for ya!
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Old 02-19-2002, 11:11 PM
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I haven't spoken with him. He's been oddly absent from AOL too. Anyway, it seems that about 9 each night is the worst for me. I haven't seen ANY of my friends since this happened either. I'm kinda upset about that but hey, if they can't do it, they can't do it.

Rob is very strong minded. If he had been thinking about this, he would have done it before any "prodding" from me. We talked about it in my class tonight (odd I know) and my prof was like "Considering all the other stress factors and the fight, it probably had very little to do with you".

Day four is almost here...
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Old 02-19-2002, 11:40 PM
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I will be the first to say that I suck at relationships, but why put your life on hold? If you really want to know how he is feeling why not ask him? If he does't want to get back together at least you know and you don't have to keep wondering. I know this is easier said than done.
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Old 02-20-2002, 08:47 AM
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Day 4 is not starting out well. This is the first time I had trouble sleeping and cried in the morning. Boys suck.

Have I mentioned that I haven't seen (let alone heard from) my friends yet?
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Old 02-21-2002, 03:14 AM
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so sorry you have not heard from your friends-maybe give one of them a call and go have dinner or something.
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Old 02-21-2002, 01:50 PM
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Hey, Karen -- how's it going today?
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Old 02-21-2002, 02:22 PM
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Cool

Well, he called last night and we talked and I went over there. We didn't argue and were actually rational. He mentioned that I hadn't called him and I said that was because he told me not to.He went over what he was going to work on to better
communicate with me what he is feeling and wanting so that I don't get confused and I don't have to read his mind. He asked me what I needed from him and I told him. The best thing is that I think for the first time (in an argument) we truly listed to what the other person was saying, wanting, and
needing. I didn't leave feeling like I had to say "talk to you (insert day here)" or see you (insert day here).

I put the necklace back on (huge relief since I kept reaching for it) and even though I got home late, was able to sleep.

Thank you to everyone who was listening and offering advice. I totally appreciate it!
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Old 02-21-2002, 02:31 PM
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I'm glad to hear that. You sound much happier, and I hope everything goes well!
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Old 02-21-2002, 03:34 PM
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girl, i just read all of your trauma...how sad! but, it sounds like things are getting better! and i'm glad i didn't read any of that until it all got worked out or else i would've been a wreck until the next day's post. i hate hearing that stuff b/c i have been through it myself, and it's just sad.

best of luck! please still keep us posted!
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Old 02-22-2002, 02:10 PM
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I hope that it all works out for youand your boyfriend. You're lucky that your situation only lasted four days.
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Old 02-22-2002, 04:12 PM
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Communication is DEFINATELY the key. Unfortunately people like to talk and never listen! I'm glad the two of you were able to work things out like adults and save a relationship that sounds like was worth saving!
Keep us posted if anything progresses or changes! I'm glad we could all be here for you too!

Have a great weekend!

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