The whole rush situation

[friendsdiva]

Ok, I had a very hard rush experience this past year. I am a freshman at a large state university. I had grown up thinking that being greek was a given when you go to college. I was very excited about this and couldn't wait to become a part of a sorority. I did not go to high school in the same state where I go to college, but I had lived there before in middle school and elementary school. I was kind of nervous since I didn't have any big connections, but I thought that my extensive resume would be enough (danceline capt., cheerleading, band, choir, show choir, theater, salutatorian, National Honor Society, etc.). I also had recs for almost all the sororities and I am a legacy to one. There are around 20 sororities at my school and many, many girls rushing, so that week was pretty crazy. I fell in love with two the sororities. One was the one my mom was in and the other I had a few connections, so I was beginning to feel more comfortable with the situation. Everything was fine until the night of third round. I had gone to my two favorites and had a great time and felt I was surely going to get invited to prefs at both houses. I got a call from my mom though, letting me know that her sorority would not be inviting me back. I was really surprised, but I tried to look on the bright side. I still had my other favorite. I was invited to prefs there and had a great time. The girl that led me around told me that the sorority really wanted me and all I had to do was to write them down and everything would be great. This, of course, made me confident that the next night I would be pledging the sorority I had hoped for. I suicided and thought nothing of it. To my great surprise, however, I received a call at around 11:00 pm from my Rho Chi informing me that I had mismatched. I was devestated. My Rho Chi came over to my dorm to comfort me. That week was one of the worst. It seemed every where I turned I saw a girl wearing a sorority shirt. I did eventually get over it. I made friends with the girls on my hall and got involved in other things on campus.
This past week was informal recruitment. I decided to participate because I still really feel like I belong in a sorority. Unfortunately, the sororities that participated were not ones that I felt fit me. It has just been a very stressful situation. I'm not sure if I should just give up or try again next fall. If anyone has any insight, please let me know.