Legacy's Parent at Pledging/Initiation?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Alumni are welcome anytime we have any sort of ritual.

Ditto for us, though in my experience, pledging ceremonies tend to be chapter-only occasions. But not initiations. It's quite common for chapters to let not only their own alums but also alums of other chapters who live reasonably close by know when initiations will be held. It is also quite common to invite other chapters in the province to initiations.

[honeychile]

Pledging is usually down with hardly any notice, so I know of only in-house legacies whose connection was at the pledge ceremony.

However, I would be absolutely horrified if the legacy connection was not welcomed to the initiation!

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by naraht

Should the chapter invite/welcome the parent to the pledging ceremony? Should the chapter invite/welcome the parent to the initiation ceremony? On both, should it be up to X?

I don't see why not. TBH, I'd be very annoyed if I had a daughter and she pledged AEPhi and I weren't invited to her pledging/initiation. I might or might not go to her pledging ceremonies (as others have said, it's a good idea for the NM to start her journey herself, bonding with her pledge sisters), but I'd absolutely want to be at initiation and have her pinned with my badge.

One of my pledge sisters has an aunt who is an AEPhi. She was invited to our initiation as a surprise. It was awesome to be there at that family moment. (AEPhi does not consider nieces to be legacies, but none of the aunt's own daughters went AEPhi, so while she did not get to share the bonds of sisterhood with any of her own daughters, she did get to share those bonds with her niece.)

My chapter also had an in-house legacy a couple of years after I became an alumna. Obviously, the older sister was at her younger sister's ceremonies - she was required to be there as she was an active member of the chapter.

[naraht]

The reason is that "X's Parent" is me. My oldest is currently rushing Alpha Phi Omega (co-ed service fraternity) at University of Maryland (about 30 minutes from hom). He didn't want to rush his first semester, but this semester seems lighter to him so he decided to rush (We found out when we wanted him to come home this weekend and wanted to get picked up after the rush event). When he was asked by brothers how he found out about Alpha Phi Omega, he told them that it was how his parents met.

If he gets a bid, neither my wife or I feel that going to pledging is quite right, but initiation would be.

Just curious as to whether most people thought that combination was about right from the chapter standpoint...

[BPDG]

Just my two cents. My daughter was a legacy and pledged my GLO, but at another school. I wrote a recommendation and thought that everyone knew I was an alumnae. However, as initiation grew closer, I didn't hear anything about attending. Friends from my alumnae group told to contact the president and ask to come. It was lovely and they kept it a surprise. So, if you don't get invited, remember to ask if you can attend. Collegians aren't always focused on that.

[Sen's Revenge]

Originally Posted by naraht

The reason is that "X's Parent" is me. My oldest is currently rushing Alpha Phi Omega (co-ed service fraternity) at University of Maryland (about 30 minutes from hom). He didn't want to rush his first semester, but this semester seems lighter to him so he decided to rush (We found out when we wanted him to come home this weekend and wanted to get picked up after the rush event). When he was asked by brothers how he found out about Alpha Phi Omega, he told them that it was how his parents met.

If he gets a bid, neither my wife or I feel that going to pledging is quite right, but initiation would be.

Just curious as to whether most people thought that combination was about right from the chapter standpoint...

I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS MOMENT SINCE 2002!!!!

[shellylou]

I was thrilled to not only attend my daughter's initiation but I also got to be involved in the ritual. I will never forget that night. I was so proud to pin my badge onto my daughter who was now my sister!

[robinseggblue]

naraht congratulations! What a special experience this will be.

[naraht]

Originally Posted by robinseggblue

naraht congratulations! What a special experience this will be.

Yup, I expect so. Note, he was up front about being a Legacy, when asked how he found out about Alpha Phi Omega, he said that that was how his parents met.