Formal recruitment as a senior?

[als463]

Originally Posted by Revanluv

That being said. The women that I have met in that chapter ARE lovely people and so far I do like them a lot. So no. I am not ungrateful. I'm very excited that I was given a bid. The tier comment really wasn't worded right and was in reference to some trepidation I felt due to what other Greeks on campus were saying about this group. But A couple catty people saying this sorority takes anyone/that's where the fat girls go, and trying to make new girls feel bad in their bid day shirts is something you guys wouldn't have known about. Even if it made me a little nervous. For those that did give advice, thank you.

Cue the, "Boo hoo! You are all mean!" We don't need you to explain what your "bottom tier" statement was about. We are all educated women and can read between the lines. Yes, you sound incredibly ungrateful no matter how you try to spin it. If you are at an SEC or Big 10 school, then going through as a senior will be pretty tough for you. Wearing certain sorority letters will not make you fat and ugly. Being fat and ugly will. A butterface is a butterface regardless of the letters. There are some beautiful women in those "bottom tier" sororities so, please take that attitude elsewhere.

[33girl]

If people didn't give advice, it's because how much your class status matters varies widely from school to school. I would have said what I said if you were a freshman, sophomore,.junior or senior.

I hope you're just using GC as a word vomit repository and have been more gracious in real life.

[navane]

Revanluv,

What is seen as bottom tier at one campus may be perceived as top tier at another campus. Further, despite the catty talk on a local campus, some sororities are well-regarded on a regional and national scale. For example, my sorority, Gamma Phi Beta, has a very strong reputation on the west coast. Between us (18 chapters), Kappa Alpha Theta (18) and Alpha Phi (23 chapters), we pretty much own California. (That's in addition to being strong on a national scale.)

A wonderful sorority extended it's hand of friendship to you. Grow where you're planted.

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by navane

Between us (18 chapters), Kappa Alpha Theta (18) and Alpha Phi (23 chapters), we pretty much own California. (That's in addition to being strong on a national scale.)

QFP.
No comment.

[Blue Skies]

Originally Posted by Revanluv

That being said. The women that I have met in that chapter ARE lovely people and so far I do like them a lot. So no. I am not ungrateful. I'm very excited that I was given a bid. The tier comment really wasn't worded right and was in reference to some trepidation I felt due to what other Greeks on campus were saying about this group. But A couple catty people saying this sorority takes anyone/that's where the fat girls go, and trying to make new girls feel bad in their bid day shirts is something you guys wouldn't have known about. Even if it made me a little nervous. For those that did give advice, thank you.

FYI, there is no sorority that takes everyone. If you feel comfortable and at home there, that is all that matters.

Be the sort of person that makes people rethink their impression about your chapter. As someone who holds/has held leadership positions on campus, you are in a position to do that. And realize that your sorority is more than your chapter. Your sorority has a proud national reputation that you are now a part of.

Tiers are ephemeral and can change over time. I saw one chapter at my alma mater go from the bottom to the top over many years. Appreciate what you have today, work hard, and let the future take care of itself.

[navane]

Originally Posted by Benzgirl

QFP.
No comment.

My comment was meant to be tongue-in-cheek.