Affiliation

[SigkapAlumWSU]

I actually have a Chi O friend that is from a different school originally. Although she likes the sisters here, she feels that another house is closer to what her sisters were like at the first campus. Like we've all said a thousand times ourselves, each chapter is going to be different. Although we are all sisters and brothers, the chapters will differ from school to school.

I think that the waiting period makes sense in this case. What if you both aren't what you are familiar with? Then what? Sometimes people are just that different.

[shadokat]

D Phi E has a "once a sister, always a sister" policy as well. We had a woman transfer to my school from Connecticut, and when she stopped by the house, it was very cool. So, we called HQs and they told us that if she wanted to be a part of our chapter, then we had to welcome her with open arms, which wasn't a problem at all. If a collegiate decides that she doesn't want to affiliate with the chapter, she has the option to go "transfer/non-continue" and go alumnae. HQs highly recommends taking one semester to get to know the new house before making a decision on affiliation, and that normally is the case. The woman we added to our chapter waited about a semester and then we added her to our roles, and did a little initiation thing for her with our chapter, even though she was initiated at her old chapter too. She loved it, and she was a great sister!

[ilovemyglo]

In Alpha Gamma Delta you have to have either the majority or 2/3 vote to affiliate with a chapter, (I can't remember although I was recruitment and membership was in my team).

We actually had a situation where a girl from a chapter in the same state transferred to our school. Her blood sister was an alum of our chapter and honestly the only reason this girl probably got into her chapter was because she was a legacy. She came around during rush workshops and talked about her alcohol problems and how she slept with so many guys. She was very unkempt and wore letters looking like a slob. She didn't have grades so she couldn't affiliate and it is a good thing because honestly she wouldn't have been allowed to affiliate because I don't think my chapter would have gotten enough votes for her. She could still do activities with us as an alum, though.

On a side note it was my sis moms sister so that made it even harder for me!

[DeltaBetaBaby]

At the end of last semester, a girl from another chapter called me because she is probably transferring to our campus next fall. As it happened, she was going to be in Champaign picking up a friend during finals week, and wanted to stop by and check out the chapter.

I was really excited about this, because we would love to have more sisters, and she had even talked about living in the chapter house this fall. She said she would visit the chapter a few times this semester so she could make a decision.

I agreed to be around the house from 12-3 one afternoon because she didn't know exactly when she would get in. Guess what? She NEVER showed up. I was furious. I have better things to do during finals week than sit around waiting to give a house tour. I tried to do her a favor, and she was totally rude.

I never heard from her again. No e-mail, no phone call, no explanation at all.

If she moves here next fall, you can believe I will vote against her affiliating.

[KarenC725]

I didn't want to give my two cents but I keep getting sucked in.

As I stated in another forum, waiting is the best idea.

In my situation, I had to be "voted" in as well. Let me give you the background. I called the chapter and arranged to visit when I went to transfer orientation. In hindsight, I think I really liked them from the beginning because I wanted to but that's another story.

So, the chapter welcomes me to almost all activities right away. I go to bid night, I go to parties, I go to dinner. I'm not allowed at chapter. Hell, I even got a little (not the best thing to ever happen to me but that's another story).

So, iniation time comes around (November) and they tell me I'm officially a member of their chapter. There were a few problems that happened and due to what boils down to them turning their backs on me and using me as a sacrificial lamb, I decide this isn't the best place.

Now, policy (as I understood it at the time)was that dues were pro-rated for the semester based on when you become a member. Mental note, this was late November. So in December (after NO ONE in the chapter would speak to me) the treasurer calls and says I owe $600 for the semester. Now, I've already dropped out.

Lots of crap happens from there that I won't get into now, but bottom line, I was voted based on numbers, not because they felt I fit in. THe once a sister thing, DID NOT hold true.

So, I don't think its an awful thing to have to wait a full semester and be kept at a distance from a lot of things.