Will Having a Rush Coach Hurt Me?

[33girl]

If the rush coach asks you to sign any sort of release form allowing the use of your name or likeness or quoting you in any media, say OH HELLZ TO THE NO. Other than that, you've gotten good advice, but never flat out lie no matter what you're advised. If the coach wants you to present yourself as, say, an athlete when you trip over your own feet, tell her she needs to find another angle.

[Jhawkie]

I would echo the statements of others.... under no circumstance should you tell anyone (even your best friends) that you are using a recruitment coach... that could spread like wildfire.

I've always wondered though, if a recruitment coach is an alumna of an NPC group, I thought that she was bound by unanimous agreements not to speak with PNM during recruitment.... am I wrong? I would just think this would be a major conflict of interest, and really unethical. I guess it would be one thing if she wasn't a member of an NPC group (but what would be the point then?). Anyone have any insight?

PS - IMO, if you want to have a style coach, who doesn't charge a flat fee, I would suggest just going to a nice department store (like Nordstrom or Neiman Marcus) and talk about your needs with their personal shopping department.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Jhawkie

I've always wondered though, if a recruitment coach is an alumna of an NPC group, I thought that she was bound by unanimous agreements not to speak with PNM during recruitment.... am I wrong?

There is no such blanket ban, nor would it make sense, given that many of us are children of NPC mothers.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by WestcoastWonder View Post
For the love of all thats holy. YES I AM IN AN NPC CHAPTER. And no, I am not my sister. If my sister knew so much about Greek Life and recruitment, i'm sure she would be in a sorority right now. I wish I would've said this to begin with if I knew you guys were gonna turn this into a witch hunt. It's not that serious.



NOW. MOVE. ON

Sorry to go all Nancy Drew on you, but you are NOT in an NPC chapter. I can look at your posts and know that with 99.99999% certainty.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by Jhawkie

I've always wondered though, if a recruitment coach is an alumna of an NPC group, I thought that she was bound by unanimous agreements not to speak with PNM during recruitment.... am I wrong?

If you read the UA, you will see that this is not in them. This is covered by each campus's recruitment rules. You'd need a copy of them to determine what the appropriate silent period is.

[Jhawkie]

Originally Posted by Titchou

If you read the UA, you will see that this is not in them. This is covered by each campus's recruitment rules. You'd need a copy of them to determine what the appropriate silent period is.

OK, yep, this makes sense. I remember that the Rho Chis were really strict during pref night up to the day of bid day about contact with members, but I guess it would vary from campus to campus.

[DubaiSis]

And full on grown-ups (clearly not an active or recently graduated alumna) have to function under a different set of rules because real life has a way of rearing its ugly head. A red flag would be member of ABC continually using ABC as a standard of excellence. I would be most happy with a coach being a member of an NPC chapter not represented at your school, but if it's a very big Greek system or she's a member of an especially dominant sorority in the south, this would not be possible. That way there would be no chance of her campaigning on behalf of her own group. But in lieu of that, she should still be working toward your best interests, not that of any particular sorority chapter.

She can be helpful and I don't want the OP to go in paranoid about hidden agendas. Just be aware that all good intentions could be lost on a coach who isn't quite as good as she thinks she is. You can see in all the back and forths that happen on some threads here that different sororities handle membership selection (even down to the importance of recs) very differently. So the "coach" with all the best intentions could give bad advice if she's too focused on trying to back-door you through membership selection, because she only knows her system. I'm all but certain that would all backfire anyway. Good advice would be on conversation skills and a wardrobe check. And maybe application/resume info if it's not too late for that. I would look for her to help you get comfortable with the rush process that can be daunting. And how to answer a series of questions you're sure to get asked and how to handle a question that completely surprises you. Except for the extremes there aren't wrong answers (it is CONVERSATION after all) but there are better choices in how to answer a seemingly innocuous question. And a good coach could role-play you through enough scenarios to get you more comfortable.

[AXOrushadvisor]

I am very involved in the recruitment process at the school I advise at. My daughter had a coach. She was more of a mentor. Never talked specifically about any chapter in general and neither did I. We all felt we knew where she would end up and she did. It was a lot of general good manner type information, what to expect and how to sort out who your going to rank and are interested in and who your not. It went on through the recruitment process and in the end my dd had a very good recruitment and preffed her 1st and 5 choice.

I think a good recruitment coach is worth their weight in gold. A lot of girls make loads of mistakes through the process and get released for them.

I would be gracious of the gift go prepared with lots of questions you can ask and hopefully it will prepare you for the best recruitment possible. Good Luck.

[Katmandu]

I served as a recruitment coach to my goddaughter, and she, and her mom, found it very helpful. Lots of conversation practice and tips, keep your options open, what to include/omit from resume, how to deal with rejection, stress, emergency essentials, digging for recs, etc. If someone is not involved as an advisor, or doesn't read a site such as this regularly, current recruitment can be daunting. I echo the cautions mentioned above. If it's about getting into Alpha Alpha TopTier, or generic recs, or becoming someone you aren't, run.