COB - Page 2

KDCat · #16 02-16-2014, 11:01 AM

Good luck, Paige93!

You're doing a good job by keeping your head up and moving on.

AZTheta · #17 02-16-2014, 11:18 AM

You are getting great advice, and you have a positive attitude. Wishing you the best!

andthen · #18 02-16-2014, 02:11 PM

I have to say through reading this post, your maturity and grace in handling this process is to be commended! You certainly are setting a great example for others. I wish you the best in this journey.

paigeh93 · #19 02-17-2014, 10:31 PM

So, went to the open house tonight for my second sorority, let's call this house ABC. My mom always tells me that things happen for a reason and I definitely believe in that because tonight, I had such a great time! There must have been a reason that XYZ didn't give me a bid because I'm so happy I got to meet the sisters at ABC. I felt like I had known them forever and it was awesome.

I got invited for coffee tomorrow, I spoke to a friend and she thinks it will probably be an interview. Keeping my fingers crossed that it goes well!

ASTalumna06 · #20 02-17-2014, 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by paigeh93

So, went to the open house tonight for my second sorority, let's call this house ABC. My mom always tells me that things happen for a reason and I definitely believe in that because tonight, I had such a great time! There must have been a reason that XYZ didn't give me a bid because I'm so happy I got to meet the sisters at ABC. I felt like I had known them forever and it was awesome.

I got invited for coffee tomorrow, I spoke to a friend and she thinks it will probably be an interview. Keeping my fingers crossed that it goes well!

This probably goes without saying, but make sure tomorrow isn't a sweatshirt and jeans kind of day. Look presentable, wear nice pants and a cute shirt/sweater, and cute shoes. Don't look extremely overdressed for class (as I imagine you'll be headed to some tomorrow), but don't look like you rolled out of bed and threw on the first thing you found.

Good luck!

pinksequins · #21 02-18-2014, 07:46 AM

Your attitude is commendable!

Have fun (it may sound like an interview but think of it as a coffee date -- an opportunity to chat with new friends outside of a party atmosphere). Best of luck to you!

paigeh93 · #22 02-21-2014, 12:06 AM

Tonight I went to ABC's coffee night (it got postponed because of some mix ups with the sisters) and I had just as good a time as I did on Monday. I talked to a bunch of sisters, they were rotating out the girls every so often so I could meet more girls. I got along with a lot of them but tonight they did ask some more meaningful questions such as "why do you want to be in a sorority?" and "what do you think you can get out of being in our sisterhood?" I was pretty prepared for these questions after reading some other Greek Chat threads. After about an hour and a half the two recruitment chairs told me thanks for coming and that they would be in contact within the next 24 hours. Before I left one of the senior girls grabbed me because apparently she's in my major and she is the head of one of the clubs I'm in! She was really nice and was telling me about all my junior year was going to entail. She even told me she would put a good word in for me with the recruitment chairs! :]

Before I left I saw the two recruitment heads talking to the table I had been sitting at so I think they were trying to get the rundown on what everyone thought of me.

Trying not to get my hopes up too much. I was invited to another coffee get together for next week by another sorority and I accepted. Trying not to put all my eggs in one basket and trying to keep an open mind.

Keeping my fingers and toes crossed that I get some feedback soon!

AOII Angel · #23 02-21-2014, 01:46 AM

Good luck! Sounds like things went really well. Fingers crossed for you!

tld221 · #24 02-21-2014, 02:09 AM

This inadvertently turned into a recruitment story thread and I'm here for it.

Rooting for OP and ABC!

DubaiSis · #25 02-21-2014, 11:29 AM

I'm glad to hear you're not putting your eggs in one basket. Hopefully this one will work but it's good to be open-minded and aware there could be an alternative ending. Good luck! It sounds like this group is great at COB and you are a well-prepared rushee.

clemsongirl · #26 02-21-2014, 12:05 PM

I am so excited to hear the results of this story!

pinksequins · #27 02-21-2014, 02:53 PM

So am I! OP, I am glad you had so much fun. I very much like that you have had a fantastic attitude. My sense is that by reading and preparing yourself, you can focus on having a good time and shining instead of wondering what is going on. My best wishes to you !!

paigeh93 · #28 02-22-2014, 01:38 AM

So, it's officially been past 24 hours and I didn't get anything from ABC. I've really been trying to have a positive attitude but after being shot down twice, I do feel a bit bummed tonight. I really loved ABC and thought it all went so well. I keep going over Monday and Thursday and can't think of what went wrong.

I have a week before my next COB event with another sorority so, guess I'll just have to take my chances there.

Thanks for all of the support, it has really helped me with this process.

AnchorAlumna · #29 02-22-2014, 02:35 AM

Please don't worry too much about it. COB events are often very, very loose and unscripted. Things change at the last minute or get postponed.

ASTalumna06 · #30 02-22-2014, 03:40 AM

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Originally Posted by paigeh93

So, it's officially been past 24 hours and I didn't get anything from ABC. I've really been trying to have a positive attitude but after being shot down twice, I do feel a bit bummed tonight. I really loved ABC and thought it all went so well. I keep going over Monday and Thursday and can't think of what went wrong.

I have a week before my next COB event with another sorority so, guess I'll just have to take my chances there.

Thanks for all of the support, it has really helped me with this process.

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Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

Please don't worry too much about it. COB events are often very, very loose and unscripted. Things change at the last minute or get postponed.

What AnchorAlumna said.

Don't panic! It's only been 24 hours. Do you talk to each one of your friends every single day? Probably not. A day is not a long enough amount of time to think that the chapter has forgotten all about you.

Maybe they were meeting with other PNMs tonight. Maybe they had a sisterhood night and decided to not think about recruitment for 48 hours. Maybe they don't plan to have any further COB events and they held membership selection meetings tonight, and they're distributing bids this weekend. And hey, it's Friday… maybe they all just did their own thing, went out to parties/bars, studied, or did whatever college students usually do on a Friday night.

I know you're freaking out because you've been turned down a couple times, but don't assume that the worst has occurred because of what's happened in the past. Keep your chin up and think positive!