Frustrated by boys - Page 2

Peaches-n-Cream · #1 01-14-2002, 02:19 AM

Yes James, we do expect you to call. I, too, have a pile of phone numbers that I have been collecting over the last year and a half. I have no idea what to do with them. P.S. I've been told that I am more than conventionally pretty.

BTW, what happened? Did he ever call?

AOPiLaLa · #2 01-14-2002, 10:07 AM

Alas, he did NOT call, so we are chalking it up to STUPID BOY SYNDROME and moving on. But guys, I am just letting you know--if you are having some serious thoughts about whether or not you like this girl or want to see her again, DON'T EVEN CALL HER IN THE FIRST PLACE. Or if you do and you realize its not meant to be, just get off the phone as soon as possible. Don't ask her what she is doing next weekend! In a girls mind, that means a future(I am not meaning like marriage--just more than a slight chance of a second meeting!). I agree with VolGirl--we do anylize EVERYTHING, but even more so when they do actually call. But anyways, I had a great weekend in spite of that, so all is well! Thanks for listening

KarenC725 · #3 01-14-2002, 10:30 AM

Yes, SBS (Stupid Boy Syndrome) is to blame. I overanalyze EVERYTHING. I guess you can chalk this one up to the not meant to be pile. Just like a bus though, another one will be along soon. Then you can tell us how he calls and gives you compliments and gifts

skip101 · #4 01-14-2002, 01:09 PM

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Originally posted by AOPiLaLa
Alas, he did NOT call, so we are chalking it up to STUPID BOY SYNDROME and moving on. But guys, I am just letting you know--if you are having some serious thoughts about whether or not you like this girl or want to see her again, DON'T EVEN CALL HER IN THE FIRST PLACE. Or if you do and you realize its not meant to be, just get off the phone as soon as possible. Don't ask her what she is doing next weekend! In a girls mind, that means a future(I am not meaning like marriage--just more than a slight chance of a second meeting!). I agree with VolGirl--we do anylize EVERYTHING, but even more so when they do actually call. But anyways, I had a great weekend in spite of that, so all is well! Thanks for listening

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I think you should call him. Guys analyze things also. He called you last minute but he did call you twice and you were busy both times, so he is probalby thinking you are not interested. When he called you the second time, I think you should have set a date right then. He definitely liked you or he wouldnt have called in the first place.

ZTAngel · #5 01-14-2002, 01:59 PM

You all keep the scraps of paper that has phone numbers on it too??? I thought I was the only one!

I keep them in a shoe box. I call it "My Ego Booster Shoe Box".

amycat412 · #6 01-14-2002, 02:09 PM

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Originally posted by skip101
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I think you should call him. Guys analyze things also. He called you last minute but he did call you twice and you were busy both times, so he is probalby thinking you are not interested. When he called you the second time, I think you should have set a date right then. He definitely liked you or he wouldnt have called in the first place.

Good Point.

if you are interested in him, why not give him a call and act like nothing's amiss and see what happens...

I am a big fan of taking things into my own hands.

valkyrie · #7 01-14-2002, 02:13 PM

I have a question. Guys, WHY get a phone number if you don't intend to call, and why say that you'll call if you're not actually going to call?

AOIIBrandi · #8 01-14-2002, 02:16 PM

I agree call him

justamom · #9 01-14-2002, 04:03 PM

Sooo many girls, sooo many numbers, what's a guy to do?

Some guys are always looking for something better to come along, so they collect these "numbers" just in case nothing better DOES come along.

I have to go along with deltaphi94 Can I call you? = I want to see you. Number please?

I'll call you later. = You will get a call at some point, but I'm not
sure when.

I'll call you. = Don't hold your breath. ber please?

They want to seem like good guys and be polite when it would be much nicer if they said "Nice meeting you, hope to see you around." Sometimes I think they feel they HAVE to ask for the number. One, to appear to be a nice guy or two, so they can tell their buds-"Hey I got her number."

Have to say it was my rule NEVER to give out my number. I wrote my name on the paper and directed them to whatever directory I
happened to be in at the time. That way if they called, I knew they were interested because it involved a little work.

deltaphi94 · #10 01-14-2002, 04:34 PM

I think justamom and I are on the same wavelength here. It seems to me, and this is just my opinion, that guys collect numbers to impress their buddies. Status is everything.... until life wakes you up.

James · #11 01-14-2002, 08:58 PM

Well a lot of times we get numbers at events involving alcohol, the world looks different when sober sometimes. I am not sure saving numbers is a status thing, I do it because I tend to be a packrat. And, I certainly save them pretty randomly.

But as for the boy, why is it solely his responsibility to call you ladies? Especially today in this so-called liberated age? Shouldn't it also be calledStupid Girl Syndrome when the girl does not put out any visible reciprocal effort? I know you ladies think sitting by the phone and being available is doing your part, but we can't see you sitting there. So we don't know if you are interested.

In this case the boy called twice and got no love. He was never called back and so has no reason really to think you are that interested. And you probably played it pretty cool on the phone also.

The one thing that is kin of sad is that he didn't call you for date, it seems he called you more to "hang out". Whatever that means. But that is probably more a factor of a break down of traditional courting patterns in this country. But that doesn't make dating any easier when there are very little rules left.

I don't know if this in your own experiences ladies. but I know a number of girls in college that have never been on any real dates since arriving. Its all some ambigious hang-out.

IT is so easy for any guy that has watched some old movies to really impress young women these days, because women don't seem to expect all that much attention to the little things from their men. Sad really. Its like a breakdown of the old rules with no replacement with new beter ones.

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Originally posted by deltaphi94
I think justamom and I are on the same wavelength here. It seems to me, and this is just my opinion, that guys collect numbers to impress their buddies. Status is everything.... until life wakes you up.

James · #12 01-14-2002, 09:08 PM

LOL, wouldn't it be ironic if we had each other's phone numbers moldering away in a shoe box? But that can't be possible, I would remember meeting a girl named Cream.

You are more than conventionally pretty eh? Well if that is a consensus, send me your number and I'll call you

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Originally posted by Cream
Yes James, we do expect you to call. I, too, have a pile of phone numbers that I have been collecting over the last year and a half. I have no idea what to do with them. P.S. I've been told that I am more than conventionally pretty.
BTW, what happened? Did he ever call?

deltaphi94 · #13 01-14-2002, 09:28 PM

If I took a guy's phone number when I was single, I used it. There was even a time or two that I went to the ends of the earth to track one down. In a couple of cases that comes to mind, we ended up dating for over 3 years. My point? Take the number if you're going to put it to use.
I was never known to keep a collection of guys' numbers, but when I did, they never collected dust. However, I can think of many times that a guy took my number to feed to his dust bunnies.

DeltaBetaBaby · #14 01-14-2002, 09:36 PM

I met a guy last night who told me he would "e-mail me." What the hell does that mean???

amycat412 · #15 01-14-2002, 09:37 PM

I've met guys who I refused to give #'s to, who then tracked me down via email.

SCARY.

But of course, the ones you WANT to call/email don't. WHY? lol