A Fashion Recruitment Story

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by Lovethesand

Don't know what is worse - the thread itself or that I read 21 pages of it. Is it wrong that I wished she had finished her thread so I knew what happened to sweet Callie even if she was make believe?

No it is not wrong, and I am still steaming that those meanies ragged her so that she flounced.

And OldOleMiss, I can't take credit for finding the thread-that was all pinkglitter.

[Lovethesand]

After I read that thread I felt as if I finally understood what "catfished" meant.

[LuvMyPNM]

Although I skimmed much of it, especially the jabs at her. Disappointed it was never finished but then again, I like imagining what could have happened. A classic for sure.

[pinkglitter]

Ok, so I was watching a video that Barcelona posted a few days ago and I noticed a picture of them at a mixer. It didn't stay up long so I'm thinking maybe this is something they just don't emphasize. It actually makes me like them more because I know that even though they go out, they push their philanthropy and academics much more. It would make me feel much better if I had to skip an event to catch up on homework or something.

[adpiucf]

Can't you ask your recruitment counselor?

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by pinkglitter

@honeychile Is this it? http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums...ad.php?t=88442

Omigosh! I was told that it had gone missing! May the catwalk of Recruitment be as good as your sleuthing skills!

[pinkglitter]

Originally Posted by honeychile

Omigosh! I was told that it had gone missing! May the catwalk of Recruitment be as good as your sleuthing skills!

Thanks! lol. My mom calls me a "Google Genius". She and my bf will search something for hours then I walk in, type in a few words, and it pops right up as the #1 link. lol

[adpiucf]

Our mixers were called "socials" and our date parties were called "date functions." Formal was "formal," but for ADPis, we always called it "Black Diamond" because our formal is "Black Diamond Ball." Occasionally, there would be a 4-way "social" at a fraternity house. A 6-way sounds insane!

[Leslie Anne]

No problem, pinkglitter. Speculating is perfectly normal at this point. Just make sure you get the facts before you make any decisions during Recruitment.

IndianaSigKap and I have very different experiences with mixers so I'd recommend finding out what's the norm for your own campus.

And finally...yes! That's the link to the story. It's well worth a read.

[IndianaSigKap]

Leslie Anne part of the differences in our experience might be semantics, too. :-) We didn't call anything mixers. We had date parties, parties, and socials. Socials were strictly just our chapter and one fraternity, but they still opened at midnight, when we bothered to have them. Not a lot of chapters had socials because it was seen as kind of snobby/elitist. The sororities who insisted on them were often the butt of jokes of the fraternities. Parties were paired events (or 4 ways or 6 ways) with guest lists. We usually had one or two official ones a month. Fraternities had open parties every weekend with guest lists. Even when you were paired with a certain fraternity for an event, it wasn't uncommon to go to other fraternities one night during the weekend.

Some campuses are very different, so yes the OP should check it out! But I did want to point out there are campuses out there that don't mind guests as long as they are friends with one group or the other.

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by IndianaSigKap

Some campuses are very different, so yes the OP should check it out! But I did want to point out there are campuses out there that don't mind guests as long as they are friends with one group or the other.

We actually didn't use the term "mixer" either. We called parties with just one fraternity and one sorority a "dessert." They were the most common type of parties on my campus and members of another sorority showing up would not have been looked well upon.

And all this time I thought that the way we did it was the way it was done everywhere. Nope! Different campuses, different traditions. I'm always learning new things on GC.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

We actually didn't use the term "mixer" either.

We used the term "mixer". The only people welcome at the mixer were members of the hosting fraternity and members of the invited sorority. But mixers usually took place preceding a party hosted by the fraternity. So the mixer might start at, say, 8pm, and at 10pm the fraternity would bust out the booze and start the actual party. At that point, anyone with a college ID could get in. (This was back in the Stone Age, when fraternities actually had open parties. )

So ... if you join sorority X, and you have a friend in sorority Y, and sorority Y is having a mixer with fraternity Z ... you wouldn't be able to tag along to the mixer, but if there's a party following the mixer, your friend in sorority Y could potentially get you on the invite list. Or, if you have a friend in fraternity Z, he could put you on the invite list.

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

We actually didn't use the term "mixer" either. We called parties with just one fraternity and one sorority a "dessert." They were the most common type of parties on my campus and members of another sorority showing up would not have been looked well upon.

And all this time I thought that the way we did it was the way it was done everywhere. Nope! Different campuses, different traditions. I'm always learning new things on GC.

I think that mixer is a generic term. Ohio State calls them TGs: Themed Gatherings. They were called TGs when I was in school; 30 years later, they still are. Typically, TGs were held on Fridays, so most non-Greeks thought it meant TGIF.

[DubaiSis]

One of the things spending 5 minutes on this site teaches you is everything you know about sorority life means about jack squat where it applies to everyone else. There are nearly as many ways to have a vibrant and successful Greek system as there ARE Greek systems.

Indiana and Iowa are pretty similar in the demographics, student population, etc. (of course, Indiana is a bit larger), but the way they handle their social calendar is COMPLETELY different than the experience I had. Ours better? Theirs better? I guess it depends on how much priority you put on parties. At Iowa there were seldom open parties and you would have been VERY odd to show up at an exchange (a social as Indiana SigKap defined it). And the multi-chapter parties weren't unheard of, but was uncommon. Like Monmouth Duo was a big one every year, but it's pretty clear who was invited to that! Ok, and their dates. The one variation there is the parties that happened in conjunction with philanthropies. The parties at the end of Derby Days or the Beta softball tournament were open parties, but I don't recall any open parties that weren't also part of a philanthropy. One result, I think, is less mixing between the sororities, and the fraternities who didn't make it onto your exchange calendar. So there's a real benefit to the system she describes. Presuming you can handle your alcohol that is

[IndianaSigKap]

I am learning a lot tonight. I just assumed that everyone had big parties (4-ways and 6 ways). Usually 6-ways were around Little 500 and you were bussed to an outside venue and you had to have 6 chapters to pay for the band and rental space. Thursday night was low key like a house party or room parties. Friday was a usually an in house DJ and Saturdays were paired parties with a band or themed with a DJ.

If we wanted to have a "social" with a fraternity, we usually had a dinner exchange. We invited 10 or so guys over for dinner, then they hosted dessert, by dessert I mean adult beverages.