Ok, being the new chapter and all. we have had so many visitors to the chapter (Theta Phi). Emmy (who is our Recruitment Specialist) told us that as a Fraternity we want to stear away from black because with all of the recent events, so many rushees were not want to return because it made them feel like they were at funerals. Now personally, I like the black. Again, I felt it was very classy. But, I have to follow what is given to me. We wore red dresses this past year. We gave the women the same basic rules that it must be attractive, not low cut (i have the same things you do and I don't want to see yours LOLOL), spaghetti straps are ok as long as your mid and lower backs are covered. Actually the different styles were very nice. It showed individualism yet were the same.
Hope this helps

Loyally,
Kate