Decided to rush last minute- a couple of questions

[CautiousSenior]

Originally Posted by SoCalGirl

FYI: Nobody asked about the ring because it falls into the forbidden Bs category.

I was just a bit surprised because it doesn't look like a traditional wedding band- my husband actually made it himself- it's hard to describe. He used files to make it out of an old nut (like the metal kind, not the delicious kind). I kind of assumed asking about it would be asked because it would be a way to figure out my relationship status without directly asking about it.

[Splash]

It's also possible that they might not have noticed it.

[CautiousSenior]

Originally Posted by Splash

It's also possible that they might not have noticed it.

That, I think, is probably the more likely situation. I thought I was prepared for the chaos that is sorority recruitment. There is really no way for someone who has never experienced it to know what to expect, regardless of how well you think you are prepared. I lost my voice, my ears are still ringing, and there wasn't enough coffee in the world to get me going this morning!

[honeychile]

I don't know how many, but some GLOs don't initiate married women, so that could have been the cause of the "heavy cuts".

Congratulations on getting through Pref - here's hoping that you get the bid of your choice!

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by honeychile

I don't know how many, but some GLOs don't initiate married women, so that could have been the cause of the "heavy cuts".

NOT trying ot stir trouble, just curious.... How do the chapters find out that the PNM is married, other than asking through the grapevine? Is that kind of question on the registration form for rush? It would be tragic for her to get a bid, only to find out later that she is ineligible to be initiated.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by thetalady

NOT trying ot stir trouble, just curious.... How do the chapters find out that the PNM is married, other than asking through the grapevine? Is that kind of question on the registration form for rush? It would be tragic for her to get a bid, only to find out later that she is ineligible to be initiated.

Seeing a wedding band? No interest in mixers? I'm not really sure.

[CautiousSenior]

Originally Posted by thetalady

NOT trying ot stir trouble, just curious.... How do the chapters find out that the PNM is married, other than asking through the grapevine? Is that kind of question on the registration form for rush? It would be tragic for her to get a bid, only to find out later that she is ineligible to be initiated.

I spent the afternoon looking on the national website for the organization I attended preference with, and I see nothing in their policies that would prohibit me from initiating. My relationship status is public on facebook (name, major, marital status, email, and employer only) so I'm sure if they've looked on facebook they are aware.

[DubaiSis]

Congratulations on a seemingly successful rush so far. The one thing that makes it easier for you is you were looking for a sisterhood, not to be in the cool house that has the best mixers on campus. When you cut that element out of the process, you see that there are great groups out there and the value in each.

There is so much going on for the sorority members that while it may seem impossible to miss a wedding ring, it could absolutely happen. But my guess is it was noticed one way or another, and they chose not to address it. And while some sororities may not allow married members, it certainly doesn't apply to everyone, and I think that's a rule to resolve the "living in" problem. I wouldn't worry about it, but if you are concerned, you can always mention it prior to the pledging ceremony. Since "boys" is one of the verboten topics, this kind of strays into touchy ground. But I would have recommended you mention it during the preference party. When you're talking about your husband, you're not exactly talking about your latest hook up last weekend.

[AZTheta]

You might not find what you are looking for (re: initiation "policies") in the public sections of the GLOs' websites.

[lovespink88]

Originally Posted by Splash

It's also possible that they might not have noticed it.

That's my guess. Maybe it's just me but I never notice that kind of thing on anyone, ever.

[GeorgiaGreek]

Originally Posted by Splash

It's also possible that they might not have noticed it.

A lot of girls just wear regular rings on that finger too, though I've always avoided it, or they might have thought it was a promise ring or something of that nature. I would never have noticed if someone was wearing a wedding ring or set unless they had a "car headlight" engagement ring (a.k.a. big honkin' diamond)

[naraht]

Originally Posted by SoCalGirl

FYI: Nobody asked about the ring because it falls into the forbidden Bs category.

Forbidden Bs?

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by naraht

Forbidden Bs?

I think it falls under "Boys"

[adpiucf]

I hope you get a bid! Please let us know how everything works out.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by naraht

Forbidden Bs?

Boys, booze, bible, and bank account.