Cut from all Chapters at UGA

[SECglitter]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Two, don't think we haven't noticed that you didn't address your gpa.

3.7 gpa because I have the Zel Miller scholarship.

[Titchou]

Quit listening to "tent talk." No one in chapter knows if they gave out snap bids except maybe two officers. And with the way they do flex lists and other things about RFM for which you have no clue, those two officers may not even know it. So please quit repeating that. I can understand not wanting to be known that you are COBing but as far as I know the national orgs of the chapters at UGA probably will insist that they do if they are eligible to.

[carnation]

If she's an entering freshman, I doubt that the issue was grades. To get into UGa as a freshman, you have to have about a 6.0 and a 3000 on your SAT plus be Mother Teresa.

[GeorgiaGreek]

If sororities saw COB as a hindrance to them, they wouldn't do it. Some choose not to, because their house is full or they would rather reach total through formal recruitment, but you won't be offered a COB if a sorority is begrudging about it. I honestly couldn't tell you who in my sorority was a COB because I don't remember and it has never mattered to any of us.

As a current senior at UGA, I can tell you that getting a bid as a sophomore is more difficult than as a freshman, but I know several girls who rushed as sophomores and got bids.
In the case there is no spring recruitment or COB:
Making friends with girls in sororities will help you tremendously, as it will put you on their radar if you go through again. However, you should not go out of your way to try and get in with a group of girl in a particular sorority, because this could hurt you. Dont' force it. But befriend the girls in your hall, in your classes, etc, and if the friendship seems to be working out, do your best to maintain it. Maybe you'll meet other girls in her house that you like and fit in with, and they'll consider that for next time. Don't try and do this with only certain sororities you think you like; Make yourself known (in a positive way) to girls in all houses. Friends in the sorority will be your biggest asset.
ETA: When you're making friends, especially those in sororities, avoid saying "I got cut from everywhere." If the subject of why you aren't in a sorority, it's much better to say that you dropped recruitment, or some other way of saying it. Don't leave anyone thinking there was/looking for a reason you were released, because there may well have not been any good reason at all. Saying "Oh I didn't really find a good connection with the houses that time" leaves it open to a number of explanations, and won't reflect badly on you.

Keep your GPA up, keep your nose clean, don't steal anyone's boyfriend, etc. Look your best, not just for the next recruitment time, but for classes and around campus. It sounds stupid and superficial, but if someone recognizes you only as "the girl who wears sweatpants every day" (not saying you do), it's not going to help you. Looking your best will only help you, and if you feel that you do look your best now, then stay that way, and if you think there are things you can improve upon (I mean like getting a good haircut or starting weight training, not a nose job, etc.) then work on it. Appearances are a minor thing in the scheme of life, but in an SEC recruitment, they bear a little more weight.

Other options to consider are non-Panhellenic sororities like Gamma Sigma Sigma (service sorority) and Sigma Alpha Omega (Christian sorority). I know girls in both, and they are awesome organizations with awesome people, as are the multicultural sororities, if you think any of these fit your style.

Being Greek also isn't everything. There are so many things to get involved with at UGA, especially as a freshman, so try those out. Not only will you get to experience some new things and build your resume, but you'll probably be able to meet some more girls in sororities and decide if it is right for you. Freshman Forum, Relay for Life, UGA Miracle, UGA Heros and major-related clubs are great places to start.

[Gingerdeltaz]

Originally Posted by GeorgiaGreek

If sororities saw COB as a hindrance to them, they wouldn't do it. Some choose not to, because their house is full or they would rather reach total through formal recruitment, but you won't be offered a COB if a sorority is begrudging about it. I honestly couldn't tell you who in my sorority was a COB because I don't remember and it has never mattered to any of us.

As a current senior at UGA, I can tell you that getting a bid as a sophomore is more difficult than as a freshman, but I know several girls who rushed as sophomores and got bids.
In the case there is no spring recruitment or COB:
Making friends with girls in sororities will help you tremendously, as it will put you on their radar if you go through again. However, you should not go out of your way to try and get in with a group of girl in a particular sorority, because this could hurt you. Dont' force it. But befriend the girls in your hall, in your classes, etc, and if the friendship seems to be working out, do your best to maintain it. Maybe you'll meet other girls in her house that you like and fit in with, and they'll consider that for next time. Don't try and do this with only certain sororities you think you like; Make yourself known (in a positive way) to girls in all houses. Friends in the sorority will be your biggest asset.
ETA: When you're making friends, especially those in sororities, avoid saying "I got cut from everywhere." If the subject of why you aren't in a sorority, it's much better to say that you dropped recruitment, or some other way of saying it. Don't leave anyone thinking there was/looking for a reason you were released, because there may well have not been any good reason at all. Saying "Oh I didn't really find a good connection with the houses that time" leaves it open to a number of explanations, and won't reflect badly on you.

Keep your GPA up, keep your nose clean, don't steal anyone's boyfriend, etc. Look your best, not just for the next recruitment time, but for classes and around campus. It sounds stupid and superficial, but if someone recognizes you only as "the girl who wears sweatpants every day" (not saying you do), it's not going to help you. Looking your best will only help you, and if you feel that you do look your best now, then stay that way, and if you think there are things you can improve upon (I mean like getting a good haircut or starting weight training, not a nose job, etc.) then work on it. Appearances are a minor thing in the scheme of life, but in an SEC recruitment, they bear a little more weight.

Other options to consider are non-Panhellenic sororities like Gamma Sigma Sigma (service sorority) and Sigma Alpha Omega (Christian sorority). I know girls in both, and they are awesome organizations with awesome people, as are the multicultural sororities, if you think any of these fit your style.

Being Greek also isn't everything. There are so many things to get involved with at UGA, especially as a freshman, so try those out. Not only will you get to experience some new things and build your resume, but you'll probably be able to meet some more girls in sororities and decide if it is right for you. Freshman Forum, Relay for Life, UGA Miracle, UGA Heros and major-related clubs are great places to start.

What a helpful and lovely young lady you are! You represent the Greeks at UGA very well.

[LatinaAlumna]

Originally Posted by GeorgiaGreek

Other options to consider are non-Panhellenic sororities like Gamma Sigma Sigma (service sorority) and Sigma Alpha Omega (Christian sorority). I know girls in both, and they are awesome organizations with awesome people, as are the multicultural sororities, if you think any of these fit your style.

I know you are trying to be helpful to OP, but MCGLOs should not be considered as an alternative for someone who was released from NPC recruitment. If OP was interested in pursuing a MCGLO, she would have taken those steps instead of signing up for NPC recruitment.

[GeorgiaGreek]

Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna

If OP was interested in pursuing a MCGLO, she would have taken those steps instead of signing up for NPC recruitment.

Or she might not have known about them? I personally know of two people who dropped from an NPC sorority and ended up in a MCGLO at UGA. It was a better fit for them, and in the case of at least one, she didn't know the second organization existed until after joining the first. Yes, dropping is sad, but I'm glad they found another home rather than just a bitter taste.
Maybe the organization you belong to looks at this differently, but there are certainly multicultural sororities at UGA that would accept someone who has been through NPC recruitment and even pledged an NPC house in the past.

Given the typical demographics of UGA, odds are this isn't even relevant, but I have no idea who the OP is or what her background is, so maybe it is an option she could pursue.

[SECglitter]

Hardofsec thank you for the kind words What is an MCGLO? Are those the black sororities? Because I'm not black.....lol (Not being racist) but I'm caucasian

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

And as you also know, many girls are released from recruitment at Alabama, who then go on to pledge sororities that are recolonizing on a campus, like Delta Gamma at Alabama.

If there must be some identifiable (negative) reason that a PNM is released from recruitment (as you have indicated), then why did your recolonizing chapter pledge them?



Surely ^this is not how you queried the girls who were released from recruitment, who subsequently pledged Delta Gamma following formal recruitment. Your chapter benefited from girls like SECglitter, who were released from rush, but who still wanted to be part of the Greek system.

I think that there are plenty of terrific girls who wind up being released -- many who do nothing specific, or negative, to cause their own release.

I thought GeorgiaGreek offered some great advice -- all the best to SECglitter.

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

I assume you were not at Alabama -- and I also assume that when your colony formed it was represented by members of all classes (not just freshmen or sophmores who went through formal recruitment that year).

Please note that I had something positive to say about girls released from recruitment -- I was not passing judgement regarding why they were released.

And yes, at Alabama, girls who are released from recruitment can be very important to the launch of a chapter new to campus (especially freshmen). They are interested in joining a sorority, obviously, as otherwise they would not have participated in recruitment.

Originally Posted by Hartofsec

Of course not. Fewer sophmores than freshmen participate in formal recruitment, and far fewer junior and seniors participate. What percent of freshmen in your colonizing class participated in formal recruitment? It is also possible that some percentage of the upperclassmen participated in formal recruitment years prior. Did you?

Nonetheless, PNMs like SECglitter, who want an opportunity to join the Greek system, can benefit a chapter new to campus. A win-win.



Because while Titchou was telling SECglitter why she was released, I couldn't ignore the irony that Titchou's own chapter benefited from released PNMs, like SECglitter, when recolonizing at Alabama.

Hopefully they were not similarly interrogated regarding their release, however.

Just. Shut. Up.

We get it. You don't like Titchou, and apparently, you don't like Delta Gamma at Alabama, either. Way to show the panhellenic love for your own school. None of these things have to do with what SECglitter wants to know.

SECglitter - I wish you all the best. Some PNMs do better with COB/informal. It's not quite so intense, and there's more of an opportunity for the sorority women to get to know you. UGA has so much going on. Get out there, get involved, and make as many friends as you can. It sounds like you have a lot to offer.

[Titchou]

LOL!

[SECglitter]

Thank you GeorgiaGreek for taking the time to write such a detailed post! Very helpful and informative; you mentioned some things I hadn't thought of.

I have already indicated that I want to be placed on the COB list, do I need to do anything else to follow up on this?

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by SECglitter

Thank you GeorgiaGreek for taking the time to write such a detailed post! Very helpful and informative; you mentioned some things I hadn't thought of.

I have already indicated that I want to be placed on the COB list, do I need to do anything else to follow up on this?

No.

[Titchou]

So, recs - check; grades - check; poise, personality, presentation, reputation -?; activities - ?

[SECglitter]

Originally Posted by Titchou

So, recs - check; grades - check; poise, personality, presentation, reputation -?; activities - ?

Actually I feel like I don't have much of a reputation at all, good or bad. I was involved in a few different clubs and sports in high school, so I talked about those a little with my rushers and asked what kinds of things she enjoys. I did feel a little nervous and maybe it showed. I kept as calm as I could but each time I walked into a house I would start thinking "OMG this is my one shot, don't blow it!" LOL.

[IndianaSigKap]

GeorgiaGreek posted some excellent advice. First, let me start by saying that I am sorry that happened to you. The best piece of advice I can offer you is to practice chatting people up. Being a good conversationalist is a good life skill to possess and it will help you in any organization you decide to join. From reading your posts, it may be that you just didn't stand out in such a large crowd. The women in the chapters have to make decisions quickly and, unfortunately, there are some women who tend to be more reserved. Some take time to warm up to strangers. Best of luck to you and enjoy your first year, it will go quickly!